My life is too mundane and lonely (time to vent!)

[BackgroundCharacter]

I'm gonna peruse these parts to mention that I was getting the same vibe from your posts as MonkeyShone did - they seem judgemental in their tone and with a certain sense of arrogance and resentment. You already stated it was not what you meant but I think its interesting to note that I caught on the same feelings here. It makes me guess that perhaps it is a sign that you might not come off entirely in the way you like - your comment about your friend seems to suggest as much, too: if somebody flat-out tells you that other people "don't talk about video games" then I'd suggest to reassess if you do, in fact, talk too much about videogames when with other people.

You may have gotten that because I allow myself to sound a little frustrated on this account. You could never tell anything is bothering me on my main accounts. I only express my happier thoughts everywhere else.

But it's healthy that I have this outlet. I am honestly pretty frustrated, but I'll make it clear right now that I don't resent anybody. I realize they're doing what makes them happy and they don't owe me anything. That's why my thoughts were to find someone more in tune with me and not to make my friends more interested in me.

Now, I do talk about video games when I'm around my friends mainly. But that's because it's some of the only (if not the only) common ground we have.

For most of my other hobbies and interests, they have no real comment and can't find much to talk about, so I won't force it.

It's pretty sad that whenever I skype call with my best friend (which is rare, because he's not around as much since I introduced him to my college buddies and they turned out to have similar interests to him), there are awkward silences where I can't find anything to talk about that he'd actually be interested in and it seems like he can't find anything that he feels would interest me, either. Most of the time, the best we can come up with is smalltalk ("How was your day?"), but

We're both trying to find something that isn't video games to talk about now that we're aware of it, but our tastes are so different that most of the time, nothing comes up.

It's like that for almost everyone I know.

I know what you're thinking. "Then just talk about video games like you used to!"

The problem is, we don't play that much anymore. The games we used to play became frustrating and drove us away from them. The mmorpg's we used to play ended with one of us quitting before the other. We can't find any games that interest both of us at the same time anymore.

It goes back to the concept of "What do you offer?", I think. Maybe the truth is that I just don't offer much for them and that's why they don't even care to invite me places when they go out. hmmm...

Now as for your friends: well, what DO they do? What are they interested in? Also have you actually asked them about these things you mentioned above? I mean, I know that I won't ever be able to drag my friends into the opera house for instance - doesn't mean I can't get them to visit new pub X or festival Y. Your friends are people and will not share all your interests - that's how it is and that is what one must accept much like what MonkeyShone already said. And if you really need someone for a specific interest, well...that's where you need to put some effort in to find them.

I've known them for years. I know what they are and are not interested in.

what I've been trying to tell you this entire time isn't that they don't share all my interests, but almost none of them. I can discuss nothing that I like with anyone that I know. Besides gaming, of course.

This leaves us with not much to talk about on a daily basis unless we've been playing games often, which we haven't.

As for your question about whether I've asked them to go paintballing or something with me, I have. They've refused for one reason or another. It's been a while since I brought it up, so I can't remember specifics for why they didn't want to. I vaguely remember money being an issue. I suppose it is pretty expensive with the paintballs you have to buy and the guns you have the rent.

I suppose I should ask again, since I can't remember.

[...]Friends who enjoy drawing as much as I do would be nice. I don't even have that right now.

But as I mentioned earlier, I thought of that. Turns out, there is no art club and I'm not taking any art classes. My best bet would be to just hang around the art building in my down time, but I don't see that working very well.[...]

College itself is the mundane, boring, and underwhelming part.

I think that this part of where your ennui and your desire for change comes from - if you are tied down with something that bores you so exceptionally, then you need to actively counteract it. In fact, In a way you already do. But I'd suggest to also do this via your college it usually provides you with the options to do so - at least from my experience.

Except for the clubs, can't you take some other classes in addition perhaps and let the science be the science? Taking an art class, for instance, will give you access to people who might be more in line with the interests you have. Or something else is also always an interesting route to take if you want to smell into other fields. You can also do that with the clubs. Apart from the college you also have multiple options in terms of communities or other stuff, especially with the internet. Again, try stuff and put some effort in it - anything else isn't going to work, methinks.

