my gf is a pothead

[tofulove]

I'm not sure marijuana is much worse than alcohol or smoking. Or well, it probably is but you get the picture. The problem here is that drugs often lead to other drugs and while I don't judge people who do take drugs, you should never encourage other people to do drugs as well.

I am so sick of people banging the drugs are bad drum. You know what? Almost EVERYTHING is bad for your health. Fucking EXISTING is bad for your health (aging)!

And marijuana is not worse than alcohol and cigarettes, but I am not here to talk about that. The thing is, pot doesn't magically lead you to new drugs if you don't let it do so. If you feel the need to do Heroin, I doubt that not smoking pot would have done anything.

Wait a minute here. Nobody says that pot can "magically lead to other drugs", but to the best of my knowledge, research shows that people who start off with something weaker like marijuana often continue with other drugs.

in many ghetos in la. a kid is more likely to do crack before pot, all a mater of availability, if meth is more available than pot, kids will tend to do meth first. main reason why most people do pot before hard drugs is cause pot is more common and ezer to find than hard drugs in most places in the world.

Of course but that doesn't change the fact that pot is a drug that often leads to other drugs - thus making it extremely hazardous to begin with. Besides, if you take part in the drug industry you are indirectly contributing to the industry which hurt millions of people.

make it legal and i wont indirectly support a system that hurts people.

 

[erhan12]

holy shit, there are some massive retards here, if you dont know nothin' 'bout pot, STFU

You've been here since 2009 and your first post was that. Words cannot describe how retarded it made you look.

hahaha...i never had the urge to post, but this thread made me do it...

 

[tofulove]

im sick of morons who hurt there own cause, grow up, by being aggressive you do nothing but reinforce his preexisting ideas. be constructive, don't make it personal, and if you still cant sell them, let them be. by making a scene your the bad guy, any one looking who could ever change there point of view is turned off by your jackassery. if you cared about legalization of pot, you ether grow up and handle it like a mature adult. or keep your mouth shut. reason people think pot is bad is because they were taught that, and the people who taught them were taught that. you cant put the blame on them for not knowing better. all you can do is educate and be polite.

I don't remember the part where I verbally assaulted someone in my post., or "made a scene". I just expressed my feelings on the issue. And telling me to shut my mouth contradicts your "being polite" piece of advise. And yes, I am fully aware of the reason that people are so prejudiced against marijuana, but as I said, that is another story, for another time.

Also, why is everyone always telling others to "grow up"? As if age makes ones opinions more valid. And I don't think that either side in this "war on drugs" is being childish. Everyone has a point of some sorts. But I guess accusing someone of being immature is a great way to shut them up and make their arguments be considered invalid in the eyes of others, isn't it?

your argument is presented in a combative way. you give fuel to the nay sayers, not water.
and you make a valid point. i could of toned it down abit. than i would lose a great example on how to not convince some one . also the dog avatar is cute, i got protective of it

 

[ZeroDotZero]

Tell her to cut down slightly? Not cut it out, just down. If she responds negatively, you should consider more drastic choices

 

[Russian_Assassin]

Yeah, I'm sure you're right. Anyway, isn't my avatar just adorable?

Yes it is

See now if I wanted to return the favor, I would accuse you of being an adorable doggie!

Oh and I always do research on a drug before trying it. I have tried LSD and MDMA because I know that these are merely recreational drugs, only suited for psychedelic parties (which I do not attend too often). If there was a danger of me becoming addicted to them, I wouldn't even go near them. Hell I wouldn't even look at them!

Unfortunately, this smart use of drugs requires huge self restriction and knowledge of your limits. You should never take more than you can handle, because after all, those ARE chemicals that WILL kill you if not taken right, even I can not deny that.

Though I'd like to note that unlike alcohol, you can't overdose on pot. You'd have to smoke 1.5 kilos in 14 minutes to die and you'd probably fall asleep before consuming it all anyway.

 

[tofulove]

also you have the troll face. hard to not troll the troll face of trolls.

 

[CommanderKirov]

Drop her. She will only get you in trouble eventually and cause you problems. Ain't worth it man.

