As a person that looooooves social science, especially the sociology branch of it I completely understand where you are coming from and I have held that few point for a very long time now.
In short, I agree.
The social and cognitive approaches are the ones for me. Unfortunately, the first year of college is spent learning about the studies in those approaches and nothing else. Next year will, no doubt, be a lot better.
As a person that looooooves social science, especially the sociology branch of it I completely understand where you are coming from and I have held that few point for a very long time now.
In short, I agree.
The social and cognitive approaches are the ones for me. Unfortunately, the first year of college is spent learning about the studies in those approaches and nothing else. Next year will, no doubt, be a lot better.
Oh god I love everything about it.
Economic trends, management, business structure, how law effets business, there's so much in there, it's like a big filled pie of awesome.
The act of sex is a biological and physical act. In itself, sex is meaningless. You could if you really wanted too disect human sex organs and put sperm under the microscope, and you won't find a single ounce of "meaning" anywhere. You could even grind up the universe into dust and not find an ounce of "meaning".
Meaning is a mental concept, we see physical things and acts and our minds give them meaning. To some people, sex is just a bit of fun, to others it is the deepest physical expression of love that they can give and is almost sacred. Your mind gives meaning to physical things and actions such as sex, so sex is essentially what your mind makes of it.
Due to the recent influx of sex threads, including one of mine that got locked (DAMN YOU, MODERATORS! DAMN YOU!), I've had to state my cold and biological thoughts on sex and the like, which made me wonder:
A. how the fuck did I manage to come up with any sort of sensible biological explanation as justification for being horny, when I can barely pass high school biology, and
B. Being human, how do you manage to balance your human emotions, your conscious and your cold, biological instincts? Or do you just not balance them at all?
Mods: I don't hate you, and I'm sure that there was a good reason for locking my sex thread.
And
About my viewpoint on this all, I think that things such as sex and human relationships should be kept at a healthy mixture of emotion and instinct i.e. Sex is just your body's way of trying to make sure that your genes get passed on over time, and as such, is purely biological, but because of the way our society holds sex in such a personal and private, yet glorified manner; sex tends to be better psychologically when emotion is involved, and (hopefully) physically satisfying as well...
I hope that made sense.
Please also note that I'm not just getting at sex here, for instance, one could argue that racism is instinct (which I would argue against, but one could still argue that) and, as such, is biologically natural (again, I do not think this at all).
Actually, I'm not sure about men, but when women have sex a chemical is released that makes them more likely to become emotionally attached to that person.
Besides which (I'm a guy, what I'm about to say may challenge that) you're having something put inside you, how could it not be personal. That's the big thing I don't get about the casual-ness off sex, it's literally as close as you can get to a person, and the ramifications of it can fuck up your life for years to come. While I'm not a prude who says wait until marriage, I know quite a few people who just do it out of boredom. Maybes it's just where I live...
Due to the recent influx of sex threads, including one of mine that got locked (DAMN YOU, MODERATORS! DAMN YOU!), I've had to state my cold and biological thoughts on sex and the like, which made me wonder:
A. how the fuck did I manage to come up with any sort of sensible biological explanation as justification for being horny, when I can barely pass high school biology, and
B. Being human, how do you manage to balance your human emotions, your conscious and your cold, biological instincts? Or do you just not balance them at all?
Mods: I don't hate you, and I'm sure that there was a good reason for locking my sex thread.
And
About my viewpoint on this all, I think that things such as sex and human relationships should be kept at a healthy mixture of emotion and instinct i.e. Sex is just your body's way of trying to make sure that your genes get passed on over time, and as such, is purely biological, but because of the way our society holds sex in such a personal and private, yet glorified manner; sex tends to be better psychologically when emotion is involved, and (hopefully) physically satisfying as well...
I hope that made sense.
Please also note that I'm not just getting at sex here, for instance, one could argue that racism is instinct (which I would argue against, but one could still argue that) and, as such, is biologically natural (again, I do not think this at all).
Actually, I'm not sure about men, but when women have sex a chemical is released that makes them more likely to become emotionally attached to that person.
Besides which (I'm a guy, what I'm about to say may challenge that) you're having something put inside you, how could it not be personal. That's the big thing I don't get about the casual-ness off sex, it's literally as close as you can get to a person, and the ramifications of it can fuck up your life for years to come. While I'm not a prude who says wait until marriage, I know quite a few people who just do it out of boredom. Maybes it's just where I live...
I think that things such as sex and human relationships should be kept at a healthy mixture of emotion and instinct i.e. Sex is just your body's way of trying to make sure that your genes get passed on over time, and as such, is purely biological, but because of the way our society holds sex in such a personal and private, yet glorified manner; sex tends to be better psychologically when emotion is involved, and (hopefully) physically satisfying as well...
Tantric, covenant relationships, sex magic, porn to high art ... ok, so most porn falls into instinct anyway but still there's some works of wonder out there ... and a host of other things I'd rather not list at this time all go away or become arguments for 'it's all porn really'? That would be sad.
Due to the recent influx of sex threads, including one of mine that got locked (DAMN YOU, MODERATORS! DAMN YOU!), I've had to state my cold and biological thoughts on sex and the like, which made me wonder:
A. how the fuck did I manage to come up with any sort of sensible biological explanation as justification for being horny, when I can barely pass high school biology, and
B. Being human, how do you manage to balance your human emotions, your conscious and your cold, biological instincts? Or do you just not balance them at all?
Mods: I don't hate you, and I'm sure that there was a good reason for locking my sex thread.
And
About my viewpoint on this all, I think that things such as sex and human relationships should be kept at a healthy mixture of emotion and instinct i.e. Sex is just your body's way of trying to make sure that your genes get passed on over time, and as such, is purely biological, but because of the way our society holds sex in such a personal and private, yet glorified manner; sex tends to be better psychologically when emotion is involved, and (hopefully) physically satisfying as well...
I hope that made sense.
Please also note that I'm not just getting at sex here, for instance, one could argue that racism is instinct (which I would argue against, but one could still argue that) and, as such, is biologically natural (again, I do not think this at all).
Actually, I'm not sure about men, but when women have sex a chemical is released that makes them more likely to become emotionally attached to that person.
Besides which (I'm a guy, what I'm about to say may challenge that) you're having something put inside you, how could it not be personal. That's the big thing I don't get about the casual-ness off sex, it's literally as close as you can get to a person, and the ramifications of it can fuck up your life for years to come. While I'm not a prude who says wait until marriage, I know quite a few people who just do it out of boredom. Maybes it's just where I live...
Actually, I'm not sure about men, but when women have sex a chemical is released that makes them more likely to become emotionally attached to that person.
It's called oxytocin, and is considered a 'bonding' hormone (women also release it when they breast-feed).
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: sex puts the 'fun' in biological function. It's an intimate act that can mean nothing, or can mean everything.
For me, sex up til now has been nothing special or really meaningful. It was a good time, a release of tension, but there really wasn't much emotion in any of it.
Then I met my current boyfriend, and every time we've slept together has been nothing short of spectacular because we love each other deeply. The emotion makes everything so much better, and I'm grateful for it.
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