In Humble Request for Advice

[King_Paco]

Fuck her. People don't change.

we do change, when our existence is challenged.

When our existence is challenged? What are you, a fucking poet? People that are angry enough to do shit to little kids like him DO NOT change. They don't go through the whole "Scrooge epiphany" thing because this is the real world.

fuckkinn chill. Earth stood still lol. I for a fact know people can change, but to that extent i don't know.

 

[Labyrinth]

The "bring a friend" option's choice, along with what Nuke said for caution. Always have a way out, and never agree to meet somewhere you'd feel cornered.

 

[King_Paco]

Fuck her. People don't change.

we do change, when our existence is challenged.

When our existence is challenged? What are you, a fucking poet? People that are angry enough to do shit to little kids like him DO NOT change. They don't go through the whole "Scrooge epiphany" thing because this is the real world.

fuckkinn chill. Earth stood still lol. I for a fact know people can change, but to that extent i don't know.

I know what kinda shit he's talking about. I lived with that. With those kind of people, no they do not change. Sure, people can change on smaller scales, but we're talking something that went down for several years long ago. Now how likely are they to all of a sudden feel guilty? Not likely at all.

i'd still try and give 'em a chance. it's not like they're going to murder him because he decided to stop visiting.

 

[Acid Armageddon]

Ok. Heres the deal: I never said I would meet her, she is just planning on it. I am not seeing my father again, he left her a while ago. The older sibling is the mean one, the younger one I had no real interaction with. This is copy of what she said, names excluded, of course:


Hello there, Thanks for adding me, you have grown up a lot since that last time that i seen you. I have told (name removed) and (name removed)that you are on my page. They both would love to met with you so when your'e ready please let me know and we can set something up. glad that youre doing well keep in touch

 

[ReZerO]

the only advice i can give , is that this is a way you can completely close the chapter on this part of your life, either
a) they are the same and mean, and you will feel quite justified in leaving when you did, never having to think about it again.
or
b) they have changed and you will get a long overdue apology, and a reconnection to part of a lost childhood.

seems like a bit of a win win situation to me.

 

[Srkkl]

I would say "Fuck that, you treated me like shit."

 

[Blow_Pop]

The "bring a friend" option's choice, along with what Nuke said for caution. Always have a way out, and never agree to meet somewhere you'd feel cornered.

meet in a public place as well...

 

[BakaSmurf]

You agreed already. Swallow your pride, and live up to your word. If you're particularly nervous about the entire experience, go to a traffic-heavy area like City Halls or Courts. Malls are also functional as they have stores, people, and security everywhere.

Before you commit to a time, date, figure out your location and be aware of travel alternatives. Check for nearby subways, bus routes, parking, and taxi hubs. Once you have all routes known, you're set to get out if things go pear-shaped.

Make sure to keep everything public, in daylight, and plain sight. If you're still suspicious, make sure you arrive very early, and bring a face concealer like a newspaper or book. Sit someplace that's difficult to see, but you have a line of sight with the entrance to the meeting place. (For example, ask to meet at a cafe or diner, and sit at the store or coffee shop across the street and watch the front door.) Once you're prepared and you're feeling reasonably non-threatened, go through with your meeting.

If possible, pick the chair or meeting area closest to the closest available exit. Go just about everything as best you can. If you feel the meeting has gone wrong, politely excuse yourself. If that doesn't take, leg it. You have all of the knowledge and planning.

Of course, make sure you have plenty of spare money on subway cards, pocket change for cabs, enough for bus tickets, enough gas for a good distance, and your cell phone on you if it goes all to hell.

That's how I'd do it, if it were me.

This. Seriously, I was going to post my opinion, but this guy here said it perfectly, his plan is the smartest possible thing you can do at the moment.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Ignor them if you dont want to see them.

 

[sky14kemea]

If you want to go ahead. It all depends on how you feel, do you think they're worthy of another chance?

NoMoreSanity actually talks sense (for once... XD jk)

do you wanna go? or, do you think they deserve another chance?

its really up to you

 

[Lyri]

Go meet them once, if they've changed Huzzah cookies and cuddles, but if they're still the same well, fuck them.

 

[Torque669]

No offence to you or this family. But I think they just want money. I mean if they treated you like shit all this time but are now being nice it feels weird. I think they're just trying to get money or something like that off you.

Personally I say Ignore them. Dont deserve another chance

 

[Mekado]

I am not seeing my father again, he left her a while ago.

So, she's your EX-Stepmother ? fuck that why would you wanna get in touch with these people ?