I can't believe it's taken me this long to bust this one out, but here we go:
Neon Genesis Evangelion is a maddeningly overrated, incoherent, hypocritical, badly told, confused mess, and the only version of its main storyline that's even close to competent is the manga. The only reason it's even remembered is because of how it imploded from episode 18 onwards. You can throw out buzzword excuses like "deconstruction" or "subversion" all you want, but that doesn't save it from bad worldbuilding, unlikable characters, muddled messages and pointless filler.
FIght me motherfuckers.