Love.

[Brad Shepard]

Im in love right now, and its amazing, owr relactionship is great and im so glad that ive meet her

 

[Jaranja]

Hi GuideBot, welcome to the Escapist

I am 19, have been in love twice and they both broke my heart so love is a device created to generate money from people like me!

There may or may not be a "true love" for everyone, I'll get back to you if I die alone

I'll agree that 'love' is created.

I've never been in 'love' and doubt I'll ever be bothered to feel that much emotion for anyone. Love always leads to heartbreak. You're just setting your self up for a landslide.

'Love' is created to cause pain, in my eyes.

Is it an extreme version of liking someone or is it actually real and spiritual?

[sub]I doubt it, bullshit is bullshit.[/sub]

 

[johnman]

I think I am and it sucks.

 

[driveBYargument]

Call me the hopeless romantic but I've been in love quite a few times. Though what you see is not necessarily what you get. I'm not quick to act on my feelings until I've sorted them out and answer my own questions. I also don't invest myself until I can sort out exactly who the other person is. Because of this I only officially had 3 real girlfriends since the age 16 (I am 23 and currently single). I believe love is something that goes beyond general liking or disliking of someone. Love is something you feel that goes beyond that where you can talk for hours about something stupid and still enjoy the conversation. Where you laugh at the same things. Its a connection in the general sense, but not something I can clearly define.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

i've been in love once, and that made me vulnerable, and that vulnerability costed me...

 

[Paksenarrion]

There is no such thing as love. Only lust.

...which is clearly a publicity stunt for Dante's Inferno.

 

[Orcus The Ultimate]

I want to add to the discussion, but I feel confused. I have to ask...

...What is Love?

"baby don't hurt no more!"

 

[uncle-ellis]

I'm in love,

I lover her and she barely knows I exist,

How sad is that.

 

[sumanoskae]

It's simple really, not to sound like a douche but love doesnt exsist. I made an account just to reply to this, love is a simple reaction of chemicals in the brain mixed with lust and backed up by a pipe dream. I believe some of us were made together in heaven AS A FAMILY. Love is just way to stupid in this generation. You have all those wannabe's with their shorts below their sandals and girls with shirts so small its like their rubber bands. No love is just now a distorted excuse for idiots who ruin their lives, if you let your heart open its like taking off your clothes and running through a fire, your going to get burned and the thrill may have made you feel great but in the end you'll regret it (so will your best friend in your pants) so I say screw love i don't see the point in it and anyone whoever does love is a loser.

Dude, expressing your point of view is fine, but you don't have to be a dick about

"anyone who does love is a looser"

So if anyone disagrees with you and decides that... say, if they were to avoid everything that would hurt them at some point then they might as well commit suicide right now, because life itself hurts in the end... they're a looser

The thing is, just like all emotions, you have to be willing to accept both sides of the equation. Sure, I could numb myself to the point of never feeling sad, but I would never be happy either

People are who they are because of what they experience, just because an experience is hurtful doesn't mean it's not important

P.S: So... what happened to you to cause you shut yourself off and decide to tell yourself that love can't exist so you therefore don't need it, and your previous relationship has no power whatsoever. And ask your parents if they regret it

 

[ScarlettRage]

i have been in love twice in my life, once right now, the other time was a long time ago, i am a believer

 

[rossatdi]

That being said, I do not believe that love is the sum response of nuerotransmitters being released into the brain as a product of evolution. It makes less sense from an evolutionary standpoint to only have one partner as it narrows the gene pool.

I'm not sure that's really very true as a number of animals mate for life (swans of the top of my head but there are others). The evolutionary argument is that a long term couple can better support a smaller number of children. Additionally, competition between males is dangerous enough without it being a yearly routine even for those how find a mate!

 

[CincoDeMayo]

First off, welcome to the Escapist, GuideBot!

Love is a tricky thing, but I can only think of one person I've ever truly been in love with. We were together for almost 2 years, and some of those feelings are still present to this day, a year and a half after breaking up. I've been thinking that maybe I should see other people, but things were so easy back when we met and it's kinda scary when I think of giving dating a try, since I'm older and more mature than I was then. It's just not as easy as it was back then.

 

[Broady Brio]

Alot of people believe they are in love. It's just lust really. Or maybe it isn't, I haven't had this feeling.

 

[GuideBot]

Wow. I just signed in for a quick check before I crash out; some epic responses. It's refreshing to see the variety of experiences and opinions, from the blissful to the burned.

I'd like to write more, and respond to many of the points raised, particularly a few with which I feel I must retort. However, I just saw myself in a mirror, which confirmed what I already knew; I'm so very tired.

I'll be on in the morning with a recharged cogniscence. Till then.

Oh, and thanks for the warm welcomes!

*crashes*

 

[Amberella]

I am currently head over heels! The real stuff too, not the fake stuff...

Oh me too! ;D

Tom <333

 

[CK76]

I doubt I'll ever really meet anyone for me, so I've pretty much given up on it. Call this standard teenage angst if you will, it probably is.

Ah, Furburt, my Irish friend, I think you're just fine fella. Lots of time left on this planet.

It is not easy for many of us to experience it. It cuts to the core of our being, all the levels of emotional armor torn asunder and we see ourselves for what we are in those moments and either we, or the other person turns away. High risk and capacity for pain that doesn't leave easily. Still, completely worth it, regardless of what cynics say that rarest of emotions is still awe inspiring and best part of living.

Best of luck to you good sir!

 

[Asturiel]

Well, my heart tells me I'm in love but my mind tells me that's just emotional teenage bullshit.

Stole the words right out of my keyboard!

I think there's a distinction between being 'in love' (that first rush of passion) and 'Love'. I don't think that in-loveness is bad, but it's different. Allow me to quote:

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two." - Doctor Iannis, Captain Corelli's Mandolin

This says it so well. I have read tons of relationship - guidance books, and they all make this distinction between being 'in love' and Love. I am 'in love' with my fiance - head over heels. But we are both making a huge effort to Love each other as well. The passion and romance is wonderful, but what I value most is the companionship, trust and commitment. We work so hard at communicating and telling each other everything. There's not a thing, good or bad, we don't know about each other. Really, it's such an odd feeling, because it doesn't feel like we're two separate people anymore. We want to make sure it lasts, and that takes hard work.
I'd guess (without knowing) that you've experienced the in-loveness, which is great. Real Love is different - it's a lot more effort, to start with! Do tell me if I'm wrong - I don't want to be patronising.

Extremely true, however I am an emotionally unstable teenager so 'in love' will have to do

I've been in love once but never loved back.

My love life is absolute shit. Actually, my social life in general is absolute shit.

I smell little to no fecies around you Julian.

Your internet social life is good and thats what matters

OT: Its fucking weird, I dont know if the universe is trying to push me or hurt me for thehell of it. Everytime something happens along the lines of the person I'm in a relationship with and other things, I see her...

Just as I was typing this response she walked by and we said hi... so I dont know. Likely not I probably just like her alot...

 

[Souplex]

The French invented love, so they could put a civilized face on a primal urge. Just because you cover your genitals with boxes of chocolate, doesn't mean they aren't there.

 

[An Gealt]

ok...pretty simple
I've been in love once, and now i can do nearly nothing without it affecting me
My view is simply....love sucks

 

[Loop Stricken]

I still pine for a girl I never spoke to in three years and haven't seen in seven months. Does that count?