RaikuFA said:1. bullshit. ive been trying to get rid of my shyness all my life and no stratedgy works. its a mental disease that cannot be cured
It's about the same for me, except I'm in college (I didn't notice the "not" there). Whenever I talk to somebody, I don't know what to say. Talking about classes is just so generic.AnarchistAbe said:Cause I'm 20, not in college, and don't have many friends. In summary, I don't know people, and I don't know how to meet people :/
Also you have one eye. God if your name is actually true now I'm gonna be the biggest dick in the entire world. So if that is true I don't mean that at all and I'm sure you'll find love with a great partner.Girl With One Eye said:I'm not hot, I don't go to clubs and I don't wear miniskirts. I'm also really really shy.
Not to undermine that insanely long thing you typed there, but love doesn't always come from being together a really long time or enduring hardships. Those things can happen between two people who are already in love. Yeah, I wasn't even with that girl for a year, and yes I was younger, but I felt more strongly about her than I've ever felt about anything or anyone. That feeling never changed, even as I grew older a little and matured a bit. I wasn't going to call you an asshole but the fact that you think it's absolutely impossible for someone who is 16 to be in love, or that you think you can know exactly how I felt about that girl, is ridiculous.Monoochrom said:snipMysticToast said:If you must know, I'm 18 now. And if you would have read my post, you would understand that I said most teenagers don't even experience that feeling. I personally believe it's possible to be in love at that age, if not very rare.Monoochrom said:XD So and how old are you now?MysticToast said:You sound really bitter. Yes, the vast majority of teenagers don't actually know what love is and have never experienced it, but there is a small amount who have.Monoochrom said:Why ofcourse you do, how could I question the vast Knowledge of Love that a 16 year old has?Tom Milner said:that's not what i'm saying. what i AM saying is i have to many disconnections from the average person to find many friends, let alone love.Monoochrom said:You're 16 for fucks sake. You probably don't even know what actual love is yet. Typical Teenager ''Oh woe is me, I am so different, nobody understands me.''Tom Milner said:because after two relationships that have ended disastourously (excuse spelling) i just don't see the point in breaking my back over some girl that doesn't really like me that much.
i know this because IT HAS HAPPENED TWICE. from now on, i'm gonna let love come to me. and should that ever happen, i will eat my shoes, because i'm too different from anyone else to have any more than a short list of similarities with the the same gender, let alone the oppisite.
it'll happen when it happens.
and FYI, people do understand me. mostly.
and yes, i do know what love is and i am very much aware what it feels and looks like.
please don't escalate this into an argument.
So, how long did these ''Relationships'' last? 2 maybe 3 Days, or were they perhaps even weeks? I mean, you must have a huge amount of experience being at the ripe old age of 16. Especially since you are so different, because you know, everyone else is average, but you, nah, you're something else altogether.
I've had one relationship in my life, that was when I was around 15. It was great and lasted for almost a year. Then one day she dumped me out of the blue. I sincerely believe I loved her (and still do). So don't be so quick to judge next time. It's rare for someone that young to experience love, but it happens.
No, I'm not bitter lol, I just find it funny how many people in this Thread are passing out reasons that have precisely jack shit to do with love. And yes, I find it hilarious when a 16 year old thinks he's made suffcient bad experiences to be able to say that love has to come to him now xD
You can't experience love at that age unless you and your partner are under very special circumstances. You might get the feeling of being IN LOVE. But being IN LOVE and knowing what true Love is are very, very different things.
I didn't say I matured substantially since I was 15. Don't put words in my mouth. And you, yourself said it was not impossible, only highly improbable. So why are you finding it so difficult to believe I loved this girl (and still do. You seem to be conveniently ignoring that). Secondly, I'm not saying straight up that what you say is false. I'm saying that you don't always have to go through experiences with the other person to be in love with them.Monoochrom said:You continue to miss the point. There is a difference between being in love and actual love. They are not the same thing. I also didn't say it is impossible, simply highly improbable and yes, actually knowing someone, the good and the bad, having experienced things with them is a base requirement for real love. And really, what are you arguing with here? That one Relationship you had when you were 15. Seriously, do you think you matured substantially in that timeframe at that age? I seriously and wholeheartedly doubt that. Ofcourse you aren't going to agree, you are taking this as a attack afterall, but realize, you have nothing to compare it with, it is litterally all you know, how can you have even the slightest clue if what you experienced was love? How can you actually say to me with a straight face that what I say is false when you don't even know if what you experienced really was true love? You can't, it really is that simple.MysticToast said:Not to undermine that insanely long thing you typed there, but love doesn't always come from being together a really long time or enduring hardships. Those things can happen between two people who are already in love. Yeah, I wasn't even with that girl for a year, and yes I was younger, but I felt more strongly about her than I've ever felt about anything or anyone. That feeling never changed, even as I grew older a little and matured a bit. I wasn't going to call you an asshole but the fact that you think it's absolutely impossible for someone who is 16 to be in love, or that you think you can know exactly how I felt about that girl, is ridiculous.Monoochrom said:snipMysticToast said:If you must know, I'm 18 now. And if you would have read my post, you would understand that I said most teenagers don't even experience that feeling. I personally believe it's possible to be in love at that age, if not very rare.Monoochrom said:XD So and how old are you now?MysticToast said:You sound really bitter. Yes, the vast majority of teenagers don't actually know what love is and have never experienced it, but there is a small amount who have.Monoochrom said:Why ofcourse you do, how could I question the vast Knowledge of Love that a 16 year old has?Tom Milner said:that's not what i'm saying. what i AM saying is i have to many disconnections from the average person to find many friends, let alone love.Monoochrom said:You're 16 for fucks sake. You probably don't even know what actual love is yet. Typical Teenager ''Oh woe is me, I am so different, nobody understands me.''Tom Milner said:because after two relationships that have ended disastourously (excuse spelling) i just don't see the point in breaking my back over some girl that doesn't really like me that much.
i know this because IT HAS HAPPENED TWICE. from now on, i'm gonna let love come to me. and should that ever happen, i will eat my shoes, because i'm too different from anyone else to have any more than a short list of similarities with the the same gender, let alone the oppisite.
it'll happen when it happens.
and FYI, people do understand me. mostly.
and yes, i do know what love is and i am very much aware what it feels and looks like.
please don't escalate this into an argument.
So, how long did these ''Relationships'' last? 2 maybe 3 Days, or were they perhaps even weeks? I mean, you must have a huge amount of experience being at the ripe old age of 16. Especially since you are so different, because you know, everyone else is average, but you, nah, you're something else altogether.
I've had one relationship in my life, that was when I was around 15. It was great and lasted for almost a year. Then one day she dumped me out of the blue. I sincerely believe I loved her (and still do). So don't be so quick to judge next time. It's rare for someone that young to experience love, but it happens.
No, I'm not bitter lol, I just find it funny how many people in this Thread are passing out reasons that have precisely jack shit to do with love. And yes, I find it hilarious when a 16 year old thinks he's made suffcient bad experiences to be able to say that love has to come to him now xD
You can't experience love at that age unless you and your partner are under very special circumstances. You might get the feeling of being IN LOVE. But being IN LOVE and knowing what true Love is are very, very different things.