Internet Dating...

[Mr.Pandah]

How do you feel about this? Pathetic or not? Or is it just a new approach that is acceptable nowadays? I know that when it first rolled around I thought it was sad that people had to use the internet as a means to meet new people. However, the older I got the more I thought that this was a great way to get to meet new and better people that you otherwise would be locked out from.

Would you ever think of using match.com and the like? I personally wouldn't, but I don't condemn others for using them.

 

[super_smash_jesus]

I would never use these sites myself, but I know people who have and are now quite happy with their match. I think it is more or less just a different scene to meet someone. Considering most people decide a bar is one of the only places to meet someone worth while when trying to pick up the opposite sex, the truth of the matter is the only thing a bar can introduce you to is a venereal disease and an empty wallet.

 

[sorry user name taken.]

it seems we have a lot of threads about this sort of relationship/what do you find sexy/blah blah

its getting a tad depressing and i come on here to get away from it

 

[chronobreak]

I met my wife on myspace, if that counts. She sent me a message saying I had awesome hair, I replied back and things went from there. Other dating sites though, like EHarmony or whatever, I don't know. It's kind of like they're taking options out of your hands at the same time telling you they're "narrowing the field".

 

[Mr.Pandah]

it seems we have a lot of threads about this sort of relationship/what do you find sexy/blah blah

its getting a tad depressing and i come on here to get away from it

...This isn't about relationships or what do you find sexy. It may involve the means of getting into a relationship, but thats about it.

 

[Merciless.Fire]

It's just another communication medium. Nothing wrong with it.

 

[Baby Tea]

Its pathetic to the max in my opinion, in case you are talking about peole who go on gaia or second life and meet people they've never met before and say they are their girlfriend. But if you are talking aboout match.com, its still is pretty pathetic, but not as, unless you have a good reason like you are too busy all the time, you can't meet anyone, but if you really don't have a reason its pretty pathetic.

Slightly off topic, did you seriously say 'to the max'?
Leave the 80s lingo to those who were there.

And what makes it pathetic? I would say going to a bar to 'pick up chicks' is pathetic. What if someone doesn't like the bar or club scene (And I wouldn't blame them)? How would you suggest they meet people? Not everyone is still in high school where meeting people is as easy as 4th period. With this, at least you have a better chance of finding like-minded individuals.

Nothing wrong with it.

 

[Baby Tea]

I lol'd at "80s lingo".

I believe going to a bar to pick up chicks is pretty pathetic. But I believe you should meet people face-to-face, not through your computer. You meet people by meeting them. You can't just find somebody over the computer. You meet people at work, your friend's friends, and your family's friends. My mom and dad met because their families knew each other.

What the difference between meeting someone face to face and meeting them via computer?
Why is the one superior?
There are pros and cons to both, and I can't see how the one is greater then the other. Just because it's a bit unorthodox doesn't automatically make it 'pathetic'.

 

[Bofus Teefus]

I wouldn't say pathetic. I also don't think I'd use an internet dating site for fear that the girl I've been set up with would turn out to be a boomer (L4D) as well as male. Some of us are too freaking busy to get out and meet people, so for some, it's probably a good thing.

 

[Korhal]

I've actually used EHarmony and Singlesnet for about 2 months each a while back, when I had first moved into town. Eharmony netted me a couple of dates, Singlesnet got me two... I would definitely say that it helped me feel more at "home" in Alabama (which I never would've moved to of my own accord). I quit the sites when I felt I didn't need them anymore, which didn't take them long.... but it was definitely time and money well spent.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

This is the discussion I was expecting =D Perhaps pathetic was a bit strong, but I really can't think of anything else to replace the word.

