I'm a lonly bugger.

[Neko Pounce]

You really sound like you know what your talking about. Want to give me some advise on how to block out all feelings? ( Other then booze and such... Only worth temp.)

Haha, I find booze makes it worse, actually. With enough grog I end up texting her stuff about how awesome she is

Anyway. What I did was basically think through it all, and came to the conclusion that liking her when she doesn't like me only causes her and me a disservice. I mean, I did like her, sure. But me liking her was not good for her, and due to me liking her, I want to do whats best for her, which is not to like her, and be a good friend. (That sentence was confusing to write). I don't know, I'm a weird one, I can actually solve my own emotional problems with logic.

Basically, be a good friend, but if you're honest with yourself, you know romantic feelings will do neither of you any good. And if you have respect for her and respect for yourself, you don't want that. I'm not to do with supression, more acceptance. Once you've accepted it, you can be an even better friend that before because you're not held back by this shit.

Emotional problems solved with logic? My god, your a genius!
( No sarcasem intened.)

 

[Wildcard5]

Take some time to think and determine if you truely want to be involved with her romantically.

If you still want to pursue the relationship do whatever it is that builds you up; drawing, hearing your favorite music, writing, exercise, having a great gaming session. While pumped up from your favorite (or most "zen inducing") activity go to her and tell her how you feel!

If you end up not wanting to pursue your feelings (for whatever reason) just maintain the freindship you have managed to aquire. No reason to burn any bridges, right?

 

[Neko Pounce]

Emotional problems solved with logic? My god, your a genius!
( No sarcasem intened.)

I know, crazy shit right? Don't bother with the namby-pamby "find out how she feels, ask her friends, test being closer to her" etc., make a decision for yourself and what you think is best. Don't spend your time trying to get in line with others, make a plan of action and do it.

In that case. Fuck it. She can burn in hell. * Thinks evil thoughts...*

 

[Rune Kristiansen]

Problems talking to girls are easily solved by knowing what girls are. Even the ones who show up wearing a halo in your wet dreams will ultimately turn out to be ... girls. They'll stick with you while you have money; drive you nutters with their behavior, and finally swap you out for a better wallet once they've locusted all your resources.

Once you learn this, you'll start to see that girls are nothing more than easily accessible sex, and talking to them will be nothing more than an utility for getting cheaper sex than from hookers.
If you manage; keep in mind that the trick to keeping any relationship a happy one is to master the art of looking fully sincere while you apologize for not being psychic. ;-)

 

[likalaruku]

With the exception of agressive & controlling women such as myself (who likes scrawny geeky mama's boys), women generally do not respect/get turned on by men who are unassertive & lacking in confidence (& prefur muscular unpredictable shallow bad boys).

I believe that have some sort of group class where they teach men how to be more confident, both in approaching women & sucking up to the boss.

 

[Neko Pounce]

In that case. Fuck it. She can burn in hell. * Thinks evil thoughts...*

Phwoar, I thought you said you liked this girl mate

It's like everything else in live. You be a **** about it, you forget what you realy feel.

 

[TaboriHK]

Yeah. First of all. I'm british. Sorry.

YOU SHOULD BEEEEE

Anyway. I wanted to ask. How on earth do you acted so assertive and confedent around girls? I mean, I sound childish, but i've allways had problems talking to girls i have feelings for.


There's this one girl i've allways had feelings for, but shes gone out with allmost all of my mates, and i've never had the confiance to even tell her that i really like her. Thing is, shes the same age as me, but shes a bit of a whore. Ever since i've been the guy she talks to for closure, ive felt really close to her, but it's just my problem that i cant tell her...

I'm not really sure why i'm posting this. But i dont know if you guys can help.

Confidence comes from knowing what you have. It's essentially manageable arrogance. My personal experience has been that the more I feel like I'm either knowledgeable or skilled at something that I can make relevant to my life, the better I do. Also, being annoyed with girls drops them down to a more approachable level. Not that you should be a woman hater, but getting burned by what will obviously be a bad idea here may turn into a useful stepping stone for the future. The mediocrity of humanity can work wonders on unwitting self-sabotage if you let it. And then eventually if you're lucky you'll meet a girl who is actually awesome and instead of being a panicky idiot, you'll interest her.

 

[Nukey]

You like her? Ask her out and tell any other thoughts on the situation to go fuck themselves.

Trust me on this one, dude, no matter how afraid you are to ask, your confidence will get a major boost in the future once you do so.

Just do it.

 

[Neko Pounce]

With the exception of agressive & controlling women such as myself (who likes scrawny geeky mama's boys), women generally do not respect/get turned on by men who are unassertive & lacking in confidence (& prefur muscular unpredictable shallow bad boys).

I believe that have some sort of group class where they teach men how to be more confident, both in approaching women & sucking up to the boss.

Thats strange. for the first part i'm trying to work out if your puting yoursel down, Complementing your tastes, or just being honist... ( I hope the 3ed.)

And for the second part, It's funny becouse when it comes to women i am a utter failure.
When it comes to sucking up to the boss... It's to early to tell , but college tuters can fuck themself, and i tell them that, well, thereticly. Just not with those words... xD

 

[enriel]

There's no secret. If you have confidence, it shows, if you don't, it shows. Not all women are the same, so you can't think that by doing one certain thing you'll become better with women entirely.

