I couldn't even consider having a relationship with a woman who didn't have a decent uni education, a professional career or similarly devoted pursuit, and a decent knowledge of literature/theatre. Even for a brief fling or a one-nighter, I get turned right off if they start coming across as unintelligent. I also exclude anyone who is just rabidly anti-intellectual, or doesn't see the value of literature and artistic film/theatre. I know that kind of thing shouldn't matter for a trivial fling, but I just can't help getting turned off in that situation.
As for same as / smarter than myself - I tend to find that people of a decent intellect/education have different strengths. It's not as important in a fling, but for a serious relationship I'd struggle to stay interested in someone if there wasn't ANYTHING that they were superior in intellectually.
My wife is a good case in point - I've come mainly from a humanities background, when I was a teenager I was decent enough at maths/physics to always top the school, but I haven't touched that stuff since highschool. Since then, I've been humanities-oriented - did degrees in law, philosophy and marketing, spent a couple of years as a stage actor, then a few working as a lawyer before going back to get my PhD and publish/lecture in philosophy, so I haven't really had to touch sciences for a long time. My wife, by comparison, did mathematics/engineering, works as an engineer, and its her turn to do her PhD (in maths) next (financially, it was just easier for us to alternate getting our PhDs and getting established in academia while the other one still pulls a professional income) . I find that a good match - we're both interested enough in each others' areas to get a moderate understanding of them, but still have areas where one of us is better at than the other - I just find it helps maintain that sense of 'wow, you're awesome' that you get early in a relationship.
As for same as / smarter than myself - I tend to find that people of a decent intellect/education have different strengths. It's not as important in a fling, but for a serious relationship I'd struggle to stay interested in someone if there wasn't ANYTHING that they were superior in intellectually.
My wife is a good case in point - I've come mainly from a humanities background, when I was a teenager I was decent enough at maths/physics to always top the school, but I haven't touched that stuff since highschool. Since then, I've been humanities-oriented - did degrees in law, philosophy and marketing, spent a couple of years as a stage actor, then a few working as a lawyer before going back to get my PhD and publish/lecture in philosophy, so I haven't really had to touch sciences for a long time. My wife, by comparison, did mathematics/engineering, works as an engineer, and its her turn to do her PhD (in maths) next (financially, it was just easier for us to alternate getting our PhDs and getting established in academia while the other one still pulls a professional income) . I find that a good match - we're both interested enough in each others' areas to get a moderate understanding of them, but still have areas where one of us is better at than the other - I just find it helps maintain that sense of 'wow, you're awesome' that you get early in a relationship.