Guffe said:
Chris Tian said:
Guffe said:
I've got this too pretty much.
I work out, am average smart and maybe not bad looking but most tell me my body looks at least good.
SO where's the problem?
And for all that being to much hassle; of course it might be the case for you, but i often met guys who say this because they are frustrated. As soon as you start getting successful, its actually a lot of fun to met lots of different women, most of them are quite fascinating. Again thats only my expirience.
The thing is, I don't have a problem with meeting women.
I like meeting new people and chatting and having fun, it's just that I don't understand why people are so fixated on the whole "getting laid" part of socialising.
Can't a dude in the bar chat with new people, either women, without wanting to get laid with them, or a dude, because you want to get laid with the girl standing next to the guy?
Not frustrated so to say.
And as I said in the part you snipped from my first post, I don't need a GF and I'm not really for one night stands (no idea why...) and happy with my life as it is.
I probably misunderstood you, in my experience attitudes like yours often stem from frustration and a sort of subconscious resignation, and you quotet the part "Sure, I would love to get laid" and wrote "SO where's the problem"
that kinda sounded like you would like to change that situation. If thats not the case, sorry my mistake.
As for the "need" to get laid and why so much gets centered around that. Its just that we all (at least most of us) have the basic, primal and instinctive longing for affection, love and sex. Thats just how humans tick.
If you say meeting lots (or whatever number you'd like) of beautiful women, having fun, sex and/or loving relationships with them would not at all improve your life, okay only you can know that. I just fear you might miss out on some of the greatest things in life.
But if the thought of what i'm mentioning does make you think "well couldnt hurt, might be nice", just know that, thats nothing thats reserved for some sort of social savants or flirt geniuses or movie stars.
A lot of people say stuff like: "Be who you are and do what you do and you will find the right one".
Thats all goood and well, to each his own. Let me just say, if you met 5 women each year or if you met 100 women each year, in what situation is the chance of one of them being "the right one" higher?