Is roleplay sex okay?

[Funkysandwich]

It depends on how graphic the descriptions are...

I would say you're crossing the line if you RP a 13 page sex scene.

On the other hand, if it's just a sentence, such as: "...and then they had sex", then it's not really notable enough to warrant a real emotional attachment.

 

[meryatathagres]

Sibaring can be viewed as cheating by many. And MMORP sex is sibaring in most cases. But if its not your relationship, you should bugger off.

 

[BeerTent]

In my honest opinion, And I know exactly what your talking about, been there, done that, the worst that comes of this is that either one of you says "The next morning, Drake wakes up and looks over his shoulder." If you don't want to roleplay sex, just ask to skip it. If she doesn't want to do it, respect her wishes.

This is just me, but I find it generally impossible to really get any emotional attachment other than "Oh, hey. Ellie's on. What is she up to?" when it comes to this sort of thing. Remember, it's just the internet. Even if you think your too attached to this person, it's amazingly easy to burn the bridge.

The answer to the final question in the OP, No, it's just "aid" for something you can do alone.


As for your more recent post... Whether or not she chooses to hide this from him is her decision, and this is not something you should butt-into. Again, the worst of this is that she is asked to stop and she does, thus ending your character's relationship and story. (Assuming she's smart and got herself a reasonable man.) Your just over-thinking this, go in, play... and when the time comes, ask if she wants to continue, or fade to black.

Again, feel free to paint a bias on where this advice is coming from. I've snuck out of homes with a hangover at 5AM IRL. But I've never played the morning after online.

 

[lcyw20]

I take it your characters are respective representations of yourselves? Then, even though there is no physical interaction, your virtual selves would still have engaged in sex, so essentially it is still cheating. The only way I can see this as not cheating is if the characters are considered your creations, individuals separate from yourselves, and not your avatars.

 

[Kurt Cristal]

Do it, man! Who cares? You're far away! What's the BF gonna do?

I'm such a bad person. My suggestion still stands!

 

[Trolldor]

*facepalm*

It's her choice to make, not her boyfriend's.

 

[Trolldor]

Ask the boyfriend. There we go problem solved

This. If I was the boyfriend in question, it would be cheating, but that is just my opinion.

No, not "this". Not "problem solved".

Is this girl intellectually incapable of making the decision for herself?

 

[ApeShapeDeity]

I garantee her BF won't like it... but she probably won't tell him anyway... cos, you know...

Plus, the most erotic part of a woman is her mind. Make no mistake. 90% of the time they're having sex, they're not thinking about you, they're enjoying some fantasy. So, if you're good in role play world sex, she'll just put that to good use with the BF later...

 

[Trolldor]

I garantee her BF won't like it... but she probably won't tell him anyway... cos, you know...

Plus, the most erotic part of a woman is her mind. Make no mistake. 90% of the time they're having sex, they're not thinking about you, they're enjoying some fantasy. So, if you good in role play world sex, she'll just put that to good use with the BF anyway...

Maybe 90% of the time for you.

Giggity.

 

[ApeShapeDeity]

I garantee her BF won't like it... but she probably won't tell him anyway... cos, you know...

Plus, the most erotic part of a woman is her mind. Make no mistake. 90% of the time they're having sex, they're not thinking about you, they're enjoying some fantasy. So, if you good in role play world sex, she'll just put that to good use with the BF anyway...

Maybe 90% of the time for you.

Giggity.

LOL. Paid.

Plus, I have a lot of costumes and stuff, so... probably influences the stats... Fuck. Too much info again.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Um.....Christ, where I even start with this one?


Ugh.....Well, if you ignore how odd this situation is, then I suppose you could look at it as a form of flirtation. Think of it this way: If you have to make justifications to tell yourselves that it's NOT cheating, then it's probably cheating.

It's really the thought that counts here, and the thought is "sex with someone other then the person I'm dating".

Now don't get me wrong, there's nothing bad about checking out a stranger for few seconds. It happens. But that's not the case here.

 

[Anarchemitis]

Ask the boyfriend. There we go problem solved

This...basicly just this. Anything else is just silly.

Silly: adj, n.
See also: "Drama"

 

[faelirae]

Ask the boyfriend. There we go problem solved

This. If I was the boyfriend in question, it would be cheating, but that is just my opinion.

