Is it moral to date my friends ex?

[Macgyvercas]

If he broke up with her, I see no reason why you can't go after her. He lost his chance, now it's your chance.

/Thread.

I don't think there's anything wrong about it. Some people might think it's a dick move, but those people are usually too wrapped around their moral compass

 

[Dale Cooper]

Cum on her tits, take a photo and send it to him.

See how he reacts and go from there.

 

[Yoshimota]

The Bro Code

Article 1
Bros before Hoes.
The bond between two men is stronger than the bond between a man and a woman because, on average, men are stronger than women. That's just science.

Article 87
Never sleep with your friends ex.

You can not defy the bro code bro. Let the skank go. That or try to find a instance where said bro has violated the bro code thus is no longer protected.

You sir, are a good man. I like your style.

 

[Luke-NukemTW]

I have a different question, is it moral to date your best friend's girlfriend's cousin?

 

[bug_chaser]

I'm gonna have to go with a big, honking no. At least, not if you want this guy to remain your friend. It's just a dick move and even if he really tries to be cool with her being around all the time it won't be cool and eventually you'll lose a friend that could one day be an old friend. And, since this is high school, you'll be doing all this for a girlfriend that will one day be an ex-girlfriend.

Plus, really, you wanna date the kind of girl that would do something like that? As my brother would say, there are 4,500,000,000 people on the planet-pick another one.

 

[ScarlettRage]

meh i am not really going to say anything

.. it reminds me of times i rather not think of

 

[RanD00M]

According to the Man code, you are required to ask him if it's ok for you to date her, and he is required to say that it is.

You mean the bro code.

 

[feversk]

Is it moral to date my friends ex?

"Date"? What does it mean, "date"? You mean like those dating sims?

 

[Scary_Bob]

If you want to date her, ask him. He'll appreciate the honesty and probably say yes. If not, then there's your answer.

 

[hermes]

Talk to you friend before going that way, and only do it if he is ok with it... If he really is your friend (and not "friends" in a facebook way), you should value his friendship more than a possible relationship with her.

 

[EchetusXe]

Generally I would say go for it. I'm guessing you know why they broke up and she therefore didn't do him wrong.

Your friend went out with her and must surely know her charms. As long as your not just dating her because she is good looking, if you have a genuine connection this should not stop you from following up on it.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

My "best friend" hated me for doing this. He said "friends don't do that to other friends" and how "we can't be friends if I go out with her" and shit like that. Fuck bros before hoes. If your friend can't understand that you two have feelings for eachother, then he isn't a friend deserving of your time.

yeah i agree with you, basically it's your friend being jealous and that's the only reason why people say stuff like this. they don't want other people to be happy

ok now for 2 stories

one of my friends was away out west for a couple years, he came back for another friend's wedding. he met my friend's wife for the first time, they all became friends. well they ended up getting a divorce, after they broke up, everyone remained friends. now this guy and our friend's ex-wife kept hanging out and helping one another out, after a couple years they ended up getting in a relationship and finally got married and are very happy. before they did get together all three sat down and had a talk, today they are all very good friends with one another

now for story 2

one of my best friends was dating a girl a while ago, she got very jealous and started accusing my friend and this girl of having an affair. there was a big huge fight and my friend and the girl broke up. then my friend started to date this girl he was accused of having the affair with, both will not talk to the crazy ex-gf and even if she sees my friend around she'll freak out. my friend and the girl are happily married and all of us get along great. the on going joke is that i'm more her friend than his.

that being said the whole "bros before hoes" is complete and utter bullshit. anyone that follows that is either jealous and/or immature. if you truly care about the person or did, you will want them to be happy no matter what.

so i say go for it and date her

Thank you. Thank you for talking some sense. By the way, another little detail I left out from my story was that my "best friend" dated this girl for 3 weeks. 3 weeks and he got pissy about me, 3 months later, going for this girl. Now you can probably take an assessment of the story.

 

[UpSkirtDistress]

Depends on how lng its been since they went out and how down he was/is about it. Speaking from experience.

 

[TIMESWORDSMAN]

SWEEP THE LEG!!!

 

[metalmmaniac]

ummm, i didn't wanna sift through the five pages....just ask him. tell him the situation, it shows respect for him and that you don't wanna be a dick about it

if he says 'no' then respect it and give him Hell for it later (i am sure he'll wanna date one of your ex's sometime, haha)

or he'll say yes and you're good to go, simple as that (and yes, i've had this experience)

 

[high_castle]

If you want to date her, ask him. He'll appreciate the honesty and probably say yes. If not, then there's your answer.

Seconded. I don't know how old the OP is, but the mature, adult thing to do would be to discuss it with your friend. If he's uncomfortable and you value the friendship, then let the girl go. But he might be alright with it. Or he might not be, and if you choose to pursue the girl anyway, you'll probably end that friendship.

 

[world_of_dragons]

First it's a matter of who broke up with who. And secondly I think it's your friend's attitude towards the break up.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

If he broke up with her, then it should be cool. But if she broke up with him, and is now getting together for you, he'll probably feel betrayed.

But, if he's ever broken the Bro Code, it won't protect him. Haven't read the Bro Code? Read it!

 

[Evilbunny]

The Bro Code

Article 1
Bros before Hoes.
The bond between two men is stronger than the bond between a man and a woman because, on average, men are stronger than women. That's just science.

Article 87
Never sleep with your friends ex.

You can not defy the bro code bro. Let the skank go. That or try to find a instance where said bro has violated the bro code thus is no longer protected.

This is an outdated version and you know it. The modern copy of the bro code dictates that before dating a friend's ex, you are required to ask for permission first, and he is required to give it.