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Wow, OP, my girlfriend has very similar eating habits to you, I do get rather worried by it and, though its none of my business, you should give your boyfriend a little credit, he is just looking out for you, guys get a little scared when they find out their girlfriend doesn't eat. Just saying...lilmisspotatoes said:
OT: Yeah, I believe altruism to be the greatest virtue a man can display, so I try and do anything I can for those that ask me to do something for them.
You may have a smaller body that burns calories slower. I mean, that's how I eat most of the time but, when I do eat, it's normally a big meal. Not healthy but, whatever. As long as your healthy and don't turn pale (like I do if I haven't eaten in a while) or get dizzy, then your fine. Also, one more thing, I've heard that some people restrict themselves to a low-calorie diet which causes their body to change and, is supposed to make them live longer. I don't know more about that, sorry. You could probably google it though, may help you out.
OT: I'm not condoning or recommending that, just saying it exists. Also, understand that they are only trying to intervene because they care.
OT: I'm not condoning or recommending that, just saying it exists. Also, understand that they are only trying to intervene because they care.
I have similar eating habits, eating 1-3 times per day. Mainly because I wake up, eat a banana, rush to work, finish my shift, eat a late dinner, snack for the rest of the night, sleep and repeat. That generally results in two decently sized meals a day, and small snacks here and there. But everyone asks me if I've lost weight or if I ever eat. It's frustrating because I know for a fact I'm a healthy weight, and I always eat whenever I'm hungry (unless I'm working), which is more often than most people. I've got an extremely fast metabolism, I can't help it. :/
OT - I used to do a lot of things for people because they wanted or expected me to, not because I wanted to. But more recently I find myself only doing things for people if I want to, otherwise I don't even consider it.
OT - I used to do a lot of things for people because they wanted or expected me to, not because I wanted to. But more recently I find myself only doing things for people if I want to, otherwise I don't even consider it.
Yes but only because they know i cant say no.
Buying drinks and food, things like that, then others do the same and its total crap and if i say no they guilt trip me or say "But your rich!?"
No.. My parents are Upper Middle Class, I, Am dirt poor.
Then theres things like going places with people and other such crap because my mom wants me to go places, i do that for her and so she'll get off my back about it.
Buying drinks and food, things like that, then others do the same and its total crap and if i say no they guilt trip me or say "But your rich!?"
No.. My parents are Upper Middle Class, I, Am dirt poor.
Then theres things like going places with people and other such crap because my mom wants me to go places, i do that for her and so she'll get off my back about it.
I probably have the biggest one.
I didn't really realize this until recently, but I haven't been going to college for the past 4 years because I wanted to.
I'm going because my parents wanted me to.
Seriously. How fucked up is that? The last two years my grades have been slipping slowly, and I don't seem to care about academia simply because I realize that I would have just as good of a chance to be successful NOW than I did four years ago.
I realized this when my cousin graduated three weeks ago. My ENTIRE FAMILY was there to cheer her on and they were all so excited and kept telling me how they're looking forward to my graduation next year. My parents kept asking me what kind of party they should throw, and my family kept asking the same thing...
All the while I kept thinking how I really don't want to be in school anymore... And it was at that point I realized they are ten times more excited than I am about graduating.
So, going into my final year as a college student I now know that I have not been nor am I now going to college for MY benefit.
It's because my family wants me to.
5 years... Around 50 grand... Not so I can further my career, but so that my parents can say "our son is a college graduate!"
Thankfully, I'm not going to get a masters degree.
I didn't really realize this until recently, but I haven't been going to college for the past 4 years because I wanted to.
I'm going because my parents wanted me to.
Seriously. How fucked up is that? The last two years my grades have been slipping slowly, and I don't seem to care about academia simply because I realize that I would have just as good of a chance to be successful NOW than I did four years ago.
I realized this when my cousin graduated three weeks ago. My ENTIRE FAMILY was there to cheer her on and they were all so excited and kept telling me how they're looking forward to my graduation next year. My parents kept asking me what kind of party they should throw, and my family kept asking the same thing...
All the while I kept thinking how I really don't want to be in school anymore... And it was at that point I realized they are ten times more excited than I am about graduating.
So, going into my final year as a college student I now know that I have not been nor am I now going to college for MY benefit.
It's because my family wants me to.
5 years... Around 50 grand... Not so I can further my career, but so that my parents can say "our son is a college graduate!"
Thankfully, I'm not going to get a masters degree.
No, no it's fine. I would never suggest something bad on purpose.Frungy said:Okay, simple question, is your BMI (body mass index) in the normal range for your height, weight and gender. Are you reasonably healthy?
If yes then give them the finger and keep up your normal routine, it works for you and it doesn't seem to be doing any harm.
If no, particularly if your BMI is below the normal range then get your ass to the doctor right away.
Simple.
No, now you have bulemia, your breath will stink, your tooth enamel will dissolve, you'll get stomach ulcers and you'll eventually die. Lousy advice. Proud of yourself for suggesting someone commit long and painful suicide feather240? You're an asshat.feather240 said:Suggestion! Eat all food they want you too, but then just go to the bathroom, stick your finger down your throat, and gag your self! Don't you see? Everybody's happy now and your friends don't think you have anorexia anymore!
The internet is not a responsibility-free zone, and it would be a nicer and safer place if people woke up and realised that.Penguinness said:
Face-to-face it might be obvious from the person's expression or tone that it's a joke, but here there's no context or tone and someone might well take this as serious.
The person who posted the question here has unusual eating patterns, sufficient to concern her friends. You don't know if she's anorexic, and here this guy is suggesting bulemic behaviour as a replacement without any clear and obvious sign it's a joke. That's irresponsible asshattery of the first order.
