Most of the kids in my school talk about nothing but sex and how much they want it, they leer at every girl that walks by and spend their time between classes and sometimes in class looking at porn on their Iphones. I fortunately have always been much different from most people and I am not afraid to admit it and openly make sure everybody else knows it too. I'm also a hopeless romantic when it comes down to it, that's probably why I only find one girl in my entire school of two thousand kids actually attractive. I yearn for the day when I can muster up the courage to speak on my true feelings.
Is it wrong being a romantic? (take two)
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This essentially sums up my thinking on the subject. I believe the majority of guys endeavour to find a good relationship and hope for the added benefit of sex.Susan Arendt said:
...and seriously, punctuation is your friend
I thought I was into the whole "sex-only" kind of relationships, until I actually had one. Sure, it's fun for a week or two, but I found it got old really fast, and it became apparent pretty fast that because I didn't have any particular feelings for the girl in question, the sex grew mundane. She was good looking too, but that "little extra" just wasn't there.
Again, this is just me. I know several people who don't need "romanticism" to get the most out of that kind of relationship, but for me it just doesn't work. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy the occasional date and whatnot, but it doesn't work in the long run.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being a romantic, especially since some people need that little extra emotional kick to get the most out of a relationship.
Again, this is just me. I know several people who don't need "romanticism" to get the most out of that kind of relationship, but for me it just doesn't work. Don't get me wrong, I still enjoy the occasional date and whatnot, but it doesn't work in the long run.
I don't think there's anything wrong with being a romantic, especially since some people need that little extra emotional kick to get the most out of a relationship.
Haha I will join you in the quest of chivelry! But to a certain extend.thahat said:im in a relationship with a girl i love. even though its not always easy -shes VERRY suspicious of my motives, while im just out to show her i love her ( no worries things are good, and we both are learning-
so id say no, girls are not just dickholes. i used to believe this, thinking that they are more evil on the inside then guys, so they would deserve to be something like that. experience, and age, tought me differently
now i KNOW their more evil on the inside XD and a lot more sharp then most men. but they also have wonderfull qualities, and rare girls have wonderfull personalities
in short, search for a girl you love, not just 'one that will do -did that earlier on in life'
how will you know you love her? if you want to make her hapy, no matter what, if you can go out of your way for her, if life itsself would seem gray without her. then you love a girl.
also, chivelry lives. at least with me, who will join me on this
There's nothing wrong with being romantic. Hell, I like the 'romantic evening out' with my girlfriend every once in a while. You know, the full monty.
But, deep at heart, I'm a cynic who laughs at such empty symbolism. 'Romantic love' is just another social construction, just like the Beer Buddies, Best Friend, etc.
But, deep at heart, I'm a cynic who laughs at such empty symbolism. 'Romantic love' is just another social construction, just like the Beer Buddies, Best Friend, etc.
I'm going to voice what appears to be an unpopular opinion in this thread. I am not much of a romantic. I believe people can experience what they perceive as "true love," and that's great for them.
Me, I don't see it happening. I love my girlfriend, but I love my friends, family, because I value them as people. I value a lot of people, though. I view "romantic love" as more of a fictionalized, literary device rather than an achievable "nirvana."
I'm a practical kind of person.
I think I just see love as a good connection between people. I don't think a relationship that is facebook official is needed for enjoyable sex to happen between two people. It's not the random sex that people seem to deplore in this thread, but it's sex outside of a relationship.
If you disagree with me, there's plenty of people who feel differently, and I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors of love and sex.
Me, I don't see it happening. I love my girlfriend, but I love my friends, family, because I value them as people. I value a lot of people, though. I view "romantic love" as more of a fictionalized, literary device rather than an achievable "nirvana."
I'm a practical kind of person.
I think I just see love as a good connection between people. I don't think a relationship that is facebook official is needed for enjoyable sex to happen between two people. It's not the random sex that people seem to deplore in this thread, but it's sex outside of a relationship.
Also this.Nwabudike Morgan said:
If you disagree with me, there's plenty of people who feel differently, and I wish you the best of luck in all your endeavors of love and sex.
I have enjoyed casual sex its fun and aslong as both people get what they want out of it then it is all good.But i will admit that i was searching for a person i could love didnt even realise until i met my girl she is my best friend and we love each other that is super awesome.Dont worry men still want to find the women of there dreams.
Just they perfer to normally keep it to themselfs or didnt know they were looking for it.
Just they perfer to normally keep it to themselfs or didnt know they were looking for it.
their is no love in the world their is only pain
http://www.theonion.com/video/study-children-exposed-to-pornography-may-expect-s,14326/
http://www.theonion.com/video/study-children-exposed-to-pornography-may-expect-s,14326/
can i just point out, you just got merc'd by Susan Arendt! thats up there with winning an arm wrestle with the queen, there are some major bragging rights therethe stonker said:
OT: i think it really depends on both parties, if the woman in the situation wants you to be romantic then its right, but in our generation, women generally aren't looking for anything too serious yet so just sex and seeing what happens works better.
I used to be a massive romantic - I was eight feet tall and three feet wide, women were freaked out when I tried to give them flowers. (seewhutahdidthur?)
However, since the surgery I'm six one again and look vaguely human. Women are still freaked out when I try to give them flowers.
But seriously, I used to be a romantic. I only wanted to be with 'the one' (but Keanu Reeves stopped taking my calls). I wanted to hold hands with a pretty girl on the beach, have candlelight dinners on a boat and play video games together... on a beach.
A lot of this stuff is nautical for some reason, lord if I know why...
