Marriage

[ThaBenMan]

My sister is getting married tomorrow, so my thoughts have turned to the institution of marriage. Naturally, I would like to hear from my dear Escapians on the matter -

Are you married? If not, do you plan to be in the future? Have you ever been part of someone else's marriage (like as a groomsman or bridesmaid)? Do you have any funny or interesting wedding stories?

Last summer, I was a groomsman in my friend's wedding. We all wore kilts It was... an experience.

My friend Kenny on his wedding day, looking very spiffy in his kilt

 

[Hazy]

I'm not a marriage kind of guy, but if I did it would probably involve kilts too (and no I'm not Scottish, I just want kilts).

The manliest of all fashionable attire if I do say so myself.

 

[Drummerstixz]

My high school sweetheart found my phone number when she was cleaning out her room 4 years after we had broken up...we dated for 3 months and have been happily married for 4 years...we got married by a priest at a city hall.

 

[Ghost]

at some point probably bu- KILTS? HAHA sounds err, fun?

 

[SharPhoe]

I'm not a marriage kind of guy, but if I did it would probably involve kilts too (and no I'm not Scottish, I just want kilts).

The manliest of all fashionable attire if I do say so myself.

I'd have to third that opinion. XD

Anyway, I would like to get married someday. "Like to" being the key words here. Certain have to be passed first, of course.

 

[razer17]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

 

[MarsProbe]

Am I married? No. I can't say anything as concrete as that I plan to get married in the future, but I would like to eventually. Of course, it's not the sort of thing you can just wake up and decide to do one day.

I was fairly recently (just last year) a witness at a friends wedding. Seemingly it as something to do with the law - they were having their ceremony down in England but had to have the actual legal process here in Scotland due to their not being resident in England, something like that.

I haven't been a best man, I'm not actually sure I know anyone who would ask me for such a thing, though I could be wrong...

 

[Dragonnights]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

ummm... thats one of those things that don't really get outdated

 

[razer17]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

ummm... thats one of those things that don't really get outdated

yes they do. less and less people get married. if only governments gave the similar rights to cohabiting couples it would be fine. otherwise i find marriage is an old religious tradition that is no longer really valid im modern society.

 

[Jak The Great]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%).

I think that this is the result of our society, and how it views working at something (not your personal views, but the '50% of the time'part) Marriage is a commitment in which you vow to share everything about who you are to another person. The reason the divorce rate is so high is that people get into marriages that they shouldn't have been in in the first place, or fail to accept what kind of responsibility will go with it. If something goes wrong, they bail instead of trying to work things out.

When you enter into a marriage and don't really have your eyes set on the long term goal, it is going to fail. If there is something you don't like about your partner, instead of trying to address it, you bail. Extenuating circumstances aside, most marriages fail because of a lack of responsibility.

That being said, what would be difference in your opinion between cohabiting and having a family, and being married and having a family? They sure sound like the same thing to me, but don't have the dreaded 'commitment' word that marriage associates with it.

 

[razer17]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%).

That being said, what would be difference in your opinion between cohabiting and having a family, and being married and having a family? They sure sound like the same thing to me, but don't have the dreaded 'commitment' word that marriage associates with it.

its not the commitment. its partially the religious connotations that marriage brings. then theres the trouble you have if/when you get divorced. the purpose of marriage is to have sex and make babies, which might have been very relevant in ye olde dayes, but not so much now in a society where unmarried parents are common occurance

 

[Dragonnights]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

ummm... thats one of those things that don't really get outdated

yes they do. less and less people get married. if only governments gave the similar rights to cohabiting couples it would be fine. otherwise i find marriage is an old religious tradition that is no longer really valid im modern society.

Whatever if you what to die alone thats your choice, but theres a lot of people out there that do what to get married not for money, but because they love each other.(that last put sounded a little mushy but o well)

 

[The_Deleted]

My other half is always banging on about Marriage, but I just don't see the point.
I don't have a lot of time for Church & State so why should I be 'legally' with someone just because 'the man' has said it's OK?

If I love someone. I stay with them. If I don't, it's done.

I do like those 'Game Over' T shirts, though.

 

[razer17]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

ummm... thats one of those things that don't really get outdated

yes they do. less and less people get married. if only governments gave the similar rights to cohabiting couples it would be fine. otherwise i find marriage is an old religious tradition that is no longer really valid im modern society.

Whatever if you what to die alone thats your choice, but theres a lot of people out there that do what to get married not for money, but because they love each other.(that last put sounded a little mushy but o well)

i didnt realise not getting married was synonymous with dying lonely? i never received that email clearly. i plan on having a family, just i doubt ill get married. i still intend on finding love, living together, etc.

 

[quiet_samurai]

I'm just too damn terrified of commitment to get married. I mean, i can't even bring myself to get a fucking tatoo because they last forever, and i have four already drawn out and where to put them.

Also I think the reason so many marriages fail is because poeple feel that they have to get married. The old "we've been dating for years so we might as well get married" reason is ridiculous to me. Or they will rush into marriage because everyone in their family thinks it needs to happen, which is pure bullshit, it's not up to others, not even your family. Also there is a higher divorce rate today because it no longer puts a black mark on you're social status like it used to. So yeah I think marriage is no longer necessary in today's society. That and I just love strange.......

 

[sky14kemea]

congrats to your sister! =D

i dont plan to get married, it all depends on whether i meet someone or not

 

[ThaBenMan]

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

Thank you for the good wishes. And it is too bad that so many marriages end in divorce like that. I'm not sure if I'll ever be married (hell, I don't even have a girlfriend). If I do, I'm going to have a small marriage with as little stress as possible - my sister is kind of blowing more money than is really needed, and stressing some people out (like my poor mom) pretty badly =/

 

[Jak The Great]

its not the commitment. its partially the religious connotations that marriage brings. then theres the trouble you have if/when you get divorced. the purpose of marriage is to have sex and make babies, which might have been very relevant in ye olde dayes, but not so much now in a society where unmarried parents are common occurance

If that were the case, and marriage was for sex and babies, why would anyone want to be monotonous? the more partners you have the more babies you have, right? (speaking from a guys view)
From what I see, that argument against marriage makes no sense. In fact it makes an argument for polygamy.

 

[Dragonnights]

i guess your right on that everyone has there views on this soft of thing.

i dont intend to get married, i feel it is an outdated tradition, that 50% of the time ends in divorce ( or approaching 50%). that said in the future i might end up getting married, but i feel cohabiting and having a family is fine, if only it gave the same legal rights.

all that said best of luck to your sister.

ummm... thats one of those things that don't really get outdated

yes they do. less and less people get married. if only governments gave the similar rights to cohabiting couples it would be fine. otherwise i find marriage is an old religious tradition that is no longer really valid im modern society.

Whatever if you what to die alone thats your choice, but theres a lot of people out there that do what to get married not for money, but because they love each other.(that last put sounded a little mushy but o well)

i didnt realise not getting married was synonymous with dying lonely? i never received that email clearly. i plan on having a family, just i doubt ill get married. i still intend on finding love, living together, etc.

i guess your right on that, but everyone has there views on this sort of thing. but people here are always hellbent on there way.

 

[ThaBenMan]

congrats to your sister! =D

i dont plan to get married, it all depends on whether i meet someone or not

Thank you!

And I guess in the op I didn't phrase that quite right - nobody plans to get married, really, until it's almost time to actually be married.