(as it often goes above meaning of "not shame")
I'm understanding aspects and contexts that your hatred for sexual minorities blind you to. That is, the reappropriation of an identity that assholes keep designating as shameful. "Pride" in that context (
as opposed to your religious universalist bigotry) means "not having to feel shame for being this". It's the filling in of a deficit, to equalize it. It's the opposite of the mountain of megalomania from the top of which you intend to model the world at your sole image.
And if there is self-worth to draw from it, it's from not despising people with sexual identities different from mine, it's from being able to share the world, as equals in rights and value, with people whose sexualities and identities feel exotic and counter-intuitive to me. It's about the ability to genuinely assess whether there is something actualy toxic, evil or harmful in it, beyond knee-jerk discomfort, and overcoming this discomfort upon the intellectual realization that there is none. And by the way, if there's humility somewhere, it's also in that kind of approach to the world.
It's the opposite of your self-indulgence in hating, loathing, dehumanizing otherness and setting up yourself and your gut feelings (which, by the way, I more and more suspect you to misinterpret) as a universal model of virtue. This is megalomania, and it's typically shared and reinforced by your sect (under its own flag). If I hate you, it's not because of differences, variety and distances from me. It's because of your hatred for the people I love, and because of your hatred of differences, variety, and distances from you.
And because I'm very aware of the consequences of it. Of the historical and present responsibilities of people like you. You're the world's source of pain and evil. And you'll be until you'll manage to make the world fully homogeneous, modelled around your own little self. Until then, you'll keep fueling violence against them, preventing them to live in all the ways you can, and advocating others to prevent them to.