Angry Juju said:
No it's not abuse, because unlike a wife, a child has to learn morals in life. They need to learn what's right and what's wrong. If a child isn't disciplined in some way, they'll never get anywhere.
You really think that discipline is the only way to demonstrate morals? By actively harming someone (i.e. the opposite of moral behavior), you attempt to instruct morality?
Ah, but wait, that isn't really a demonstration of morals, is it? That's more like the opposite of a demonstration: behave in the exact opposite way that you want the child to.
Angry Juju said:
Ever see a little brat on the bus while the mother just sits there on her phone? yeah that's what not disciplining a child does.
Not really. It's what bad parenting does, which may or may not have anything to do with the level of discipline the parent metes.
I'll have you know that I have yet to strike, yell at, or speak negatively towards my 6 year old, and amazingly enough,
she has yet to do the same to me. Funny how that works out.
Upbeat Zombie said:
If a kid doesn't know that they are doing something wrong or bad they will keep on doing it.
How does punishment change that, exactly?
Either you tell the kid that he or she is doing something wrong and why, and then they know, or you don't, and then they don't know. Punishment won't suddenly change what they know or don't know. What punishment does is cow the child into doing what you want them to, and that's all. Don't try and pretend that punishment is anything more than threats and intimidation, because it isn't. What you
can argue is that threats and intimidation are required to change the child's behavior for the better (which flies into the face of the science of the human brain, but whatever).