Is looking at porn cheating?

[tehsto]

tough one...

one the one hand i should be enough for him, and he looking at porn somehow would make me feel that i'm not.
don't get me wrong, a guys fantasy is his alone and he is free to think about whatever he want's when releasing presure. but visually stimulating by looking at other people / girls is where i draw the line. one might argue that it's only "fantasy enhancement", but still...

to clarify, i'm not opposed to pornography, single guys go wild if you want to^^ but in a relationship you should be statisfied with your partner.

just my oppinion and therefore open for debate and systematic destruction by argument points ;P

Here's where the disconnect is. Men in relationships don't watch porn because they "aren't satisfied" with the looks, etc. of their significant other; they watch porn because they want some visual stimuli while masturbating. It's no different from a woman using a toy.

I think she is a bit insecure about her body (even though it is MEGA hot (be jealous )). It took her forever to start to put out :3

Tell her you'd be happy to quit porn if you can take some pics of her for yourself while she's away. Of course, you'd have to stop going to 4-chan (or at least disable images when you go there), but there are plenty of other places you can get your internet cesspool fix.

 

[regallmighty]

yeah, unless the pics are of you or her, and even if they were, i really dont call that cheating

 

[Kathinka]

tough one...

one the one hand i should be enough for him, and he looking at porn somehow would make me feel that i'm not.
don't get me wrong, a guys fantasy is his alone and he is free to think about whatever he want's when releasing presure. but visually stimulating by looking at other people / girls is where i draw the line. one might argue that it's only "fantasy enhancement", but still...

to clarify, i'm not opposed to pornography, single guys go wild if you want to^^ but in a relationship you should be statisfied with your partner.

just my oppinion and therefore open for debate and systematic destruction by argument points ;P

Here's where the disconnect is. Men in relationships don't watch porn because they "aren't satisfied" with the looks, etc. of their significant other; they watch porn because they want some visual stimuli while masturbating.

good point you make there. i try to keep that in mind.
it's just not easy sometimes to remember that guys work differently and that girls will never fully understand them :-/ ^^

 

[Azure-Supernova]

It's not cheating, but I'd like to agree with her and say that you really should only be interested in her body. Fair enough you can help if you look every now and then, it's natural. But I mean I've got a girlfriend and she's the only girl I'm interested in, full stop.

 

[Muzza-Maaate]

It's not cheating, but I'd like to agree with her and say that you really should only be interested in her body. Fair enough you can help if you look every now and then, it's natural. But I mean I've got a girlfriend and she's the only girl I'm interested in, full stop.

Just because I look at pornos of other girls means that I'd trade my girl in for them, fuck no.

 

[Azure-Supernova]

It's not cheating, but I'd like to agree with her and say that you really should only be interested in her body. Fair enough you can help if you look every now and then, it's natural. But I mean I've got a girlfriend and she's the only girl I'm interested in, full stop.

Just because I look at pornos of other girls means that I'd trade my girl in for them, fuck no.

I never said you would, or even implied it. I'm saying what I think, stating that I don't even need to look at another woman because I'm fully satisfied with the one I love.

 

[Muzza-Maaate]

That was dealing with the topic... but in regards to that specific example?
It sounds more like she went to one of your favourites to see what you're interested in, was greeted with lewd pictures of women, and was simply overly shocked.

Makes sense.

But I've linked her to some lulzy pics from it in the past

Spoiler: Pic related

, but I never included the full threads. So she never knew there was 80% porn. When she saw there was porn she was a bit like "huh?, thought it was only funny pictures". I then proceded to tell her of the sexual deviants that is 99% of 4ch0nz and she was like "..."

 

[tehsto]

tough one...

one the one hand i should be enough for him, and he looking at porn somehow would make me feel that i'm not.
don't get me wrong, a guys fantasy is his alone and he is free to think about whatever he want's when releasing presure. but visually stimulating by looking at other people / girls is where i draw the line. one might argue that it's only "fantasy enhancement", but still...

to clarify, i'm not opposed to pornography, single guys go wild if you want to^^ but in a relationship you should be statisfied with your partner.

just my oppinion and therefore open for debate and systematic destruction by argument points ;P

Here's where the disconnect is. Men in relationships don't watch porn because they "aren't satisfied" with the looks, etc. of their significant other; they watch porn because they want some visual stimuli while masturbating.

good point you make there. i try to keep that in mind.
it's just not easy sometimes to remember that guys work differently and that girls will never fully understand them :-/ ^^

If only other people were as understanding of the opposite sex as you are =)

 

[Kathinka]

tough one...

one the one hand i should be enough for him, and he looking at porn somehow would make me feel that i'm not.
don't get me wrong, a guys fantasy is his alone and he is free to think about whatever he want's when releasing presure. but visually stimulating by looking at other people / girls is where i draw the line. one might argue that it's only "fantasy enhancement", but still...

to clarify, i'm not opposed to pornography, single guys go wild if you want to^^ but in a relationship you should be statisfied with your partner.

just my oppinion and therefore open for debate and systematic destruction by argument points ;P

Here's where the disconnect is. Men in relationships don't watch porn because they "aren't satisfied" with the looks, etc. of their significant other; they watch porn because they want some visual stimuli while masturbating.

good point you make there. i try to keep that in mind.
it's just not easy sometimes to remember that guys work differently and that girls will never fully understand them :-/ ^^

If only other people were as understanding of the opposite sex as you are =)

well i can still understand the other side nonetheless^^ if a girl does not wish that her partner would look at porn i can fully understand that. she should have a talk with him about it and perhaps he can then clarify and explain her she has nothing to worry about .

 

[SultanP]

Tell her that if she doesn't want you releasing pressure on your own, she can have the opportunity to do it for you. If you are anything like most other guys, she will beg for mercy before long, and let you do what the hell you want. Even if it isn't about porn for you, you can still beat her at her own game.

Awesome post!

That's a brilliant bit of insight there. This may even be expandable to taking nude pics of her for the times she can't be there in person for him. Talk about making her shut-up. lol

Indeed. A female friend of mine told her that one of her friends had told her boyfriend that she wanted to pleasure him every time he needed it done. We had a good laugh about that and estimated her to last a couple of days at best.

 

[Trogdor1138]

Me and my girlfriend love Porn and even share it with each other and have a look at what we've got etc. It's great stuff