Preamble: I didn't see a discussion about this, and the search proved unfruitful, though my inexperience may account for that.
So; Have you ever been in love? How many times, or with how many people? Do you subscribe to the notion that there is only one 'true-love' (soulmate?) for each person? Or do you think that love is simply the by-product of a biochemical system? Can you love more than one person at one time? Do you have any general expositions or have you had any fundamental breakthroughs related to love?
Clarity: I'm asking about the more amorous species of love which one feels intensely for the object of one's desire in another; not the species felt between close friends, family or between a person and a concept or object (e.g. I love new things/ these jeans).
I'll get the ball a-rolling:
I'm in my early 20s, and I've been in love with 3 people. They were all female. It was different each time (which contributes considerably to my difficulty in defining love), though no less wondrous in each instance. I like to think I have a good degree of control when it comes to this, and I know I've deliberately prevented myself from falling in love with a fourth girl, although having said that, with two of my three, I just had a dream (a conventional dream, I guess, in my sleep) and when I woke up I felt completely, intensely different about the person therein. I think that love is a product of our biological evolution, that it serves to draw us to sexually compatible partners, but also that it's not entirely reliable in this role, and that given our over-developed cognitive capacity, it can take on other dimensions. I believe it has a significant chemical AND mental component. I have been in love with more than one person at a time, so, as I define it at least, I believe that one can be in love with more than one person at once. Also, I don't think its a black or white, is or is not situation, I think that there are shades of grey, and it becomes love when that's what you call it. So, I've had some close ones too, but they didn't make the criteria. There's more, but I'd like to see what people make of the thread and perhaps chip it in later.
Forgive my somewhat formal and detached writing style, it tends to assume me when I think.
So, I'm curious. What of others?
Ah, and before I forget; Hi there. I'm new this morning, I'm GuideBot, it's good to meet you all.
So; Have you ever been in love? How many times, or with how many people? Do you subscribe to the notion that there is only one 'true-love' (soulmate?) for each person? Or do you think that love is simply the by-product of a biochemical system? Can you love more than one person at one time? Do you have any general expositions or have you had any fundamental breakthroughs related to love?
Clarity: I'm asking about the more amorous species of love which one feels intensely for the object of one's desire in another; not the species felt between close friends, family or between a person and a concept or object (e.g. I love new things/ these jeans).
I'll get the ball a-rolling:
I'm in my early 20s, and I've been in love with 3 people. They were all female. It was different each time (which contributes considerably to my difficulty in defining love), though no less wondrous in each instance. I like to think I have a good degree of control when it comes to this, and I know I've deliberately prevented myself from falling in love with a fourth girl, although having said that, with two of my three, I just had a dream (a conventional dream, I guess, in my sleep) and when I woke up I felt completely, intensely different about the person therein. I think that love is a product of our biological evolution, that it serves to draw us to sexually compatible partners, but also that it's not entirely reliable in this role, and that given our over-developed cognitive capacity, it can take on other dimensions. I believe it has a significant chemical AND mental component. I have been in love with more than one person at a time, so, as I define it at least, I believe that one can be in love with more than one person at once. Also, I don't think its a black or white, is or is not situation, I think that there are shades of grey, and it becomes love when that's what you call it. So, I've had some close ones too, but they didn't make the criteria. There's more, but I'd like to see what people make of the thread and perhaps chip it in later.
Forgive my somewhat formal and detached writing style, it tends to assume me when I think.
So, I'm curious. What of others?
Ah, and before I forget; Hi there. I'm new this morning, I'm GuideBot, it's good to meet you all.
