Man informs stranger is wife is potentially cheating, starts controversy

[The Lunatic]

Personally, I'm of the opinion that if you don't want to get publicly called out for cheating on your significant other, don't publicly cheat on your significant other.

 

[Thyunda]

I think it would have been best for him to not say anything. He doesn't know the greater context. She could have been philandering, or it could have been a sick friend or family member, or maybe a friend or family member who's on vacation somewhere. Perhaps he saw enough to be reasonably suspicious, but it's still not worth potentially causing a rift in some stranger's relationship over something which may or may not actually be a problem. I can see how her telling a male friend she'd rather be with them could be cheating, but I also see how it could be her just not wanting to be at the game and telling a friend she'd rather be someplace they are.

It was really just none of his damn business.

In his defence, however, he only drew attention to it. It's not like he openly stated "bro trust me she's banging this dude", he merely told him what the text said.

 

[Phasmal]

That's dumb. He should mind his own damn business.

If you read my texts to my boyfriend they're like `Don't forget to do this thing for gods sake`.
And if you read my texts to say one of my girl friends they're like `Lets talk about Dragon Age later I love you, you perfect human being`.

So I guess I'm straight up cheating on my dude. I should have known.

Long story short without context you're dumb.

 

[Grouchy Imp_v1legacy]

If this lass hadn't been texting another fella this guy would be rightly slated for intruding on this woman's privacy and reading her private messages without her knowledge or consent, but now because she was caught doing something wrong then he's a 'good Samaritan' and his actions are defensible? Yeah, not buying it. Regardless of whether those texts were suspicious or innocent, he shouldn't have been reading them in the first place.

somehow i doubt that would be the case if the genders of the people involved where reversed.
and before you flip, NO i dont know the whole story, maybe it IS just a big misunderstanding. and YES, he did have no business reading her phone.
BUT STILL, if you know someone is potentially cheating on someone else and you do nothing about it... your just as bad.
plus if she is cheating, she has some BALLS texting her side guy next to her boyfriend. in a crowded stadium no less.

just super sayin'... 4

Gonna have to disagree with you there. If all someone has is an unfounded, out-of-context suspicion that something like that is going on then getting involved will nearly always end badly. Being told that your partner is cheating on you is devastating news, and giving someone that news based only on a hunch is an incredibly cavalier way of behaving. Yeah, sometimes getting involved will hit the nail on the head and save someone some heartache, but most of the time the Good Samaritan will be wrong and sow seeds of mistrust into what had been a perfectly healthy relationship for no other reason than their own sense of pious highhandedness.

Not telling someone when you know that their partner is cheating on them might make you complicit, but telling someone that their partner is cheating on them when they're not? That's all levels of fucked up and no-one with even a shred of decency should ever put themselves in a position where they might do that, even through an honest misunderstanding.

 

[Kathinka]

Personally, I'm of the opinion that if you don't want to get publicly called out for cheating on your significant other, don't publicly cheat on your significant other.

This right there. Don't want to be exposed as a whore, don't act like a whore.
If I were, in whatever way, to see something like this, I'd let the boyfriend know. For one simple reason: If I was in his position, I sure as hell would want to know too.

 

[DayDark]

Personally, I'm of the opinion that if you don't want to get publicly called out for cheating on your significant other, don't publicly cheat on your significant other.

This right there. Don't want to be exposed as a whore, don't act like a whore.
If I were, in whatever way, to see something like this, I'd let the boyfriend know. For one simple reason: If I was in his position, I sure as hell would want to know too.

While I agree with the opinion, could we call her a cheater or emotional manipulator, or just unfaithful hag, *****? I know whore is usually associated with sleeping with a a lot of people, and while that is usually an occupational "hazard" of being a prostitute, I still think it's a mislabel, since she isn't exactly getting payed for sex, and the main issue really is that she allegedly slept with more than just one more than allowed.


...I just feel whores have a bad rap man.

 

[SNCommand]

As I see it, if she is not doing something wrong then it's nothing wrong, just something for the couple to shrug at and forget

If she is cheating then her partner should know, either way it's better if he knows than continue to be unaware

Only problem is if the guy is one of those, "You send messages without my approval! Time to knock out your teeth!", but considering she dared to send these texts in public that seems very unlikely and the possibility of the man being misled and hurt seems far greater

 

[gmaverick019_v1legacy]

If I lived in a city that actually used public transportation, and it was high volume trafficking, I wouldn't give a shit if the person next to me was watching what I was saying or not, if I found it urgent enough to text at that moment then I don't really care what people around me think

I live in a city with public transporation (I use it on a daily basis). If you look at the screen of other peoples phones and read them you are a fucking creep. People don't like that and call you out on this. Some less pleasant than others.

Yes, you might not care. But frankly, if you care doesn't matter. Other people do. It is basic manners to not read the private messages of other people. You don't do this with books or letters someone might read in the bus or train, why is it a-okay with phones?

It is not even hard to not read the texts. It actually takes concentration and effort to read them, it doesn't take either to not do that.

it's been a while so I've kinda lost any oomph I had for this story originally, and while I have no problem with someone calling it out, it doesn't mean it doesn't happen, hell I see it happening in the grocery store when you're waiting in line, and that's even less traffic than public transportation.

"don't do this with books or letters"...funny enough, I've seen people do just that, with both books and letters. not that I'm dismissing your example, it's just funny that I've literally seen it with my own two eyes. books and letters tend to have alot more bloated information and don't have a backlit screen enhancing the words on them, so those don't typically follow what I had mentioned beforehand on simply having your eyes go over something and capturing it.

I'd already admitted that this was a kinda douchey thing to do, but the whole cheating bit is what I was more passionate about, as I fucking can't stand cheating fuckfaces, so unless you're going to discuss that, then I probably won't respond regarding public privacy.