My close friend needs help.

[Burningsok]

This sort of hit me today and I finally got off my butt and got on here to ask for advice on what to do. I'll try not to tell you everything since it would be veerry long. Please be serious about this. My friend is going through a whole lot of shit, and it's hard sometimes to comfort her and give her good advice on what to do.

So anyways, I've known this girl for 2 1/2 years. for a while now she has had major problems with depression and anxiety, not only that but she was diagnosed with diabetes, and she has a bit of a thyroid problem. Her depression and anxiety get so bad she tries to commit suicide, but she is always able to pull herself away which from what I know means that she still wants to live, she's afraid of death. added on top of this she has family problems, she cuts herself, and it makes me sad every time she does it. She says its very very hard trying to tell anyone about her problems. She feels like it will get out to people, that she will be judge and that the help she wants to find won't be enough.

I know some of you might say she's doing this for attention, but please I know she isn't. She's had a lot of this locked up inside her and it's hurting her.

I most likely will be seeing her in a month or so.

I want some advice on what to say to her and how to comfort her. She means a lot to me. It doesn't need to be a lot. It can be simple.

Thank you

 

[Elephant Walker19]

1. tell her that not to cut herself because she wants to live and one day she might cut artery and die.
2.what kind of famliy problems?
3.i'd recommend telling her to she a counselor if she is willing to.

 

[Benefactor]

That sounds like a fairly bad situation. I would say it's hard to make a good assessment without knowing a lot about your friend, but I wouldn't advise that you post a lot of personal information on here.

Being there for someone generally helps. As long as you're not a terrible, terrible person, just the presence of someone who cares would help at the very least.

Knowing more about said family problems would do a lot to help. It's a very broad term that could be the difference between whether her parents would be willing, or have gotten her professional help.

Does she have an outlet of any kind? One of my friends in high school had family problems, and I helped her by packing up my bass, bringing it to her house, and just jamming with her. I would suggest finding something like that.

Good luck.

 

[Marter]

Basically, you need to get her to really open up to you. Letting out what is bothering you is the first stage in the recovery process. Not knowing all the details, I can't exactly tell you what to say, but reassure her that you are there for her, and try to get her to tell you what is going on inside.

I wish you luck.

 

[child of lileth]

I stopped reading at suicide. Anyone who threatens it, won't do it. Anyone who never mentions it, and never attempts it, will do it first try. I'm sorry for her actual problems (thyroids and so on that you mentioned), but I can't stand people that threaten suicide for attention.

 

[Burningsok]

1. tell her that not to cut herself because she wants to live and one day she might cut artery and die.
2.what kind of famliy problems?
3.i'd recommend telling her to she a counselor if she is willing to.

She has been with a counselor for a while now, but unfortunately it hasn't been all that good. Some of them get really pushy and she is trying to ease in and gain their trust so that she can have the courage to get it all out.

 

[Burningsok]

Basically, you need to get her to really open up to you. Letting out what is bothering you is the first stage in the recovery process. Not knowing all the details, I can't exactly tell you what to say, but reassure her that you are there for her, and try to get her to tell you what is going on inside.

I wish you luck.

She has with alot of things. Things she has never told anyone else, until a little while ago when she started opening up a bit with her therapist.

 

[Burningsok]

I stopped reading at suicide. Anyone who threatens it, won't do it. Anyone who never mentions it, and never attempts it, will do it first try. I'm sorry for her actual problems (thyroids and so on that you mentioned), but I can't stand people that threaten suicide for attention.

Well she never threatens to me that she is going to kill herself, she's told me that she has contemplated it. She has been close to doing it once. And please next time read the whole damn post.

 

[DMonkey]

Have her seek professional help. Something more then just a counselor.
The sooner the better.

 

[Drakmeire]

there is honestly nothing we can do, this is one of those situations you have to figure out for yourself, the internet is never a good place to get advice of this magnitude.

 

[Fusoiya]

Just try and stay in contact with her if you really do care, make sure she understands that there are people who want her to stay alive and that she can always get free hugz from you(?) whenever she needs one.

(>^.^)>

Yes, I'm serious. A positive look to the world can change anyones view of theirselves.

 

[Elephant Walker19]

what about the famliy problems?

 

[Marter]

Basically, you need to get her to really open up to you. Letting out what is bothering you is the first stage in the recovery process. Not knowing all the details, I can't exactly tell you what to say, but reassure her that you are there for her, and try to get her to tell you what is going on inside.

I wish you luck.

She has with alot of things. Things she has never told anyone else, until a little while ago when she started opening up a bit with her therapist.

She has opened up with a lot of things?

I still think you should try to get her to open up to you. Opening up to someone who actually cares, and not a trained professional tends to do more good for a person.

If you are sure she doesn't need someone to listen to her, then she probably just needs someone to be there for her. Maybe not to listen, but just someone to comfort her if she's feeling down.

 

[Pielikey]

I stopped reading at suicide. Anyone who threatens it, won't do it. Anyone who never mentions it, and never attempts it, will do it first try. I'm sorry for her actual problems (thyroids and so on that you mentioned), but I can't stand people that threaten suicide for attention.

I agree with this person.

videogames are the answer to everything, she just needs something to get excited about

And him.


For real, get her some counseling or something.

 

[child of lileth]

I stopped reading at suicide. Anyone who threatens it, won't do it. Anyone who never mentions it, and never attempts it, will do it first try. I'm sorry for her actual problems (thyroids and so on that you mentioned), but I can't stand people that threaten suicide for attention.

Well she never threatens to me that she is going to kill herself, she's told me that she has contemplated it. She has been close to doing it once. And please next time read the whole damn post.

I've done alot of work in the psychology field. Like I said, it sucks that she has real problems, but she's no exception to how people are with that kind of thing. There's no point in getting upset with me because of what she said. I'm just telling you the truth.

 

[Marter]

I stopped reading at suicide. Anyone who threatens it, won't do it. Anyone who never mentions it, and never attempts it, will do it first try. I'm sorry for her actual problems (thyroids and so on that you mentioned), but I can't stand people that threaten suicide for attention.

Just for clarification, do you mean they will go through with it, or attempt it. They are quite different, and I know someone who matches that. They didn't actually go through with it, but attempted it without previously saying a word about suicide.

 

[Burningsok]

Basically, you need to get her to really open up to you. Letting out what is bothering you is the first stage in the recovery process. Not knowing all the details, I can't exactly tell you what to say, but reassure her that you are there for her, and try to get her to tell you what is going on inside.

I wish you luck.

She has with alot of things. Things she has never told anyone else, until a little while ago when she started opening up a bit with her therapist.

She has opened up with a lot of things?

I still think you should try to get her to open up to you. Opening up to someone who actually cares, and not a trained professional tends to do more good for a person.

If you are sure she doesn't need someone to listen to her, then she probably just needs someone to be there for her. Maybe not to listen, but just someone to comfort her if she's feeling down.

I meant to say she's opened up to me. I was one of the first. yeah I read my response and it didn't seem clear

 

[Marter]

I meant to say she's opened up to me. I was one of the first. yeah I read my response and it didn't seem clear

I would just suggest telling her you are willing to be there for her then. That's really about the best advice I can give without any more information about the situation.

If you do want to go into more depth, drop me a PM.

 

[Stoic raptor]

She should try to get help. There are groups and hotlines for this. She can get help, many people with problems just like her have gotten help and gotten better. Just let her know that unfortunately, she is not alone, many other people have to deal with this.

 

[Peteron]

You should take her to someone to help her with these problems, that is if you cannot help her yourself. Just be there for her when she needs you, I know somebody who is the same. All else fails, get a new freind.