Is it that hard to find a virgin?

[crudus]

Really? I can't stop finding those people. All through high school and college I only dated virgins who had never done any drugs before. I am actually really started to get annoyed by it. Do you want to trade lives?

Of course there are. Just look online. Actually, you'll probably find a lot of people on here that never did any of that in high school.

I am one of them


...I made myself sad on the inside :'(

 

[SpecklePattern]

And it hit me, every person in my class, which ranged from 9th grade to 12th grade, that everyone had drank beer illegally, smoked pot and chewed, or has had sex multiple times... except me. I could not believe it and even my teacher was not shocked in the least to hear that. He was actually agreeing with it. So basically, what I am as is, are there people who didn't illegally drink, smoke or who hadn't had sex during their high school years? ...

Agreeing and beeing a part of the croud is not the full truth. Also, what you read from the teacher as approving, might just be silence or neutral 'approval'. Teachers need to be objective in many cases to actually see what goes on in the class.

I had sex first time when I was 19 (I'm now 26) and still I regret that. Should have waited for better time. Nothing gained there. Well, story short, I support you, if that gives you something. I, for the records, think that I am highly sexual person nowadays, even without 'getting laid' when I was younger. That, is just from nature, but I respect other people as well.

It's not something people like to brag about...so yes you can find some though they might not mention it.

Sup. You're looking at a college student who hasn't done any of those things.

Though, the lack of beer drinking is because I can't digest it (celiac) and I have never even had the opportunities to either get high or get laid.

Like I said OP. "Agreeing and beeing a part of the croud is not the full truth." Here we have many smart humans who can and will think as they feel good. (Nickompoop: No one can drink all that shit, some just force it.) You are just beeing brave stating your goals. All who 'chuckled' are just crowd-pussies in my mind. No shame to express and in being yourself. Every human has opportunities, and if they don't, they can seek them. It only requires the will. On some cases, the lack of will for doing some things is not shamefull at all.

Cheers and greetings from Finland,
- Niko

 

[ThreeWords]

Yeah, I was like that too til I realized that those people aren't fun at all.

This is a fair point also; though I would venture to suggest that the OP would well deserve such depressing company

 

[Rawne1980]

First time I got drunk I was 11.

Lost my virginity at 12.

I do smoke but i've never touched pot or any other "illegal" substance.

Throughout the course of my 31 years on this planet to date I have only met 1 virgin who isn't one of my kids (my kids will remain virgins until they turn 40 or I die whichever comes latest). She was 18 and we dated for a short while (I was 17 at the time). She was waiting for marriage until she had sex but she did all the other things (oral and the like).

I've met many lasses but she really was the only virgin and I have to admit I respected her views. It wasn't just the waiting for marriage part she just didn't want to lose her virginity in a meaningless way.

 

[Mortier]

I sort of get what you mean.

No you don't.

Needless to say, I'm a virgin myself (age 20).

And this is why.

People who don't know what sex is actually like are not in a position to decide on the cleanliness of stuff they're in no way knowledgeable of.

This isn't what I was getting at, but whatever. Just reaffirms that I have a hard time speaking my mind and making clear what I wanna say.

 

[Victor Cross]

I'm in 11th grade. I'm a virgin. I don't drink or smoke and I never have, and I'm proud of it. I'm also a dude.

It's hard to find a virgin, but it's definitely possible to find a girl who has had sex before (or some variation of it) who doesn't drink or smoke. You're better off with that one. Every girl (and guy) is flawed. If you can find a partner with flaws you can get past easily, than the fact that she's not a virgin (or whatever else the problem may be) won't bother you in the least.

Good for you by the way. I respect your moral values. Don't let High School douchebags change that, even though the feeling of isolation REALLY sucks (Trust me, I know all about that).

 

[Joseph Harrison]

Something similar had happened to me just a few months ago
I was a counselor at a summer camp and me and fellow counselors all ages 15-17 were playing never have I ever. And after a few rounds it turned out that I was the only one who had not done any drugs and every single person had at least gotten to third base. The Second part was not that suprising but the first part blew me away because none of us were of legal age and we were responsible for children. I don't want to sound judgemental but I was shocked.

 

[LightspeedJack]

On the internet nope, in real life yes. I'm 18 and a virgin. I have smoked pot and gotten drunk many times. I also have self loathing. Isn't the internet great?

 

[Fredvdp]

I did lots of underage drinking but where I live people often just ingore the legal drinking age (which is 16). I know few people who didn't drink before the age of 16 and in fact the only person I can think of never drinks alcohol.

 

[Daveman]

... why would you want to date only virgins? That's weird.

I drink a lot now and did drink occasionally at parties when I was like 16. I also smoke when I'm drunk. I'm a virgin though so meh. A guy told me the other day that the average age people lose their virginity is actually about 18 so it can't be that hard to find one.

First time I got drunk I was 11.

