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The Seldom Seen Kid

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The best moments are when I give my crushes personalities.
The worst moments are when I find out what they really are.


As a great man once said: "My memory of you is better than you."
 

Monkfish Acc.

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Zaverexus said:
It may be uncertain and risky at first but I think many people would agree with me when I tell you and all the other people who have expressed your view that when you find someone you are really happy with it's worth it.
If you get close to someone then you don't have that uncertainty because you know them, and you can enjoy your time together. Even if it doesn't last you can still enjoy the time in which it does.
I'm sorry if you haven't found someone with whom you are happy yet but that's no reason to give up on relationships as a whole. If you just don't want that then fine, but don't be bitter about it.
I could never get close enough to someone to not be uncertain. I lack the capacity.
I can't trust people, you see. And I don't want to. It never leads to good things, at best you're simply left vulnerable.
Which is, of course, a perfectly good reason to not get into any mushy tomfoolery with anyone ever. That bullshit is all about trust.

And I'm not bitter about anything, by the way. Bitter would imply bad experience has left me all, to coin a phrase, "butthurt".
I am just a miserable git.
 

Mr.Pandah

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I'd write it out, but man is it long and at this point I feel like I shouldn't be as hurt as I still feel about what happened. I need another woman in my life, but I've yet to find someone to fit the bill. I'll keep looking though. I know it will happen sooner or later, I miss her though...from my previous relationship.
 

Free Thinker

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At this point, I've had more worse than better. The one time I thought a girl was asking me out, it was all a joke and she never even showed up. Everything else afterwards ended up with me being rejected. This last one really stung and still does. I really liked her and it felt genuine. Instead staying friends, we don't even talk to each other anymore. So it's always been a kick in the ribs for me. Excuse my negativity, but I have my reasons.
 

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So I'll pose a question real quick: if a girl you have been friends with for years, flirted with, even talked about a serious relationship with before, and she all of a sudden tells you to fuck off and doesn't talk to you for weeks on end...is that bad or good? Or maybe a better way to pose the question...WTF?

Maybe a stupid question, but hell, its a weird situation that I never saw coming, and I don't get if she is seriously bullshitting me or what. Completely out of the blue, just "Fuck off". Exact quote too.
 

Naheal

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Zaverexus said:
Best/worst love/relationship moments?
I've had more bad than good. It's nice to be with someone who cares about you, but it's a rarity. Worst is when you find that knife in your back.

Comments on love/relationships?
The premise of having a good relationship is nice. The success rate from what I've seen is <1%. I'd love to say that loving someone is well work the risk, but I have yet to see a payoff for the risk involved.

Things that make you think of people you love?
Actually, most of the people that I "love" are closer to friends than actual loved ones. Amusingly, working or research is where I think of people that I actually care about.
 

Eclectic Dreck

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I'm not terribly good at relationships. There was this one girl who meant the world to me. It ended badly as such stories tend to unless contained in a book of fairy tales. I wanted to hate her for it, I really did. But in the end I can't. I went off to fight a war at 21. How could I expect her to wait for me at that age with so much life left to live?

I've dated many women since (and slept with many more than that) but it all seems so meaningless and hollow. It's like I'm doing it because I should. Because perhaps I don't like being without a female companion.
 

Jewrean

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I'm currently seeing this girl. She's great in every way except for one major one. I rarely get through to her on her phone. It's really difficult to organize a date with her and she cancels a lot of our dates because of last minute things. I'm not sure whether or not she is blowing me off (it certainly feels that way sometimes) but to be honest; when we are actually together everything is great and she wants to see me again. I'm confused. Anyway...
 

ThoseTwoDudes

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I believe that love is the most illusionary of emotions. It is just friendship warped by the powers of sexual attraction (have you ever heard of a straight man falling in love with another man? Non-physical but still non-platonic love, of course). I particularly detest the whole "Power of Love" thing, mainly because I believe ambition is the most powerful emotion.
 