 

[Bagaloo]

I don't think its pathetic, unless you are lying extensively on your internet profile thingy.
I would say its actually more tactful (if you're being honest) than going to a bar, getting drunk and 'pulling' people until someone gives you a number.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Yes, I suppose that would be a better word...I'm not changing it though =P

 

[Korhal]

I didn't have a single case of a girl misrepresenting themselves on the sites... everyone I connected with enough to meet in person was what I expected. The only problem with dating sites is that they tend to be free or cheaper or whatever for girls, and they tend to not delete profiles that are no longer active.

For any guys out there thinking about using a site for dating, I suggest EHarmony. Because they require you to take an over an hour long survey about your personality and whatnot, most guys don't go through with it, and as a result, its one of the few sites with more women than men.... Plus they filter out all the girls you wouldn't get along with anyway (well not all, but most)... I'd say that I took a second look at at least half of the girls it sent to me.

 

[Baby Tea]

hey, we believen different things. I think meeting someone over the computer is a little strange, but I said if you have your reasons, its not bad, like having no time to meet people because of work or something, but if you use the computer just to use the computer to meet people, there is a much better way, actually meeting people face-to-face.

I know we have different views, and I don't doubt that you think meeting people over the internet is strange. What I'm saying is this: You haven't really shown or explained WHY it is so strange, nor why meeting people face to face first is superior. I'll admit they both have pros and cons, but I can't understand why you'd say one is 'superior'.

 

[Hyoscine]

I met my girlfriend on an Urbex forum, if that counts. Anyway, I'm all for online dating, but that might just be because I live in a rubbish town with very little opportunity to meet people outside of really shitty nightclubs.

 

[Bofus Teefus]

I wouldn't say pathetic. I also don't think I'd use an internet dating site for fear that the girl I've been set up with would turn out to be a boomer (L4D) as well as male. Some of us are too freaking busy to get out and meet people, so for some, it's probably a good thing.

Lol. A boomer?

Yeah, you know, 300+ pounds, covered in boils, pukes on you and attracts the infected horde. With my luck, that's who I'd be matched with, and he'd be disguised as "27yo SWF LOLOMFG" or something (I don't really know what all the letters mean in personals.) Like I said, though, I'm sure you can meet sane people who are what they say online- just not with my luck.

 

[Bofus Teefus]

Yeah, you know, 300+ pounds, covered in boils, pukes on you and attracts the infected horde. With my luck, that's who I'd be matched with, and he'd be disguised as "27yo SWF LOLOMFG" or something (I don't really know what all the letters mean in personals.) Like I said, though, I'm sure you can meet sane people who are what they say online- just not with my luck.

Lol. Hey are any of the special infected really 'datable'?

There should be a gameshow where video game characters are the people you are looking for. For example: A L4D edition.

You got your witch, tank, boomer, smoker, and hunter.

If you are a girl you would most likely choose the tank or hunter. Either way, chances are they are gonna attack you right when it cuts to commercial.

I'd have to disagree. I believe that females would most likely choose a smoker for some odd reason.

Now that I think about it, I may have dated a witch- really emotional, and if you'd so much as offered her a tissue, she'd pounce on you and tear your head off. Hmmmm.....

 

[ChaosTheory3133]

I wouldn't judge people for its no person's place to judge.
What people seem to fail to realize is technology is becoming more and more a part of our lives, to the point where it is influencing thought processes. With this the natural jump is a new venue in meeting people. So to answer OPs questions

How do you feel about this? Answered above

Pathetic or not? I don't judge people so no I don't find anyone pathetic doing this, if it feels good do it

Or is it just a new approach that is acceptable nowadays? Once again its a new age, new venues never before seen are popping up and people who are set in more traditional ways (i.e. Close minded individuals) are going to have objections. I think its acceptable but I can't speak for everyone.

Would you ever think of using match.com and the like? I haven't, I never considered doing so, but if in the hypothetical situation I could and had a desire to, I'd do it. I don't really care much about what other people think about me, but if I believe it would make me happy I would do it.

 

[SovietSecrets]

If the people using these sites can really find or think they might find happiness with another person, then by all means let them use it. I have no problems with anyone using it and if I had to use a site, then I would.