No, not "this". Not "problem solved".


Is this girl intellectually incapable of making the decision for herself?

Different people have different sets of morals and different boundaries.

The girl is making the decision for herself, however the facts influencing this decision may or may not include the wishes or desires of her partner in her relationship.
Say she asks him, he says he's not ok with her doing something like that.
She can choose then to do it anyway regardless of his wishes, or not to do it because of that.
If the guy says he's not ok with that he's not 'forcing' her to not do anything, he is expressing his disapproval of it, and since relationships go both ways there will probably be some consequences for her for doing something he strongly feels is not acceptable in a partner.

So she asks, he says no don't do it, she does it anyway, which to the boyfriend pretty much means she doesn't care about him or their relationship which makes the relationship not worth pursuing and he dumps her. Good for him, she wasn't what he was looking for in a long term partner, and if she wanted to do sex rp'ing so badly then someone who didn't want her doing that with other people probably wasn't what she wanted long term either.

But for the OP I have to say, if you're uncomfortable with it, don't do it, same with real sex. If you think it is violating personal morals or is just a bad situation don't do it. If she wants to and you want to, cool. If her boyfriend doesn't want to but she wants to anyway and you're not ok with that then just refuse. If her boyfriend doesn't want her to and she doesn't want to because of that, good. If her boyfriend is fine with it, she's fine with it, and you're fine with it, also good.
As to your second post, if she lies to him about it, and lies to you about it and you're not ok with that (as your post seems to indicate) stop interacting with her. If you trust her and believe her to not do something like that and she tells you it's ok and you're ok with it, go ahead, if you find out she lied later... well she'll have to deal with the consequences.

 

[Bohemian Waltz]

Lets say that she claimed her bf was ok with it so we continue the rp, but really she never asked him. I trust her word on it, but later the bf finds out and gets upset. Should I be held accountable for believing her?
Remember, Hypothetical question. I don't think she would actually lie to him, but just for sake of curiosity.

Held accountable in the sense that you would have made an incorrect judgment call when you believed a lie.

If I believed from the bottom of my heart you would pay me back a $2,000 loan in a week if I wired you the money there would be ample blame on my end when you didn't come around in a weeks time.

I personally wouldn't worry about it, though. Because fundamentally she's the one in a relationship and you're simply a 3rd party and your obligations end with the responsibilities of the relationships you're involved with.

 

[bad rider]

Okay, so here's the story.

I have a female friend whom I chat with online. We've known each other for quite sometime, we've talked on the phone, we've seen what the other one looks like, but we have never met in person. She has a boyfriend, I am single. We like to do roleplay in a private online chat room where we make our own characters and they interact with each other and stuff. It's a lot of fun to me and we've done that for a while, but assuming you read the title I think you'll know where this is going. So it's gotten to the point where one of my characters is veeeeery close to having sex with her character (They are a couple). The argument is that since we're just roleplaying and its our 'characters' having sex not us, then she's technically not cheating on her boyfriend and it's ok. But I still have a niggling little doubt in the back of my head saying that this is wrong.

So can roleplay sex be labeled under real sex or not?

If you had to ask whether to do it or not, then don't.

It comes under man rules, section 13 paragraph B of the domestic bylaws.
I quote:
"If the first party is placed into a situation, event or activity, whereby they incur an unreasonable amount of doubt, anxiety or confusion, the first party must diffuse the situation.

This diffusion must consist either of:
A) a complete context change, such as but not limited to "hey look over there, its a pink elephant!"

B) the false forget, such as but not limited to "what were we talking about?"

C) the window smash, such as but not limited to, exiting via the nearest exit, whether it be a window, door, or opening the emergency exit on a plane during mid flight.

D) any other exit that thus avoids the situation, such as but not limited to, setting fire to things."

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

Rule 1 of roleplaying with people you aren't involved with: If you feel possible guilt, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

 

[Flare Phoenix]

The very fact you're here asking us if it is okay means you're trying to justify it to yourself. If there was no reason to feel guilty about it, you wouldn't be here trying to determine if it was okay. Me, personally, if I found out the girl I was seeing had roleplaying sex with someone else I would be very annoyed.