"I'm Bi"

[Dethpixie]

First off, welcome to the escapist.

Second, sexuality is a gradient. It's pretty easy to say "I'm straight/gay and therefore I am only attracted to people of my opposite/same gender" but that leaves a huge gulf in the middle. Myself for example, I identify as a straight male but I am capable of seeing the attractive qualities in another man. Not only that but I have my own preference for male appearance that it (drastically) different from that perpetuated by popular culture. Because of this some may potentially consider me bisexual even though I don't think I am.

Bisexuality isn't just what is portrayed in pop culture where a person is equally attracted to both sexes and actively pursues both. It's often just people that are curious or open to experimentation. From what I've seen on this forum the average age is late teens to twenties which is really when someone is forming their sexual identity so I don't find it strange that a lot of people would say that they are bisexual. I personally know quite a few people that are bisexual/bi-curious and I don't think I've ever been romantically involved with a girl that wasn't at least bi-curious (you may make of that what you will).

Edit: Can this please be the last "How does a bisexual work?" thread?

 

[dex-dex]

Anonymity+Internet = Capability of being who you actually are.

Pretty much this. There'll be a lot of people here/on the web in general unwilling to come out in real life for whatever reason, but perfectly happy to admit to being gay/bi when they can't be called up on it in real life.

Indeed.

This is also true for being someone who you actually aren't.

When people say they are bisexual on here, I find it hard to believe they're doing it to be "cool" or edgy or anything silly like that.

I agree completely
I know many people who think that bisexuality is not real and you are either on one side or the other. never on it.

I know my parents or extended family and even a few friends would never ever accept me for being a bisexual.
I feel it does not matter if I say damn that girl is sexy and not just get a couple of weird looks of wait what? or would believe that I am just being bicurious or whatever.
I can also find other bi people who are in the same boat. which I enjoy.

See?

Damn I'm good. I covered all the bases in one fell swoop. *takes a bow*

yaay!
*applauds!*

 

[Branden Miller]

Now, i understand what you mean, i see a lot of people claiming there bi, but are usually straight with a curiosity. I can honestly say as a Bi guy that i really am Bi. As an example, i spent the entirety of my day yesterday hanging out with a gay friend at another friend birthday party. We made out at the end of the night, went home and texted the girl i plan on asking out pretty soon XD

 

[Sneeze]

I do believe (and I am in no way saying that ALL bi people are like this) that bisexuality has become something of a fashion statement. People say they are bi because its "cool" and "in" and "down with the kids" or what ever expression is hip right now. This is probably a huge minority but that does seem to be the impression I get sometimes. Then again I could be reading to far into it.

It could just be becoming more common, either directly through more people being born bi, or indirectly because more people are admitting it, due to less homophobia and such. As I've said in another thread there's seldom a black and white when it does come to sexuality and it is mostly shades of gray so we can't be sure.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Edit: Can this please be the last "How does a bisexual work?" thread?

Absolutely not! The great circle of this forum shall never end!

Anonymity+Internet = Capability of being who you actually are.

Pretty much this. There'll be a lot of people here/on the web in general unwilling to come out in real life for whatever reason, but perfectly happy to admit to being gay/bi when they can't be called up on it in real life.

Indeed.

This is also true for being someone who you actually aren't.

When people say they are bisexual on here, I find it hard to believe they're doing it to be "cool" or edgy or anything silly like that.

I agree completely
I know many people who think that bisexuality is not real and you are either on one side or the other. never on it.

I know my parents or extended family and even a few friends would never ever accept me for being a bisexual.
I feel it does not matter if I say damn that girl is sexy and not just get a couple of weird looks of wait what? or would believe that I am just being bicurious or whatever.
I can also find other bi people who are in the same boat. which I enjoy.

See?

Damn I'm good. I covered all the bases in one fell swoop. *takes a bow*

yaay!
*applauds!*

Thank you, thank you! You've been great!