Lost my virginity at 12.

I can't help but notice the Liverpool avatar as well... You fulfill the stereotype wonderfully.

 

[Kuroneko97]

I'm...fourteen. I've never done any drugs or drank, although I'd be lying if I said I've never though of what marijuana or beer tastes like (the difference? I don't grab the blunt).

The reason I predict I will remain a virgin until college is because I have this...problem. I have a bit of trouble getting the opposite gender interested in me romantically; translation, I'm a nerd on so many levels.

I would say your standards are rather high, although they are similar to mine. You should consider how much you love this person before you find out about these things, unless you find out about them first. But still give them a chance; you never know. Perhaps the girl who's fucked 20 guys and does a little crack every morning will devote herself to you, and if she's willing to change for you, surely you could let your dick be twisted just a bit.

 

[kiteley]

I love the way that I come across this thread post-coital, having a fag and with a beer on the go xD

 

[Crazy]

You'd be surprised of all the goodie-goodies I find, and your class would be baffled.

 

[okamii-sama]

o-o apparently according to sevral people i know its sad i am 19 and stil a virgin though i am proud of it !! i don't do drugs and i only have a drink at christmas and on uber special occations...o-o that sounds like a dating advert roflmao

i don't think its bad that yourb being old school...then again if you found anyone old school where i lived you were deffinatly asleep XD

 

[Don Savik]

The majority of this thread makes me sad for the human race.

So much hate towards the OP because APPARENTLY if you don't love random meaningless sex your the scourge of humanity. Jesus christ who I don't believe existed, what sucked the compassion out of your brains?

I am 19. Alchohol tastes like piss, I'm never going to smoke, and I've never had a girlfriend.
Now, apparently according to the rest of the world this makes me a stupid nerd who deserves nothing less than constant ridicule every day.

Virginity is a weird thing. If your a woman its sacred, if your a guy who has it your the fucking devil. I hate it too be honest. I would like to date a virgin like myself, I don't see what the big deal is. If you know where they hang out, please let me know :/

 

[AdmiralMemo]

People who don't know what sex is actually like are not in a position to decide on the cleanliness of stuff they're in no way knowledgeable of.

So, you're taking the Spock argument here: people cannot have an opinion about something that they have not experienced themselves. (I'm calling this the Spock argument based on Star Trek IV, where Spock would not give his opinion on death to McCoy because McCoy "did not have a common frame of reference" with which to understand it, i.e. McCoy hadn't died yet.)

I'm a huge Trekkie and I like Spock a bunch, but this is where I have to disagree with him, and thus, with you. Taken to its fullest extent, that means I can't have an opinion on drugs if I haven't taken them. Even more ludicrously, it would mean that I can't have an opinion on eating chicken parmigiana if I've never eaten it.
One part of being human that makes us better than the animals is that we can learn from the experiences of others, not just ourselves. I don't need to experience everything in the world to form an opinion on it. I can look towards the experiences of others to form opinions. Other, differing opinions by other people based on the same information are no more or less valid than my own, though. We take the data we have and form our own conclusions. That is part of being human.

There is a caveat to all of this, though. I will grant that having experienced something can help you form a better opinion on that thing, especially since you'll have more data to go on. However, an opinion based on personal experience is no more or less valid than one that is based on others' experiences.

 

[Steven Biehler]

Keeping in mind that my high school had the same problem (and I was the outlier that the girls honestly DID NOT EVEN TALK TO (i honestly thought that ended in middle school apparently not)) i have to say your standards in this day and age are too high people love having sex and although it is hard to be the only one not to, you will eventually find someone. I just try to tell myself that all the time.

Also this song comes to mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YwNVE37BGVE

(could someone tell me why embedding is not working i put [ youtube=LINK ] and i get that box and no vid)

 

[damselgaming]

Nope. Lost it when I was 14, don't regret it at all. Drank heavily about twice a year from the age of 13 to 18, never taken drugs. Virginity is over rated anyway!

 

[AMMO Kid]

I've never smoked anything, drunk alcohol, or had sex (college sophomore). If I was a girl we'd be perfect for each other. xD

 

[StarsintheBlood]

I've 17, a virgin, never gotten drunk (though I did have one drink on a few holidays, my mom was fine with it), and never even /seen/ drugs, let alone used them. Smoking grosses me out, my grandpa did it and the guy who lives beneath us won't stop doing it.

As for your morals, stick to your principles if that's what you really want. But try not to be judgmental or push people away just because they tried something different, made a mistake, or had sex before. There's nothing wrong with sex, and the only reason I wouldn't date a guy who's had it before is if I thought he'd try pressuring me.

I'm not a shut-in or unattractive (I hope), but I just know what I do and don't want to do. The lack of sex can be explained by my aesexuality, and illegal substances don't hold appeal to me. They dull your senses and make you act like an idiot- makes being the sober one at a party much more interesting anyway. XD