In other words I wanted love. Of course, the problem is when you go out looking for it it has a tendancy to freak people out. I know what it's like to find a girl you like and obsess over her in a really unhealthy way. It's not fun for either party.
Also, when you go out looking for love, sooner or later you'll meet someone that wants to take advantage of your naievete. Who knows why they do it - maybe they like to inflate their own egos by popping yours, maybe they want to destroy somebody of the opposite sex because they've been hurt in the past, they might be the spawn of satan (mine certainly where at any rate). These type of people can wreck you, if you let them. I've spent many a night staying up until the wee hours, crying smelly tears into cheap scotch while a power ballad blasts out through my headphones.
To me now, as a mature (for reals) twenty four year old man. I have no interest in love anymore. I've done my time with it and it's not for me. I kind of like being single actually.
These days I do what every other man does when he's been single a long time - I sit bollocko in my sex tent and channel my sexual fury into super powers. Someday I hope to have to power to blot out the sun and spread despair and cynicsm throughout the world - nwahahahah!
I live in England by the way, so far my plan is working.
Be like me, kids! Forget about love and focus on supervillainy!
However, since the surgery I'm six one again and look vaguely human. Women are still freaked out when I try to give them flowers.
But seriously, I used to be a romantic. I only wanted to be with 'the one' (but Keanu Reeves stopped taking my calls). I wanted to hold hands with a pretty girl on the beach, have candlelight dinners on a boat and play video games together... on a beach.
A lot of this stuff is nautical for some reason, lord if I know why...
In other words I wanted love. Of course, the problem is when you go out looking for it it has a tendancy to freak people out. I know what it's like to find a girl you like and obsess over her in a really unhealthy way. It's not fun for either party.
Also, when you go out looking for love, sooner or later you'll meet someone that wants to take advantage of your naievete. Who knows why they do it - maybe they like to inflate their own egos by popping yours, maybe they want to destroy somebody of the opposite sex because they've been hurt in the past, they might be the spawn of satan (mine certainly where at any rate). These type of people can wreck you, if you let them. I've spent many a night staying up until the wee hours, crying smelly tears into cheap scotch while a power ballad blasts out through my headphones.
To me now, as a mature (for reals) twenty four year old man. I have no interest in love anymore. I've done my time with it and it's not for me. I kind of like being single actually.
These days I do what every other man does when he's been single a long time - I sit bollocko in my sex tent and channel my sexual fury into super powers. Someday I hope to have to power to blot out the sun and spread despair and cynicsm throughout the world - nwahahahah!
I live in England by the way, so far my plan is working.
Be like me, kids! Forget about love and focus on supervillainy!
Me too. On both the looking for someone to love and love me back and save myself.Julianking93 said:
OT: Being a romantic is one of the best things I know about. I've found my love and I feel that she's the one for me. Only problem is she lives in England while I live here in Iceland...
I've always felt that having someone special who you love and loves you back is reward enough and should be what is saught after...
sex is just a bonus...
...a sweet, sweet bonus......*sigh*...............what were we talking about now?
sex is just a bonus...
...a sweet, sweet bonus......*sigh*...............what were we talking about now?
For me, the romantic parts of the relationship are more important than the sex parts. It's not worth staying in a relationship if that's the only thing they want out of it.
I wonder which came first, the male stigma or the female desire...Susan Arendt said:
I'm a romantic myself, so I tend to favor the latter. Food for thought, though. The minority approach, over time, may confusedly merge with a conception of the extraordinary approach, lending suspect value to an ostracized behavior on the basis of raw statistical rarity.
There's clearly a better way to say that.
To be honest, whilst ultimately romance is more satisyfing, I have no problem with just fooling around with a girl. Although I would probably feel pretty bad if I was just going out with someone to have sex with them if they genuinely had feelings for me. If we both just wanted casual sex, that's totally fine.
I'm losing faith in this belief myself. I've had numerous bad experiences. 8 of them, to be exact, where I had my head fucked with. All of them were more or less within the span of 2 years, but the majority of them were in the latter year.
Ultimately, this caused me to massively increase my standards, and now I'm just feeling like the only place I can find anyone remotely like me is on the internet, e.g. the Escapist.
I frequently joke that my whole "love quest" is just me getting laid, but usually it's the last thing I think of about it. Having a shitty life just nurses emotions and aspirations involving the simple things.
I'd say it is a bad idea to be "romantic", as you'll become desperate, and if you're unlucky, anyone you meet will turn you down, and you'll be wondering what the fuck is wrong with you. Your self esteem will decrease, along with confidence, and gradually, even if you're a really nice person, nobody will consider you because of the way you act - BECAUSE of people not considering you to begin with. It's a horrible vicious circle, and it's best to drop the whole notion that "you're meant for someone" to begin with.
Ultimately, this caused me to massively increase my standards, and now I'm just feeling like the only place I can find anyone remotely like me is on the internet, e.g. the Escapist.
I frequently joke that my whole "love quest" is just me getting laid, but usually it's the last thing I think of about it. Having a shitty life just nurses emotions and aspirations involving the simple things.
I'd say it is a bad idea to be "romantic", as you'll become desperate, and if you're unlucky, anyone you meet will turn you down, and you'll be wondering what the fuck is wrong with you. Your self esteem will decrease, along with confidence, and gradually, even if you're a really nice person, nobody will consider you because of the way you act - BECAUSE of people not considering you to begin with. It's a horrible vicious circle, and it's best to drop the whole notion that "you're meant for someone" to begin with.