If you can't see this then you need a swift kick in the ass and a lesson in acting responsibly.
Next time be a bit more clear then please. This person may be anorexic, you really don't know. All you know is that she admits to eating only twice a day and that her friends are concerned enough to recommend she go to a doctor.feather240 said:
Anorexia and bulemia nervosa are related conditions, and one can easily morph into the other.
Your suggestion was extremely irresponsible, but possibly motivated by ignorance. Next time though be more careful, and if you're joking about something serious then clearly indicate it with a [j/k] or smiley or some other obvious sign that your suggestion is not intended to be taken seriously. Better yet, don't joke about things that could end up with someone dead.
I realise I'm coming across like a bit of a nazi on this, but you don't want to jokingly write something like, "Your life sucks, just slit your wrists", and then the next day read about it in the headlines, see your post quoted, and have the Feds on your doorstep the next day.
I'm sorry that you're surrounded by idiots. Everyone has their own eating habits and I'm sorry, but the bigger problem would be if you refused to eat or if you ate way too much. I'm not a medical professional though adn I don't have the benefit of knowing exactly what you're eating so can't make a solid judgement.
I can't really come up with a story of my own.
I can't really come up with a story of my own.
Thank you... seeing that post kind of made me go 'wtf? really?'Frungy said:
I'm not anorexic, in the sense that I'm not staring into the mirror going 'omg I'm so fat, I need to lose weight, I'm not going to eat'. I simply don't find myself getting hungry on a 'normal' basis. And the funny thing is that I'm still technically obese (I'm currently a size 16, but a little less than 8 months ago I was a 24), but I keep losing weight.
According to WebMD, a person my size burns roughly 1800 calories just by existing. By doing what I do (walking anywhere from 1.5 - 3 miles a day on top of working a fairly physical job), it says I need to be taking in about 2800 calories just to MAINTAIN my weight. That's ridiculous, is it not?
All the things I do are things I'd probably do anyways.
So no, I'm not going to do something completely opposed to my nature just because of someone.
Given my lack of morals and flexible relationship with the world, of course, there are very few things I wouldn't do.
So no, I'm not going to do something completely opposed to my nature just because of someone.
Given my lack of morals and flexible relationship with the world, of course, there are very few things I wouldn't do.
Sorry for the shocker Lilmisspotatoes, it wasn't aimed at you. All I was pointing out was that in your post you didn't provide a lot of information and it was possible that, given the information you provided, you could be anorexic, and in that light some of the comments made could be incredibly irresponsible. It wasn't meant to imply that you were anorexic, merely that it was a possibility that a responsible person should consider when replying.lilmisspotatoes said:
There are many possible reasons why you could be losing weight, and I'll sketch the two big ones and then you can consider why your friends might want you to visit a doctor. I'm not on anyone's side here, just giving an opinion:
1. Metabolic rate and endocrine function
WebMD and other online services can't measure your metabolic rate. I used to eat more than a pound of chocolate a day until I was about 21, plus 4 full-sized meals, and I never put on an ounce of fat. I wasn't particularly active, I used to work out about an hour a day either doing martial arts or at gym, but my calorie count was waaaaaaay over where it should have been, in fact I should have been the size of a house.
When I turned about 25 my metabolism began to slow and now I have to really watch what I eat or I put on weight, and I have to exercise regularly or I start to get a spare-tyre.
The thing is that metabolic rate is primarily regulated by the endocrine system (brain hormones), and the chemicals that control metabolic rate are primarily controlled by the hypothalamus (and also your pituitary gland to a lesser extent). If you've experienced a change in metabolic rate then it means that something may have happened to your hypothalamus, and while that can be a perfectly normal change it could also signal something is wrong. It never hurts to get it checked.
2. Parasites
No-one really wants to think that they might have worms and it's a bit of a conversation-stopper if you say, "Hey, I discovered I've got a MONSTER tape-worm and it's going great things for my dieting!". People will tend to shuffle away and wash their hands
. However about 25% of people in the U.S. (a first-world country) have a parasite of some kind, and most of them are easily dealt with. A tape worm could also possibly account for your weight loss, and initially it would be beneficial, right up until the point where it starts to leech important nutrients from your system and eventually kills you (although this would take a LONG time). Ironically parasites are mostly very easy to get rid of and a couple of de-worming tablets will deal with it.These are just two possibilities, I'm not going to try and diagnose someone over the internet, but they are both good reasons to go into your doctor, describe what's going on, put it in context that at the moment it's actually having a beneficial health effect, and that it's your friends who are concerned. The doc will probably run some tests and eliminate the dangerous possibilities and give you and your friends some peace of mind.
Yeah a few years back I went to the doctors about my irregular sleeping patterns because several of my friends wanted me to. Got more than I bargained for there...
Also OP: maybe it's just your metabolism, have you tried eating little and often? I used to be the same as you and then found that if I broke down 1 or 2 big meals a day into... say 4 or 5 really small portions I actually ended up developing a healthy appetite, eating more and feeling a lot more energetic everyday. Hell, these days I even have breakfast.
Also OP: maybe it's just your metabolism, have you tried eating little and often? I used to be the same as you and then found that if I broke down 1 or 2 big meals a day into... say 4 or 5 really small portions I actually ended up developing a healthy appetite, eating more and feeling a lot more energetic everyday. Hell, these days I even have breakfast.
I have. It was mainly just seeing a doctor because of an accident that happened. Turns out everything was exactly like I said it was, and there was no reason for me to waste the money.