I've never understood people's problems with this. Unless you were the direct cause of the break-up (i.e. you were cheating with her, and she chose you), I think it's fair game.
Is it moral to date my friends ex?
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If your best friend is dumped by a girl it is a 6 month waiting period till she can be touched.
If he breaks up with her it?s a 6 day waiting period.
If your best friend is dumped by a girl it is a 6 month waiting period till she can be touched.
If he breaks up with her it?s a 6 day waiting period.
Since they were serious (as far as serious goes in high school) for over a year, I'd give it some time. I definitely wouldn't make a move before consulting your friend, which is kind of a variation of the old "bros before hoes" rule. If there are no awkward feelings between them, and your friend is ok with it and can handle it, that's all the green light you need.
I guess there should be a poll for this, but here's my two cents:
It depends on your relative relationships. If he's just an all-right-dude kind of friend, and she's the love of your life, go for it. If he's your heterosexual life partner, and she's just a girl you kind of like, don't do it. Anything in between, grow a pair, cowboy up, and ask him whether he's okay.
You need to decide which relationship is more important and (from there) whether you want to try to safeguard your friendship at the possible expense of the relationship. A fling isn't worth a friend, in my experience. Just remember: if you do ask, be prepared for him to say "no" and for you to have to either abide by that or automatically lose the friendship.
It depends on your relative relationships. If he's just an all-right-dude kind of friend, and she's the love of your life, go for it. If he's your heterosexual life partner, and she's just a girl you kind of like, don't do it. Anything in between, grow a pair, cowboy up, and ask him whether he's okay.
You need to decide which relationship is more important and (from there) whether you want to try to safeguard your friendship at the possible expense of the relationship. A fling isn't worth a friend, in my experience. Just remember: if you do ask, be prepared for him to say "no" and for you to have to either abide by that or automatically lose the friendship.
Morals are a personal thing. What one person thinks of as moral is going to be completely immoral to someone else. If you're comfortable dating her, then your morals say it's ok, so go for it. What anyone else thinks is, in the scheme of things, no concern of yours. Unless it's going to cost you a friendship, in which case I'd suggest thinking long and hard about it, and discussing it with your friend.
The fact you're here asking suggests to me, at least, that you view it as immoral, and are seeking our permission to break your own code. Trust your own judgement, as only you know what's going to be good for you.
Personally, I would date her, but that's mostly because I have very few morals, and slightly because none of my friends would care if I hooked up with one of their ex's, as they're ex's for a reason.
The fact you're here asking suggests to me, at least, that you view it as immoral, and are seeking our permission to break your own code. Trust your own judgement, as only you know what's going to be good for you.
Personally, I would date her, but that's mostly because I have very few morals, and slightly because none of my friends would care if I hooked up with one of their ex's, as they're ex's for a reason.
Ehh wasn't you who ruined my day was a different thread, sorry for snapping at you =)Hexenwolf said: