is it wrong for guys to shed tears?
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Yeah, I'd say it's a damn shame, this idea that men shouldn't cry, as I feel kinda weird about going to see certain movies at the cinema, to the point where I'd rather wait to see them on dvd, rather than cry my way thru an emotional movie surrounded by strangers, and most likely groups of guys who will openly mock me. (Despite probably them reacting the same way if they didn't have the group bravado going on.)
As long as a guy isn't crying at every little thing, then I see no problem with it. And even then, it's probably a condition. It's very rare to see me cry, but I do so without reservation.
As long as you cry over every little thing it's fine though I personally haven't cried in years regardless of death.
Yes.
The only exception is if one of your parents dies, then a single tear at the funeral. But otherwise, hell no. It's weakness.
Women and men don't respect men who cry. A woman will still love and respect HER man if he cries, because it's showing an emotional depth and closeness to her. But seeing some guy you're not dating, some stranger or even someone you might be interested in sobbing and puffy-eyed and all that? It triggers that internal reaction of "Weak, not worthy genetic material, not aggressive enough".
The only exception is if one of your parents dies, then a single tear at the funeral. But otherwise, hell no. It's weakness.
Women and men don't respect men who cry. A woman will still love and respect HER man if he cries, because it's showing an emotional depth and closeness to her. But seeing some guy you're not dating, some stranger or even someone you might be interested in sobbing and puffy-eyed and all that? It triggers that internal reaction of "Weak, not worthy genetic material, not aggressive enough".
i shed a single tear when my entire family had been slaughtered by the mafia
I am still reeling from the embarrassment
I am still reeling from the embarrassment
I would also add on end of "Old Yeller", or at the last explosion of "The Rock". I'm a little more loose about crying the Mr. Leary. If this makes me less of a man well SEE SPORTS.
All kidding aside I have been known to cry now and then.
I get teary eyed at the end of a movie if a main character just leaves without saying anything. Just seems disrespectful to all the other characters he has interacted with. A good example is Good Will Hunting.
I barely ever cry at anything. Outside of intense pain, I haven't cried at anything since my uncle's funeral eight years ago, aside from perhaps two films (just barely). On Friday night, I went to see an amateur production of the musical Rent! at my university. It was absolutely amazing to the point where I was on the very edge of tears not once, but twice, something that has never happened to me before. Anyone who's seen the musical will know which parts, especially as the second involved my favourite character (here's a hint, they were both in Act Two).
Does this make me any less of a man? Because I was close to tears because I was genuinely moved by the outstanding performance of a few young actors? I don't think so. Why should I be thought of as less of a man for showing emotion, especially as it's something I almost never do anyway? No, I don't think it makes me less of a man. In fact, I think the ability to still be able to show emotion makes me, and others like me, more of a man (or men, rather), because we aren't afraid to show that. That's how I feel about this whole debate.
Does this make me any less of a man? Because I was close to tears because I was genuinely moved by the outstanding performance of a few young actors? I don't think so. Why should I be thought of as less of a man for showing emotion, especially as it's something I almost never do anyway? No, I don't think it makes me less of a man. In fact, I think the ability to still be able to show emotion makes me, and others like me, more of a man (or men, rather), because we aren't afraid to show that. That's how I feel about this whole debate.
Personally i think you formulated your question wrong. Is it 'Wrong'? no. But because men are often displayed as being Strong, Manly and Tough, men that cry are seen as being weak, girlish and soft.The question you shoulda asked (assuming i know what answer you wanted ) is what do you guys think of a man that sheds tears. I am a man , and Pride will not allow me to shed tears in front of anyone. But under specific circumstances i think its okay to shed tears ( not ball your eyes out though ) like a death, or birth of YOUR child or something like that. Its not Wrong for men to cry , but it could have an impact on how people percive you.
My 2 cents
My 2 cents
No, it's perfectly acceptable for men to cry. Heck, I cried during Toy Story 3. And during Kingdom Hearts and Mass Effect.
I cried at the slightest provocation when I was little. Heck, there was an episode of Power Rangers that made me burst into tears at the mere mention of it.
I cried at the slightest provocation when I was little. Heck, there was an episode of Power Rangers that made me burst into tears at the mere mention of it.
It's not wrong but i'd be pretty uncomfortable...
Though that's not gonna stop people saying it's wrong
Though that's not gonna stop people saying it's wrong