 

[Russian_Assassin]

also you have the troll face. hard to not troll the troll face of trolls.

Don't be hating because of my beautiful face!

 

[Daveman]

If you're with her when she smokes you'll fail drug tests for the next month. Tell her that.

 

[tofulove]

i supose i should make a construct

If you're with her when she smokes you'll fail drug tests for the next month. Tell her that.

the classic you can smoke but do it out side agreement. god knows how many marriages that has saved.

 

[solidstatemind]

so, i met this girl.

we got along great, blah blah blah, now we are dating. It wasn't like either of us were looking for a relationship, but we ended up in one. not only that, but over the last couple of months we have gotten far more serious than we ever intended.

problem is, she's a pothead. I don't mean she smokes a bit of pot from time to time. I mean she is a freaking stoner that gets high several times each day.

now, i don't really have a problem with it, but it isn't my thing either. I confess to getting high a couple of times when i was younger, but i grew out of it and never really got into the scene. But since she and her friends think that pot is a lifestyle, that kinda puts us in separate spheres.

now, ignoring the fact that i don't really get the whole 420 culture and all that stuff. I have a couple of reason that would make it very very detrimental for me to get caught anywhere close to an illegal drug. and if you agree or not, pot is an illegal drug where i live.

so, how would you guys play this?
do i just go with it and hang out with her and her pothead buddies doing what ever it is potheads do when they are not playing hacky sack and talking about evil corporations?

or do i just insist that she respect my reasons to not want to associate with something that could really really screw me up worse than the average person?

I don't know if this has been stated because I don't have the time at the moment to go through all the responses, but my suggestion as someone who has been happily married for 15 years now is this:

You can have differing lifestyles and circle of friends if you don't care for the people she hangs out with and vice-versa. What's important is that you let her know that you don't think less of her for the lifestyle she chooses to lead, it's just not for you.

Now, that said, you do have to set boundaries and enforce them if you don't want to end up building a reservoir of resentment against her.

Sit down and think of those things you absolutely will not tolerate from her-- things like 'if she ever gets busted, she has to give up the dope; you will never loan her money for dope/buy dope for her; if she starts to have health issues, she has to quit, etc' (at least, those are some of the limitations I'd have-- yours probably will be different.)

But what's important is that you think about things and don't just react, and that you respect how she is different from you. This is a big deal because you will never find someone who has the exact same likes/dislikes/interests/opinions as you do, so learn to compromise and communicate now.

 

[Sethzard]

*snip*.

Yea experimented, she has obviously gone further than just experimenting. From the sounds of it she is - like a lot of weed users - just someone who becomes lethargic when on pot rather than becoming someone who is pleasant to be around.

depends on the strain, the 2 main ones are indica and sativa. indica is more likely to make you lethargic. its a matter of consumption and experience. for me, i am a long time moderate user. i function perfectly with moderate use, and functional no matter how stoned i am.

and if you want to discuss the im sober and there not experience, would you rather be in a room of people who over-consumed pot and are not lethargic and silly. or people who consumed to much beer and are now routy and aggressive. i can tell you from personal experience, being the sober guy with stoners is way more tolerable than the sober guy with drunks.

and choose your pot, if its day time and there things you want to do, use a blend of sativa. you can stay active and alert. if its the end of the day and you want to relax after a long day, get some dinner, spark up a blend of indica and turn the tube on or chill with some friends.

I fail to see the point in taking pot which isn't the kind that makes you lethargic, as otherwise you might as well just smoke. The problem isn't really the pot its self but the amount. All strains also mess with people's short term memory.

 

[fenrizz]

Indeed, total gateway drug, just like beer is the gateway alcoholic drink.
One day it just a few beer with friends but before you know your sucking dick for tequila shots.
Because thats how addictive substances work right?

Nice attempt at reductio ad absurdum there.

Look at the statistics online for how many people move on from cannabis to harder drugs at some point in their life.

Notice that I didn't claim that people were going to become addicted or anything, I just said that he might not know about it if she moves on to harder drugs.

Since you brought up logical fallacy's, here's one for you:

Correlation proves causation, is a logical fallacy by which two events that occur together are claimed to have a cause-and-effect relationship.

