Is sex ever "just sex"?

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

This'll throw a spanner in the works.

Sex IS "Just Sex" Physically, But Emotionally theres a whole different reason why we do have sex.

 

[NattyMichael]

you need "just sex" for having enough time to think of this. i need it beacuse i have enough time to look.

 

[MelziGurl]

My partner always says to me that sex with someone he didn't have feelings for was just empty, it was 'just sex'. With me he says it's a completely different feeling. Since he is the only person I have ever slept with, I can't really comment on the experience for myself.

 

[psijac]

Clearly you are not approaching this correctly. I recommend gathering empirical evidence.

 

[Mr. Pink]

Sex is always just sex. Always. It seems to be "not just sex" when you have some deeper feelings towards a person, but it's still just sex, because we do it out of instinct, not some magical thing call love. Love isn't sex. Sex is sex. But between a man and a woman, there can't be love without sex...

 

[SmartIdiot]

What a fascinating debate, really. Between the people whinging about the subtleties involved with love and those who think we're all just robots really (feelings are just chemicals whizzing around in our brains. Ok. So a computer is really just a pile of wires and circuit boards in a plastic box which allows us to think we're playing a game) many of you seem to be missing the point.

Sex is not something you dissect and discuss until it's not fun anymore. It's an activity which is a lot more fun when you just shut the fuck up and get on with it. Seriously you guys are killing me.

 

[Dogmeat T Dingo]

What a fascinating debate, really. Between the people whinging about the subtleties involved with love and those who think we're all just robots really (feelings are just chemicals whizzing around in our brains. Ok. So a computer is really just a pile of wires and circuit boards in a plastic box which allows us to think we're playing a game) many of you seem to be missing the point.

Sex is not something you dissect and discuss until it's not fun anymore. It's an activity which is a lot more fun when you just shut the fuck up and get on with it. Seriously you guys are killing me.

This, really.

Sex can be a lot of things, but it's definitely one of those things that's less fun when you overanalyze it.

 

[dwightsteel]

What a fascinating debate, really. Between the people whinging about the subtleties involved with love and those who think we're all just robots really (feelings are just chemicals whizzing around in our brains. Ok. So a computer is really just a pile of wires and circuit boards in a plastic box which allows us to think we're playing a game) many of you seem to be missing the point.

Sex is not something you dissect and discuss until it's not fun anymore. It's an activity which is a lot more fun when you just shut the fuck up and get on with it. Seriously you guys are killing me.

This, really.

Sex can be a lot of things, but it's definitely one of those things that's less fun when you overanalyze it.

especially the morning after...

 

[Dogmeat T Dingo]

What a fascinating debate, really. Between the people whinging about the subtleties involved with love and those who think we're all just robots really (feelings are just chemicals whizzing around in our brains. Ok. So a computer is really just a pile of wires and circuit boards in a plastic box which allows us to think we're playing a game) many of you seem to be missing the point.

Sex is not something you dissect and discuss until it's not fun anymore. It's an activity which is a lot more fun when you just shut the fuck up and get on with it. Seriously you guys are killing me.

This, really.

Sex can be a lot of things, but it's definitely one of those things that's less fun when you overanalyze it.

especially the morning after...

And how!

 

[Ben Legend]

It can be 'just sex' I must agree.

But, having sex with a loved one, sorry, but that is not 'just sex'
It can be emotional and funny at the same time. not to mention Brilliant.

Edit: I have no idea why I put a wink there... Just got carried away I suppose.

 

[Dooly95]

Sucks having free will, doesn't it? You can't blame anything on "just instinct" since.

And it's 2 am, so I skipped the... 40 odd posts inbetween this one and the 10 at the start.

 

[Dahemo]

I was thinking. About sex.

Is it nothing more than a biological process that we're compelled to and inclined towards doing as humans? Or is there some kind of real, inescapable, powerful spiritual and/or emotional significance to the act that creates a sort of bond between the people involved.

Or is it both. A simple biological process that we as conscious beings give significance to.

Either way, if someone engages in intercourse and calls it "just sex", is that an accurate and appropriate attitude, at least in some cases? Or has that person sadly lost/never understood the real meaning of having a sexual partner.

It entierly depends on the participants, their emotions and beliefs and their relationship, and I think you're confusing the discussion of the meaning of sex with the value it has in various circumstances. When someone says "It's just sex", they mean that they enjoy their sexual encounters with the other person but there is no further romantic attachment. For me, sex in relationships is an important part of the structure and a strong expression of the closeness in the couple, whereas sex for enjoyment is just that, enjoyable, but not nearly as fulfilling...

 

[CoziestPigeon]

Yes, some people do have "just sex." They're called one night stands.

But no one ever has a one night stand as part of a biological process - if it was for that, they'd do a one night stand to get preggo... but they don't.

It's never just sex. There's always something to it. Whether it's for fun, procreation, or any other reason emotional or physical, humans don't simply do it instinctively.

One could argue that emotions "trick" us into acting instinctively, to which I'd say your point is irrelevant because either way, perceptually we don't do it for frank, biological purposes.

Yeah, we do f*ck instinctively. But we also are (sometimes) smart enough to use contraceptives so some stupid baby doesn't screw everything up for everyone. It is in our genes to bone anything that walks on 2 legs, and the fact that it feels awesome sure doesn't hurt.

 

[Soxafloppin]

Sex and 'love making' are chalk and cheese, as my mum would say.

Your mum is quite profound.

dam, i should rephrase that

Sex and 'love making' are, as my mum would say 'like chalk and cheese'

*Phew*

 

[Sprogus]

For me it can never just be sex. But then again I have weird trust issues and need to be use to someone before I can have sex with them.

 

[AgentNein]

Sex can be just sex. I don't much prefer casual sex (I'd much rather be very comfortable with someone on certain levels), but yes it can be.

 

[RobCoxxy]

I know you wanted debate, but after:

Yes, some people do have "just sex." They're called one night stands.

You can pretty much end the thread.

Important 90% of the time. But when drunk/horny/both it's usually JUST a shag.