The best plan is to be unflinchingly the same as you've always been. If you change yourself and manage to pick up a girl, then it won't last long because then the truth comes out that you're quite different than you advertised.

Unfortunately, for some people this is gonna lead to a lot of loneliness. There's certainly a bigger market out there for certain types of guys. But personally, I'd rather know that when I finally hit it off with a girl, it's not because I had to cheat the system; I was just what she was looking for.

 

[zehydra]

I'd wouldn't ask her out if you think she behaves like a whore, I mean, if she sleeps around a lot, with short-lived relationships, what's to say yours will be any different?

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

Can't help you dude, I'm in a similar boat right now. All I can say is that you need to take action, if you don't then nothing will ever happen. Ever. It's up to you. Hey, what do y'know, I could help you after all. Shame I can't take my own advice, ah wey.

I know how that is. when ever a mate asks me for advise i'm allways talking as if i'm the expert. But im just a hipocryt.

This fits right in with this kind of situation. It seems a common theme that whenever someone's having trouble with knowing how to start things, it's about having confidence of doing it more than anything else.

Upfront is the best strategy. In my opinion. Flowers and cards, chocolates or whatever else, it's all good but what really should sweeten your chances is the ability to go up, ask him/her out confidently. You can wait and learn anything you want, but until you ask her/him, nothing means anything. :3

So all you really need to do is simply ask her out. You're confident enough to talk to her so all you need to do is bite the bullet and ask.

Fuck being sure, just ask, you've got one shot at living this life so why not live it the way you want. You control your emotions, not the other way around.

I tell you what, Andrew, you bite your bullet and I'll bite mine. Deal?

 

[Thundero13]

Sorry I can't really help you out, i've got a few relationship problems of my own but if I were you i'd work up the courage to tell her.

 

[likalaruku]

With the exception of agressive & controlling women such as myself (who likes scrawny geeky mama's boys), women generally do not respect/get turned on by men who are unassertive & lacking in confidence (& prefur muscular unpredictable shallow bad boys).

I believe that have some sort of group class where they teach men how to be more confident, both in approaching women & sucking up to the boss.

Thats strange. for the first part i'm trying to work out if your puting yoursel down, Complementing your tastes, or just being honist... ( I hope the 3ed.)

And for the second part, It's funny becouse when it comes to women i am a utter failure.
When it comes to sucking up to the boss... It's to early to tell , but college tuters can fuck themself, and i tell them that, well, thereticly. Just not with those words... xD

I am unforgivingly blatant.

Well, you can always pretend she's your boss. In a way you ARE trying to get a raise out of her, har har.

 

[strangemoose]

damn that sounds just about right
EDIT: crap tried to reply to post but miss clicked sorry

 

[Neko Pounce]

odd sexual puns are odd'ly sexual... he said, like a twat.

 

[strangemoose]

that sucks been there just act confident like i do, i will be freaking out on the inside but calm on the outside

 

[Danman1]

I act natural. If I like the girl my words will naturally flow, but if I have to grasp at anything to keep the conversation running then I obviously don't like her.

 

[captain_Bubblebum]

Danman1 knows his shit.

If there are MANY moments of silence which then become awkward, purely cos neither of you have anything to say, then bail. It means you just don't click.

But if you want to just shag her then START FLIRTING!!

Seriously, flirt your ass off.

IF you want to hook up with her you just act interested in whatever she's saying and make jokes. I don't mean knock knock jokes, but perceptive jokes, like crack a comment about whatever it is she's rambling on about.

MAKE EYE CONTACT AND SMILE (not creepy stare & grin - that's fucking lame).

PUT UP WITH HER BORING CHAT - pretend you give a shit, and make a few sex jokes - shows her you have a cheeky side, which i'm guessing she's never seen before. Piece of piss and gets her thinking about sex.


DO NOT BE FAT - it makes things tricky and you don't want more unnecessary obstacles for yourself.

FLIRT.


ONE MORE THING - Dude, you already know she's a bit of a whore, right?....so......WIN!

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EDIT: I just read you're both 17....man, you're young, don't feel bad about this. It's alright if you shy away from opening up to a girl, but try this - pretend you're someone else, honestly, just act totally different from what she's known you to be, but do make some cheeky sex comments, all girls love this but practice infront of a mirror first.

A MIRROR IS YOUR FRIEND!

 

[zidine100]

Yeah. First of all. I'm british. Sorry.

oh damn, does that mean i have to apologize for being Scottish.... be proud that your british.

hell, just randomly ask her out sometime, at least this way you dont have to waste your time beating around the bush pretending to be someone your not, this strategy is quick easy and straight to the point, hell she either feels the same way about you, or is at least willing to get to know you better, or you'll stay friends (any other option is highly unlikely as shes already knows you reasonably well enough to not be an absolute cow.)

this is all without making you look like either a arrogant douche bag as some of the other instructions here would.

besides your probably still in school, being 17 and all in the uk and will be leaving soon anyways, so skrew it.

on a side note, im a total hypocryte here for suggesting this as i was in reasonably the same situation and did nothing, but ive at least proven that continuing as you are will change nothing.