 

[drisky]

In high school I felt the same way, it seemed like a lot of the bisexuals I meet had one ulterior motive or another and for saying they were, and for some it is just a phase, but sometimes people need to find themselves. Hell I've felt attracted to men before, I'm not entirely sure I could have sex with one so i don't claim to be bisexual, but I can see why so many young people think they would be.

 

[Astoria]

I don't blame you for being sceptial. I've met many 'bisexuals' and 'homosexuals' and I reckon only 1 them was legit. I think the way to be sure that someone is bi or gay is to ask them is they could actually have sex with a guy/girl. If they hesitate (or something similar) then they probably aren't. Of course that's harder over the internet but helps in real life. I know I'm actually bi and I'm sure not one of those attention seeker ones because there's only three people who know (I haven't even told my best friend). I don't think you should dwell on it though, sexuality shouldn't be a big deal.

 

[smallthemouse]

Ok, just to be clear, I figured bisexuality to mean one could have a romantic relationship with either gender freely, and preferably would have tried both before becoming all open about it, because as a straight male I can openly notice when another man could be sexually attractive, but I do not see myself ever pursuing a relationship, and would be revolted by the thought of sex with another man.

edit: i realize theres never a completely straight and completely gay person, but I have doubts about the amount of people who could freely say kiss and be aroused by both genders equally.

 

[JezebelinHell]

Anonymity+Internet = A good chance you are pretending to be something or someone you are not.

Which is also what I said.

You people are all so silly. haha

With all the G.I.R.L.s and the general attention seeking I see on the Internet on a daily/nightly basis I tend to feel it is just another form of attention seeking behavior from most people. No offense if you truly are, I would be interested in how many unbelievable ones you have run into when you have pressed them on it.
Because we all know the Internet is the bastion of honesty and truth.

Edit: Fixed screwy quote

 

[Booze Zombie]

I genuinely am, I just find some men and women attractive and I keep it simple like that.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Ok, just to be clear, I figured bisexuality to mean one could have a romantic relationship with either gender freely, and preferably would have tried both before becoming all open about it, because as a straight male I can openly notice when another man could be sexually attractive, but I do not see myself ever pursuing a relationship, and would be revolted by the thought of sex with another man.

No worries, I'm the same way. I can never imagine that situation myself.

And is it really something thats considered "cool"? Really? Is that what its come to? Jeez.

 

[smallthemouse]

Ok, just to be clear, I figured bisexuality to mean one could have a romantic relationship with either gender freely, and preferably would have tried both before becoming all open about it, because as a straight male I can openly notice when another man could be sexually attractive, but I do not see myself ever pursuing a relationship, and would be revolted by the thought of sex with another man.

No worries, I'm the same way. I can never imagine that situation myself.

And is it really something thats considered "cool"? Really? Is that what its come to? Jeez.

Not necessarily cool, but just a shock, since most people never met a bisexual and are naturally have a strong reaction to the unknown

 

[Branden Miller]

[/quote]
I agree completely
I know many people who think that bisexuality is not real and you are either on one side or the other. never on it.

I know my parents or extended family and even a few friends would never ever accept me for being a bisexual.
I feel it does not matter if I say damn that girl is sexy and not just get a couple of weird looks of wait what? or would believe that I am just being bicurious or whatever.
I can also find other bi people who are in the same boat. which I enjoy.[/quote]

Also, i think it's a helluva lot easier for girls to be bi. I don't know about you, (speaking to the internet as a whole) but alot of people seem to think i'm just a gay guy with commitment issues. Not the case, i just like both sides of the coin to an equal degree.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Anonymity+Internet = A good chance you are pretending to be something or someone you are not.

Which is also what I said.

You people are all so silly. haha

With all the G.I.R.L.s and the general attention seeking I see on the Internet on a daily/nightly basis I tend to feel it is just another form of attention seeking behavior from most people. No offense if you truly are, I would be interested in how many unbelievable ones you have run into when you have pressed them on it.
Because we all know the Internet is the bastion of honesty and truth.

