It's never really bothered me in the slightest. If I get to choose or create my character, cool, if I don't I don't, that's fine too.
If a developer creates a game a certain way and they have a certain character they want you to play, I don't question it, because that's what they wanted to create, and I have no power to tell them otherwise(I can of course, but that would be rather selfish, trying to control what artists create).
The way I view game development and play is the reason I thought all the character complaints about Dragon Age 2 were silly. So what if you got to be a dwarf or an elf in the first game. They wanted to make a more personalized story with the second game about one certain family that happened to be human. Just be glad they let you pick between having a male or female Hawke. Even if they had locked play to either gender, I wouldn't have cared. I play RPG's for the gameplay and story not what type of character I get to play as, if I get to pick it is just a little bonus.
Of course, this all could be because I'm not a very picky gamer. I play pretty much every genre and/or style of game, Action Adventure, RPG, JRPG, RTS, Platformer, Fighting, Builder/Creation, Shooters, MMOs, Puzzle, Racing, open world, sandbox, linear, etc, etc. Name it and I play it, well except scary/Horror games, I hate being scared.
So basically, if you look at my game collection for each console I own and on my PC, you will see just about every style of game.
Okay, ramble alert, time for me to step out the door.