sumanoskae said:
Objectification
People seem to think that expressing even remote sexual interest is tantamount to assault, unless you dress it up in insincere emotional bullshit about how much you love and respect the person you've never had so much as five minute conversation with.
When I say someone is pretty, I just mean that they're pretty, I'm not trying to convince them to come live in my fucking basement.
NO, BUT BY SAYING THEY ARE PRETTY YOU ARE JUST REDUCING THAT BEAUTIFUL WOMAN OR MAN OR TORTOISE WITH A WONDERFUL PERSONALITY TO NOTHING BUT THEIR LOOKS! REALLY, YOU CISGEN WHITE ULTRA NEO NAZI HITLERIATES SHOULD KNOW THAT YOU MUST BE ABLE TO KNOW EVERY SINGLE FACET OF A PERSON BEFORE COMMENTING ON ANYTHING ABOUT THEM, WITH A LEAST 5 FEATURES LISTED AND NO ASSUMPTIONS BECAUSE EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD IS TELEPATHIC DIDN'T YOU KNOW?
Yeah. I agree.
OT:
Assumptions/Stereotypes/Tropes(sort of) = TERRIBLE THING TO DO OR ACT ON!
The idea that assumptions are bad. I'm sorry to say it, but the entire basis of human interaction is based off of assumptions. If I want to talk to a guy or gal and I see that they are wearing a snap back backwards with a way overstyled iPhone case they they are loudly playing rap and techno out of, I can assume that they probably won't want to sit and discuss the points and merits of Lord of the Flies with me (THEN AGAIN, WHO THE HELL WOULD?!?). However, if I rolled up with some sweet kicks and my own, better snapback, they'll likely have something in common with me that I could talk about. Then again, I could have been entirely wrong and they DO want to discuss literature, but it's far more likely that I would have more luck trying the obvious routes.
It's a basic standard for interacting with anyone you don't know. It's why what you wear, do, and act like matter a lot the first time you meet someone, because to them you are literally anyone until they see:
That you wear a halo shirt = likes gaming, but maybe just console?
Listening to music in while watching phone = probably surfing web, maybe could talk about music?
Say g'day mate! = AUSTRALIAN AS YA MOTHERS MUNT MATE!
It's our way of dealing with things unknown until we can actually learn more about them, so I hate it when people instantly consider that you stereotyped the dude bro smashing a can on his head to probably like things or hate things that stereotype like or hate, or when media might use a stereotype of something (say, the characters first scene is him laughing at some cartoons while eating pizza and smoking weed. Therefore, we the reader/watcher assume he will be a stoner type character).
While our assumptions MIGHT be completely wrong, we assume the most likely thing for the best chance of success, and if we get it wrong? "Nah mate, I'm not from Australia, I just talk like this."
PROBLEM FECKING SOLVED! Better than talking to a fucking whiteboard and having to assume nothing until you draw the goddamn picture.