Edit: Fixed screwy quote

...woah. G.I.R.L.

AMAZING. I've never seen that acronym before. haha

And of course. The internet is filled with only honest and truthful people. Lets be serious here.

 

[Dethpixie]

Edit: Can this please be the last "How does a bisexual work?" thread?

Absolutely not! The great circle of this forum shall never end!

Gah! But the gods of the search bar grow so angry! Soon we will all suffer their fiery wrath!

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Ok, just to be clear, I figured bisexuality to mean one could have a romantic relationship with either gender freely, and preferably would have tried both before becoming all open about it, because as a straight male I can openly notice when another man could be sexually attractive, but I do not see myself ever pursuing a relationship, and would be revolted by the thought of sex with another man.

No worries, I'm the same way. I can never imagine that situation myself.

And is it really something thats considered "cool"? Really? Is that what its come to? Jeez.

Not necessarily cool, but just a shock, since most people never met a bisexual and are naturally have a strong reaction to the unknown

I suppose that is a more truthful statement.

Still silly though to me.

If you want to go for shock value for attention, just drop your pants. You'll be remembered for far longer in my opinion.

 

[JezebelinHell]

And of course. The internet is filled with only honest and truthful people. Lets be serious here.

Don't forget "normal". No matter what your predilections are you can always feel "normal" here because there is always someone else to share them with.
BTW - Normal is eventually boring.

Gah! But the gods of the search bar grow so angry! Soon we will all suffer their fiery wrath!

Well fiery wrath gives me something to look forward to tonight...

 

[Dunvi]

I've been reading these forums for a while and I made an account specifically to post this cause it's kind of getting on my nerves.

I have serious doubts that all the "bisexual" posters in the "what sexuality are you?" and "what do you find attractive" kinds of threads are actually bi.

[EDITED OUT AFTER A BREATHER]

Now I have nothing against homosexuals, heterosexuals, or bisexuals, but I really wonder if you're all actually bi, or just either straight/gay and trying to make others go "Wow! A bisexual person! I wonder what that?s like!?!? What a cool person!" or gay people who are not completely ready to admit it, or just people who think they are "attracted" to everything from men, to women, to a loaf of bread, or maybe even people who want to be non-conformist super bad.

Your mouth says one thing, but your actions say another...

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums, as well as the amount of posts that begin with or mention "I'm bi" when it is not really necessary or relevant.

You know, in general society, people don't go around exclaiming their sexualities. We all talk about our "gaydar" but you know what? That's all BS. There's kids who you are completely sure are straight who fall somewhere on the gay spectrum and haven't bothered to tell you. Is there any reason to, after all? Furthermore, it's safer to admit it anonymously than in RL. I will say that I'm bi online, but in RL, when I'm asked (and I have been asked), I avoid the question. Most of the time, I stay silent, make sly little grins, or point to my boyfriend as an answer, depending on who asked.

In an anonymous forum, people ask questions that don't get asked in RL, and people answer in ways they don't in RL. It's really that simple.

This thread is not meant to offend, please don't take it that way, I?m just curious as to what you think.

Look, I get that you meant well, but your approach fails. Rather than assuming that everyone else is wrong, you might want to reconsider your own approach to your question.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Edit: Can this please be the last "How does a bisexual work?" thread?

Absolutely not! The great circle of this forum shall never end!

Gah! But the gods of the search bar grow so angry! Soon we will all suffer their fiery wrath!

The "gods" of the search bar are still trying to find the last bisexual thread. They won't be here for a long time.

And of course. The internet is filled with only honest and truthful people. Lets be serious here.

Don't forget "normal". No matter what your predilections are you can always feel "normal" here because there is always someone else to share them with.
BTW - Normal is eventually boring.

Woah woah, slow down there cowgirl. Normal? What do you think this is?! Some utopian paradise?!