Forgetting about someone is the kind of shit that can take YEARS of work to do; or, rather, undo. It's difficult, and yeah, it takes a lot of mental fortitude. Strap in, I guess? Good luck?
Is there a way to fall OUT of love?
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You're investing to much of your own happiness in someone else.
The only person that can truly make you happy is you.
The only person that can truly make you happy is you.
Wow. Real easy. Show her this morose thread and she'll do the rest. Otherwise, sort your shit out man. You love her, you don't. You hate the things running through your head, but she makes you level. Sounds like you've got a lot of fixing yourself first before you should even get into something with some one. To love some one is to love your self. If you can't do that, it's irresponsible to get into something with another person. Extremely selfish and completely avoiding the bigger issues.
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Nut up and just talk to her. Open up your feelings about your life and whats going on between you two. That'll either fix it or end it. Either way you win as it would seem.
Frankly I'm quite suprised she hasn't keyed in on this yet and either tried to approach you about it or run for the hills.
And lastly, all this crap about being judged and asking for advice etc etc. Guess what, you air your dirty laundry in an open forum and trolls are gonna get at it. How about talking to a qualified professional about your emotional issues? You can argue ad nauseum about how this is a cry for help to the loving, considerate and caring strangers out there on the interweb but the fact remains this looks more like a cry for attention than anything else. Erstwhile, you have actual people in your life who actually give a shit about you and actually care about your well being. You can argue that too, but lets face it, its a loosing one. If this chick loves you, you've got charm, looks, a brain, a potential future or whatever. Point is you have the attention of real people out there instead of the insensitive and potentialy hurtful faceless masses. Seek out the ones that care. Seek out the ones that, while might not understand you all the way, have some idea of where you are at in your life. What you are about. What your situation is.
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Put it out there for all of us saints, trolls and in-betweeners to mull over and find entertainment value in your missery. Every one loves a reality show.
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Nut up and just talk to her. Open up your feelings about your life and whats going on between you two. That'll either fix it or end it. Either way you win as it would seem.
Frankly I'm quite suprised she hasn't keyed in on this yet and either tried to approach you about it or run for the hills.
And lastly, all this crap about being judged and asking for advice etc etc. Guess what, you air your dirty laundry in an open forum and trolls are gonna get at it. How about talking to a qualified professional about your emotional issues? You can argue ad nauseum about how this is a cry for help to the loving, considerate and caring strangers out there on the interweb but the fact remains this looks more like a cry for attention than anything else. Erstwhile, you have actual people in your life who actually give a shit about you and actually care about your well being. You can argue that too, but lets face it, its a loosing one. If this chick loves you, you've got charm, looks, a brain, a potential future or whatever. Point is you have the attention of real people out there instead of the insensitive and potentialy hurtful faceless masses. Seek out the ones that care. Seek out the ones that, while might not understand you all the way, have some idea of where you are at in your life. What you are about. What your situation is.
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Put it out there for all of us saints, trolls and in-betweeners to mull over and find entertainment value in your missery. Every one loves a reality show.
Drive yourself to succeed something. Realize you no longer have the drive to do so. Try to live life. End up merely existing. Smile and laugh and nod on the outside. Feel like screaming off the edge of a cliff on the inside. Fall back on anger and rage and hate. Realize that's all you have left. Know that it's the only thing keeping you alive. Without it, you'd fall into depression. Try to sleep for days at a time. It doesn't work.
I find it hard to believe that somene with borderline can actually "wish" the love away in a day. I've seen sane people, both old and young, needing more time then that.
I have the feeling that you're either lying to yourself (and by that to us) or having "one of those moments".
There is only 1 solution to this problem: a psychiatrist.
And this time tell him/her everything, not just those things you think are important.
Your brain doesn't communicate properly with itself, so you can't be the one who knows best when it comes to that. You wouldn't be a borderliner and you wouldn't need a shrink if you where able to make wise decisions.
You'll probably end up with anti depressants and if thats not what you want, get your sh*t fixed by going to a mental coach instead and for your own sake stop hogging the spotlight with negativity as i know and read you simply love the attention.
Its ok to ask your questions, show us your problem, yet the ways you've reacted makes it unlikely that you actually want the truth, or solve the problem.
I have the feeling that you're either lying to yourself (and by that to us) or having "one of those moments".
There is only 1 solution to this problem: a psychiatrist.
And this time tell him/her everything, not just those things you think are important.
Your brain doesn't communicate properly with itself, so you can't be the one who knows best when it comes to that. You wouldn't be a borderliner and you wouldn't need a shrink if you where able to make wise decisions.
You'll probably end up with anti depressants and if thats not what you want, get your sh*t fixed by going to a mental coach instead and for your own sake stop hogging the spotlight with negativity as i know and read you simply love the attention.
Its ok to ask your questions, show us your problem, yet the ways you've reacted makes it unlikely that you actually want the truth, or solve the problem.
There are other conditions, and honestly, I usually still care about them after, (though no where near as much) but Girl With One Eye is right.Girl With One Eye said:
Just give it time, and try and find someone else to care about, or who cares about you.
Realize that no matter who you're with now, you'll die alone and unloved in the end. It's gotten me by for the last five years or so.
How to: Fall out of love (the way I do it).
Step 1: Find hard wall.
Step 2: Think about person you don't want to love
Step 3: Hit head at the hard wall with decent amount of power while thinking about said person.
Step 4: Repeat until not in love anymore.
This will make the pain from the impact be synonymous with the person you thought of. Well, it works for me at least.
Step 1: Find hard wall.
Step 2: Think about person you don't want to love
Step 3: Hit head at the hard wall with decent amount of power while thinking about said person.
Step 4: Repeat until not in love anymore.
This will make the pain from the impact be synonymous with the person you thought of. Well, it works for me at least.
Whenever you start to think about her maybe try to do something else. For Example: Play a video game, read a book, or watch Television. Another thing you could do is think of the things you don't like about her and perhaps that could help you get over your love for her.
