tyriless said:
Yeah, but masterbating to child pornagraphy actively fetishizes a child. It reinforces children as desirable sexual objects., tying it to sexual arousal. That makes that person the very definition of a pedophile already: a person who is sexually attracted to children. Don't tell me that a pedophile is going to stop being sexually attracted to child once he/she puts their porn away. The brain doesn't work like that.
Nor can you tell me that a rape fetishist is going to stop being sexually attracted to the notion of raping a person once they put their porn away, because as you said, the brain doesn't work like that.
If they know right from wrong, the rape fetishist and the paedophile are equally harmless.
If they know not right from wrong, the rape fetishist and the paedophile are equally monstrous.
The only thing a pedophile can do at that point is choose not to in indulge in temptation. However, that person will still be aroused around children and only their rational is keeping them from acting on their desire. I certainly do not want my family near someone with that struggle going on in their head.
Do you also not want your family near anyone who has violent sexual urges in their head? You may need to move to the Ozarks to make that happen.
.. as per people who play violent video games, as per people with rape fetishes, violent sex fetishes, etc. Virtually anyone is a threat to snap to a small percentage like this -- this is where we get "going postal" from, right?
Yeah, here is the thing with those sexaul fetishes: we can explore them in roleplay with a concenting adult. A big freaking difference there.
But we aren't talking about roleplaying with consenting adults, we're talking about creating media from whole cloth, involving and harming no real persons. Please revisit your argument with that in mind.
And, incidentally, advocates against violent pornography (even when done by consenting adults) make the exact same "gateway" argument. Eventually, no amount of "consenting-ly pretending to strike/choke/rape your real-life partner" is going to suffice, they say, and they will snap and do the real thing because they cannot control their urges.
In a nutshell, this woman abandoned her three children for over a week, to the point where one died of severe malnutrition and two of them were on death's door. I am taking all even-money bets (even charity bets, or 'pride bets') that this woman will do less time in jail for her ACTUAL harm to three children than what this guy did for having a cartoon.
Sorry, but this *****'s good fortune of getting away with monstrous neglect has nothing to do with this pedophile. The world's unfair. If your bets are right, you need to call the judge out on being sexist prick, and elect one that is going punish both genders equally.
It is absolutely germane to the discussion. This is not one "lucky sentence", it is a strong recurring pattern. We, as a society, routinely come softer on a mother who actually harms her own children, than we have done on this man. I cited the Andrea Yates case above. This man is going to get more prison and less help for what he did. Is that not proof that we, as a society, are letting stigmas cloud our better judgment?
Given that he hid it completely from the world, it seems pretty obvious that he had zero difficulty leading a normal life. He had a normal sexual relationship with an adult (a HUGE positive indicator, the vast majority of child-abuse-level paedophiles can never have such).
Successfully hiding lust for children doesn't stop someone from being a pedophile nor does banging a consenting adult. It's just means that they have decided up to that point not to go out and score with a minor (yay?).
It just means that they thoroughly know right from wrong, and that they are no more a risk to "snap" than any of the millions of kinky adults in North America are to "snap" and start acting out their sexual urges in real life.
I will agree that it does not stop him from being a paedophile, the definition of which (to my understanding) is any attraction whatsoever to pre-pubescent children (compared to ephebophilia, which is an attraction PRIMARLY to the young but clearly post-pubescent, given how incredibly common an occasional occurrence is).
Where we disagree is whether this makes him a risk to be a child molestor. You seem to be subscribing to the equating of the two that is prevalent in our society. The vast majority of paedophiles are not child molestors.
In short, here is where you and I disagree. You see child pornagraphy (that does not actually contain real pictures of children) as a safe outlet for someone to indulge in harmless sexual fantasy.
To clarify:
My stated position is that cartoons and written depictions of sex with children are no more problematic than cartoons or written depictions of violent sex, rape fantasies, murder fantasies and the like. Whether or not it's a "safe outlet", I have only pointed to two things:
* Similar arguments about the escalation of 'indulgence unto reality' have been given ad nauseam about violent videogames, and we as a community find THEM wanting, and
* There is ANECTODAL evidence suggesting that it is a safe outlet, given Japan's substantially lower rape and violent crime per-capita rate (and all violent crime across the board, relative to the US) and the disparity between paedophilia rates (6-9%) and child abuse rates (0.2-0.4%)
As if it is some sort of phase, like some people go through phases when they like to watch midgets do it.
Not in the least; I only claim that it is like all other fetishes in the following key ways:
1) No one asked to be born 'liking' it, so judging someone based on their fetish IN AND OF ITSELF is unfair.
2) If a human being knows right from wrong, they will always be able to separate masturbating to their sexual fetish by themselves, from roleplaying it with an adult, and separate both from acting it out on a non-consenting party; if they do NOT know right from wrong, they are monsters that should be expunged from society IRRESPECTIVE of what their fetish is.
I cannot help but judge harsher a non-paedophile who harms a child than a paedophile who never does harm a child, and this set of morals enables me to do so.
I doubt I am going to convince you an you sure as hell can't convince me
Of course not, but entertaining opposing viewpoints is the hallmark of an enlightened mind.
but I thought this might be a great rehearsal if I catch someone masterbating to lolicon. I'll save this conversation and print it up when I explain to him/her why I won't let them be near any kids.
I only ask that you A) never remove any of my quotes from context and B) never imply that I indulge in written or cartoon depictions myself, simply because I defend their right to exist -- statements made explicitly by me earlier in the thread. Other than that, if I've helped you understand and explore your position, it's been my honor to do so.