ThoseTwoDudes

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RAKtheUndead said:
ThoseTwoDudes said:
I believe that love is the most illusionary of emotions. It is just friendship warped by the powers of sexual attraction (have you ever heard of a straight man falling in love with another man? Non-physical but still non-platonic love, of course). I particularly detest the whole "Power of Love" thing, mainly because I believe ambition is the most powerful emotion.
Hate. Hate is the most powerful emotion. It can't be blunted by common sense like love can.
Whatever floats your boat. Ambition is the most important, however. It is the source of all human achievements.
 

Vault101

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I havnet had much experience but I think I'm just a little too cold hearted for relationships
I don't know why but I really hate romatic crap
 

Kenko

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Never had one. When you're 5'6 in Sweden and a male at that. You're pretty much fucked. You'll most of the time be outright ignored by the opposite sex.
 

badpun

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Best: My first kiss
Worst: Said girl basically ignoring me after kiss and the not even having the decentcy to tell she didn't like me anymore.
 

Prof.Wood

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Best moment: none.
Worst moment: (I used to be a fat kid with no friends, now I'm not fat) when I was about 7 my first kinda Girlfriend told me she was just using me to get back at her american boyfriend then she dumped me. looking back on it now we were only 7 and didn't truly care about each other, but she was the first person who ever smiled at me and it made me feel good and now I always think of that when I talk to girls and I get sad. (I suck)
 

Zaverexus

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Julianking93 said:
*sigh*

Why do these threads keep popping up today?
Again, I apologize to EVERYONE who has seen these threads before, sorry, it was just on my mind. If anyone here doesn't like it then go find another thread and stop telling me about it.
I'm almost beginning to wish I hadn't started this, with how depressed everyone seems about the subject. What a downer...
 

Zaverexus

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RAKtheUndead said:
I don't know how you expect people not to be bitter about this when people not only wipe our faces in the whole "relationships are so awesome; you really must try them" @#!*% , but the one place where we should be able to expect that we might be able to get away from all of that is polluted with this lot of dross.

Also, from my experiences, infatuation - rather than the more physical aspects of attraction - is a nightmarish, malefic, sickening, terrifying emotion which profoundly frightens me beyond any other emotion. Do you really think I want to be reminded of that?
RAKtheUndead said:
ThoseTwoDudes said:
I believe that love is the most illusionary of emotions. It is just friendship warped by the powers of sexual attraction (have you ever heard of a straight man falling in love with another man? Non-physical but still non-platonic love, of course). I particularly detest the whole "Power of Love" thing, mainly because I believe ambition is the most powerful emotion.
Hate. Hate is the most powerful emotion. It can't be blunted by common sense like love can.
Zaverexus said:
Again, I apologize to EVERYONE who has seen these threads before, sorry, it was just on my mind. If anyone here doesn't like it then go find another thread and stop telling me about it.
I'm almost beginning to wish I hadn't started this, with how depressed everyone seems about the subject. What a downer...
Seriously!? If you guys hate this so much then find another thread for Pessimistic Soulless Robots who Complain about the Falsity of Love and bemoan life to your shriveled hearts' content. I give up.
 

HerrBobo

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Zaverexus said:
I'm sure people will call me a dumbass for this, but I remember when I knew I loved my g/f. We were having hot chocolate at a cafe, I went up and got them. One had much more cream and marshmallows then the other. That is the one I gave to her.

Simple as that.
 

LightningBanks

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Novskij said:


Best moment? None
Worst moment? Asked someone out got rejected.
I had a big crush, and pussied out, on asking out.

Socially inept etc etc.

Yea anyway.

Happy for you people to have enjoyed some form of relationship.
In the same boat, pussied out for about 3 months on the 2nd girl I liked because the first one laughed in my face when I asked her.

Ironic thing is, she actually liked me, but met another boy and fell for him instead, so when I asked her, she said no, and 3 weeks later she was her first relationship with this other boy, and as gone as far as completely blanking me as much as possible

Eh, lifes great like that.