Yes, most drug addicts have smoked weed.

Most people that smoke weed do not become drug addicts.

 

[gmergurl]

we got this far, but now i feel bad because she has meet a number of my friends and many people from my social circle, she feels like she can't take me to meet her friends, because they are always smoking pot. seriously, they just never aren't smoking. and she is too, save for the time she spends with me.

It doesn't really matter what you believe, that amount of drug intake is not good for the body. I know there's 10 pages of this so I doubt you'll read this, but honestly, this isn't good, for you and especially for her.

When I first read your first post, I thought maybe two or three times a day, extreme in my opinion, but not necessarily bad. If she is only sober when she's with you (and I'm hoping when she works but I suppose she might not have a job either) then there's a serious problem, with her. That might sound harsh, but think about it. Where I live, we are told from day 1 that pot is bad, not necessarily itself, but because it's a gateway drug and will hook you on harder things. This is what mostly concerns me about her, if she's high over 50% of the day, then she's going to start looking for other things to do, I'm sure, which is where things might get really really bad for you.

You mentioned you can't get caught near an illegal drug right? (For whatever reasons) Then why risk it? You can't get caught if you're never near the stuff. I'd hate to be you when she says "hold this" when the cops pull you over.

I understand that you might really like her, maybe even love her, so my suggestion would be to simply talk to her about this, and sincerely talk to her. Don't give in and don't bully her either. This is a sensitive subject and you both need to be on equal ground. As for you meeting her friends, obviously she's aware that you don't like to partake in her hobby and that's a good thing. Maybe suggest to her that you do want to meet her friends, so perhaps she can ask them to not be high for one night and you all go out to eat. Show interest, but draw a clear line and hope for the best.

If she shows signs of "You're not being fair" or "you don't care/like/love me," pull out. I mean that, get out, because you don't want to be dragged into this any further. Explain that you want to work this out, but she's got to be understanding.

 

[NickCooley]

Normally I'd be preparing to beat you with my stick of hating+10 for asking a forum for relationship advice but I'm feeling genorous. And I'm not touching the pot is good/bad issue with an 11 foot barge pole.

Seriously dude. TALK. TO. HER. This isn't an issue anyone here can help you solve. This is between the two of you and only the two of you can sort it out. Talk to her about it, all you'll get here is a jumbled mess of different opinions, mine included.

 

[Rekrul]

Ahhh, the combination of ignorance and hyperbole. I do so love that smell.

Pot isn't dangerous. People and their retarded addictive personalities are.

Cannabis is no more addictive than pringles.

OT:

It's entirely your choice. As with any substance. Discretion is advisable and if you really don't want to get involved with it don't. But if you think she's worth it, just tolerate her choice and accept it as a part of her that you dislike.

(sidenote) The amount of idiots on this thread spewing ignorant bias and hyperbole, as if weed is like freaking crack or meth. Well it reminds me where I am. 'If it aint legal, It's clearly WRONG!!!!

Surprisingly I haven't read through 11 pages to see if you've been told this already, but pringles are addictive, seriously once I pop I can't stop!!

Erm OT, I couldn't be with someone like that because of my personal opinion of weed, therefore the op shouldn't be either.

 

[Bigsmith]

Just get rid of her. I know a kid whose parents are pot heads... he just isn't... I don't know what to say. He just dosen't WORK. Not to mention pot ruined my uncle's life so I suggest you should stay away from the drug in anyway possible.

I agree with this person. It's not wise to stay with someone like that. My uncle's life was also ruined by pot and alchohol. :/

Drop her, there is no way she can be worth the risk of you being around drugs

My Uncle, with the help of my family, got off drugs. Went back on them when we started a business, didn't want to put the family through getting him off them again and so he hung him self.

 

[Hashime]

Give her an ultimatum, you or the drugs. I know a few people (my grandparents for instance)who were in the same situation with cigarettes and when the other gave up the drug it made their relationship much stronger.

 

[Gamer_152]

Talk to her, tell her how you feel about it, and try to reach a compromise where you both feel comfortable. I wish you the best of luck.