long distance relationships are they worth it?
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It can be worth it.. I've been in a few..
The biggest piece of advice I can give is, visit whenever you possibly can.
The biggest piece of advice I can give is, visit whenever you possibly can.
First of all: Please flesh out the OP a bit. Pointing to the title and saying "this" is considered bad form.
Pros: "Distance increases love"
Cons: "Out of eye, out of mind"
I read a Donald Duck strip like that once.
I'm not really qualified to be talking about relationships though.
Pros: "Distance increases love"
Cons: "Out of eye, out of mind"
I read a Donald Duck strip like that once.
I'm not really qualified to be talking about relationships though.
I'm in one currently, and right now the biggest con is that you can be with the person physically (not meaning sex, but just that you cant be there to hold them or hug them or anything).
But as long as you care for each other and are willing to, it can work. I mean, in today's day and age of cellphones, webcams, facebook, emails, and (if all else fails, or you're just old fashioned like me) letters, its easy to keep a relatinship going as long as you find the time for each other.
But as long as you care for each other and are willing to, it can work. I mean, in today's day and age of cellphones, webcams, facebook, emails, and (if all else fails, or you're just old fashioned like me) letters, its easy to keep a relatinship going as long as you find the time for each other.
I'm in one at the moment. I met her Vancouver, and shes studying in Montreal (me being in Australia). I'll be visiting by the end of the year.
We're in an open/poly relationship though, so my body isn't going to pop.
Just be careful not to starve yourself of your life outside the relationship.
We're in an open/poly relationship though, so my body isn't going to pop.
Just be careful not to starve yourself of your life outside the relationship.
If you care about each other enough and put a lot of effort into it, sure, it can work. Also, visiting as often as possible is also a good way of keeping it all alive.
I've been in a few long distance relationships, but I wouldn't get into one at the moment unless it was with someone _really_ special. They can be really hard.
I've been in a few long distance relationships, but I wouldn't get into one at the moment unless it was with someone _really_ special. They can be really hard.
It depends on how necessary you consider physical contact.
Also how much you, you know, actually like each other as people.
It's a very big possibility you may begin to feel low about how all of your interactions seem "fake" somehow. You can see her, hear her and speak to her, but she's not really there. Which I... guess might suck?
I don't know, it doesn't seem like it'd be a big deal to me, but it seems to be so for everyone else.
Best bet is probably to not bother with it if it's going to be more than a year or so or if you are kind of a lech.
Also how much you, you know, actually like each other as people.
It's a very big possibility you may begin to feel low about how all of your interactions seem "fake" somehow. You can see her, hear her and speak to her, but she's not really there. Which I... guess might suck?
I don't know, it doesn't seem like it'd be a big deal to me, but it seems to be so for everyone else.
Best bet is probably to not bother with it if it's going to be more than a year or so or if you are kind of a lech.
I refused one with a Danish girls (I'm Dutch myself). didn't think it would work.
I suppose it would be worth it. but the thing is, what's long distance? other side of the country? next country over? both of those allow you to see each other just as much as you would if you both just had busy lives.
I'm actually considering another one right now, there's a British girl in one of my classes who I've fallen for and she'll be going back this summer. but we're not even in a relationship yet, so I guess that would be a good first step
I suppose it would be worth it. but the thing is, what's long distance? other side of the country? next country over? both of those allow you to see each other just as much as you would if you both just had busy lives.
I'm actually considering another one right now, there's a British girl in one of my classes who I've fallen for and she'll be going back this summer. but we're not even in a relationship yet, so I guess that would be a good first step
The trick is to have a light at the end of the tunnel. If you know you will eventually be together then that gives you hope and something to look forward to. Whereas if you just live in different countries and neither person can or will move, then you are wasting your time.
If its a long term separation then just move on, lifes too short to be put on hold awaiting something that may never be.
If its a long term separation then just move on, lifes too short to be put on hold awaiting something that may never be.
From seeing friends in similar situations...
It's more likely to work out if:
1) It's going to become a short-distance relationship again in the future
2) You allow the relationship to be a little more... "open" so to speak.
If you've just started seeing each other, don't have any current plans to get back together geographically, or are High School age or younger, it's probably time to move on.
It's more likely to work out if:
1) It's going to become a short-distance relationship again in the future
2) You allow the relationship to be a little more... "open" so to speak.
If you've just started seeing each other, don't have any current plans to get back together geographically, or are High School age or younger, it's probably time to move on.
Get Skype. For the love of god, get Skype.
Conversations are so much more personal when you can see their face, it's not just a voice.
Conversations are so much more personal when you can see their face, it's not just a voice.
Well I've never been in a long distance relationship but I hope it works out for you. Like others have said just try to see each other as much as possible and plan to make it short distance in the future if possible. Not trying to be a downer or anything but from what I've seen long distance relationships don't work long term but again I hope it all goes good for you.