It's another clear double standard, on top of being a complete waste of time.
If a gorgeous or even a not-so-gorgeous woman is pretending to like nerdy stuff so that she can mingle with a nerdy crowd for attention or to attract a boyfriend (or girlfriend?) what exactly is wrong with that? Women go to Comic-Cons and Anime gatherings, Magic: The Gathering tourneys, Sci-Fi conventions to meet people of the opposite sex; the same way a man may go to the ballet or dance class or show tunes or some equally "unmanly" venue to try to meet a girlfriend (or boyfriend?).
The problem with the fake nerd girl, as I see it, is entirely in the eyes of the beholder. The girl herself is no more out of place at a convention than I am at a girls rugby game. I barely know the rules of the game, am only vaguely familiar with the purpose of the game, don't know a damn thing about strategy, and can only name one team on the planet. If I went to rugby (say 15 years ago, to be fair), I would have done it to meet an athletically minded woman of strong character, that's the type of woman I was attracted to, and I could feasibly expect to find a woman like that at a rugby game. If I so happen to meet a woman I liked at this rugby game I would, if I thought it might help me get a date, pretend to know more about rugby than I do, name drop "scrum" or "centerfield" or some other rubbish that might make me sound like a moron, but if it secured me a date, so be it.
Here is where the eye of the beholder comes into play. If I go on the date with rugby girl but we don't hit it off in my mind, but she had a good time. She asks for a second date, but I waver and say maybe or no, than then I look like a "Fake Rugby Guy". It doesn't mean I meant to lead rugby girl on, but if she is obssessed with rugby but I find it only a mild diversion, there is no chance for success for a relationship of that type. I feel like a lot of nerd guys (hate the term, but go with me here) get burned by women with tepid interest in their hobbies. The girl was originally interested in your personality or looks, but if you don't have much more in common except you both like Skyrim, or a single Anime, or a single comic book character, than there is no point in persuing a relationship any further.
"Fake nerd Girl" unless she is being conniving and utterly insincere, wants a nerdy or Fake nerd Boy". It is generally accepted by most of my female friends that now that the "nerd" walls are down, or partially down, they make good boyfriends. Intelligent, courteous, adorable or endearing if they haven't had a girlfriend before, many times virgins (attractive for fellow virgins of the opposite sex), and generally more tolerant of others because they have faced bullying of some form or another so aren't as like to bully or demean the interested girl.
I think if you relax for a second, and try to reason it out, there are tons of "Nerd girls" who are looking the fit in, how a lot of us gamers were trying 15-20 years ago. Gotta stand up and be inclusive to the nerd girls of the world, expand our community, and maybe turn a few "Fake nerd Girls" into the legit thing, because for all of us, it started with just one game, one hand of Magic: The Gathering, one Star Trek episode, or one anime. Same for a lot of these young ladies. They are looking for a culture they can belong to, and if they don't know absolutely everything about something doesn't mean they don't belong in the community.
I like D&D, but I can get completely lost in a conversation with hardcore lovers of the game. Doesn't mean I'm trying to infiltrate their community or demean what they love, so relax, and next time cute "Fake nerd girl" annoys or otherwise disrupts you, remember, she may not be fake at all... and she's cute.
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If a gorgeous or even a not-so-gorgeous woman is pretending to like nerdy stuff so that she can mingle with a nerdy crowd for attention or to attract a boyfriend (or girlfriend?) what exactly is wrong with that? Women go to Comic-Cons and Anime gatherings, Magic: The Gathering tourneys, Sci-Fi conventions to meet people of the opposite sex; the same way a man may go to the ballet or dance class or show tunes or some equally "unmanly" venue to try to meet a girlfriend (or boyfriend?).
The problem with the fake nerd girl, as I see it, is entirely in the eyes of the beholder. The girl herself is no more out of place at a convention than I am at a girls rugby game. I barely know the rules of the game, am only vaguely familiar with the purpose of the game, don't know a damn thing about strategy, and can only name one team on the planet. If I went to rugby (say 15 years ago, to be fair), I would have done it to meet an athletically minded woman of strong character, that's the type of woman I was attracted to, and I could feasibly expect to find a woman like that at a rugby game. If I so happen to meet a woman I liked at this rugby game I would, if I thought it might help me get a date, pretend to know more about rugby than I do, name drop "scrum" or "centerfield" or some other rubbish that might make me sound like a moron, but if it secured me a date, so be it.
Here is where the eye of the beholder comes into play. If I go on the date with rugby girl but we don't hit it off in my mind, but she had a good time. She asks for a second date, but I waver and say maybe or no, than then I look like a "Fake Rugby Guy". It doesn't mean I meant to lead rugby girl on, but if she is obssessed with rugby but I find it only a mild diversion, there is no chance for success for a relationship of that type. I feel like a lot of nerd guys (hate the term, but go with me here) get burned by women with tepid interest in their hobbies. The girl was originally interested in your personality or looks, but if you don't have much more in common except you both like Skyrim, or a single Anime, or a single comic book character, than there is no point in persuing a relationship any further.
"Fake nerd Girl" unless she is being conniving and utterly insincere, wants a nerdy or Fake nerd Boy". It is generally accepted by most of my female friends that now that the "nerd" walls are down, or partially down, they make good boyfriends. Intelligent, courteous, adorable or endearing if they haven't had a girlfriend before, many times virgins (attractive for fellow virgins of the opposite sex), and generally more tolerant of others because they have faced bullying of some form or another so aren't as like to bully or demean the interested girl.
I think if you relax for a second, and try to reason it out, there are tons of "Nerd girls" who are looking the fit in, how a lot of us gamers were trying 15-20 years ago. Gotta stand up and be inclusive to the nerd girls of the world, expand our community, and maybe turn a few "Fake nerd Girls" into the legit thing, because for all of us, it started with just one game, one hand of Magic: The Gathering, one Star Trek episode, or one anime. Same for a lot of these young ladies. They are looking for a culture they can belong to, and if they don't know absolutely everything about something doesn't mean they don't belong in the community.
I like D&D, but I can get completely lost in a conversation with hardcore lovers of the game. Doesn't mean I'm trying to infiltrate their community or demean what they love, so relax, and next time cute "Fake nerd girl" annoys or otherwise disrupts you, remember, she may not be fake at all... and she's cute.
Best Regards