You are completely correct. College is frustratingly boring. Living off campus has its disadvantages, though. I'm saving a lot of money, but I can't easily go to college just because I'm curious or bored, unfortunately.

Clubs would be great if I could find one that I fit in at.

It's funny you mention taking an art class. I took one last semester. I was so excited when the semester started because I finally had a chance to not do something computer science related and perfect one of my many hobbies, but it turned out to just be a class about drawing primitive objects and shading with different tools (charcoal, pastel, etc). I was very very disappointed, because there was nothing creative about it. I didn't learn anything. It made drawing a chore.

Some of the people there were okay. We spoke a little bit and I noticed the people there were more talkative and interested, but nobody there became more than an acquaintance (I will say though that I enjoyed being around art students more than computer science students). I ended up not gaining anything from the whole experience.

When it comes to finding people to speak to on the internet, well I am trying.

I haven't made any friends yet, though....

 

[KOMega]

Well side from the cat ears, I think your life is pretty common. Sorry.
I too would love to dress up in styled clothing and stuff, but clothes are expensive, and I'm already invested in buying games

Also, for someone who says they choose not to have a girlfriend, you seem to talk a lot about it. Are you sure you don't want to have a girlfriend? Ah well. I don't exactly put much thought into that issue myself. I express that to people and they automatically jump to the conclusion that I'm shy and tell me "how to talk to the ladies". Not a problem, I really just have no interest. You seem to have some interest, but I might just be reading too much into it. Ignore this paragraph if you believe so.

I sometimes get bored and wish my friends would invite me to things as well. But one day it hit me that it wasn't always just one friend who got everyone together. Sometimes it was this one or that one. Maybe it was my turn. I should help rally together my friends for an outing.

Reasons to bring friends together, or at least in my case, were not anything special or extraordinary.
"Lets all go see "
"Lets all go eat out at "
I sorta just invite whatever friends that say they want to come. Those that don't are no sweat off my backs. They will still be there in the future. Events I make just sorta happen whenever I feel like. No pressure to make them or at all really.

Anyways, if you just want someone to talk to or you are having an existential crisis, you can always talk to me or the forum.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

Well side from the cat ears, I think your life is pretty common. Sorry.
I too would love to dress up in styled clothing and stuff, but clothes are expensive, and I'm already invested in buying games

Also, for someone who says they choose not to have a girlfriend, you seem to talk a lot about it. Are you sure you don't want to have a girlfriend? Ah well. I don't exactly put much thought into that issue myself. I express that to people and they automatically jump to the conclusion that I'm shy and tell me "how to talk to the ladies". Not a problem, I really just have no interest. You seem to have some interest, but I might just be reading too much into it. Ignore this paragraph if you believe so.

I sometimes get bored and wish my friends would invite me to things as well. But one day it hit me that it wasn't always just one friend who got everyone together. Sometimes it was this one or that one. Maybe it was my turn. I should help rally together my friends for an outing.

Reasons to bring friends together, or at least in my case, were not anything special or extraordinary.
"Lets all go see "
"Lets all go eat out at "
I sorta just invite whatever friends that say they want to come. Those that don't are no sweat off my backs. They will still be there in the future. Events I make just sorta happen whenever I feel like. No pressure to make them or at all really.

Anyways, if you just want someone to talk to or you are having an existential crisis, you can always talk to me or the forum.

hm. Well, I'll put it like this.

When you decide to go out and do something, you rally all of the friends you care to have come with you.

It seems no matter who rallies everyone together, I'm not getting rallied.

My best friend used to invite me to places all the time, but now it seems he's found people more interested in the same things as him, so I often get forgotten.

It's not a case of "We never do anything" but a case of "I never get invited to do anything", which I believe to be a different case. It's likely because I'm not interesting enough for people to care whether I'm there or not. They even went to my favorite place without even inviting me once that I know of. I say "that I know of" because I was speaking with them and one of them slipped and mentioned it and someone else said "you weren't supposed to mention that."

Also, do you think it's normal for you to not really share any interests except video gaming with someone you've known forever? To have long, awkward silences with your best friend because there's nothing to talk about that you'd both be interested in?

Do you really think it's normal to never be able to share anything that makes you happy with anyone? There's no fun in being the "weird friend" for me. Have you read the part where it's actually so bad that I can't even share comedy videos with most of the people I know? This thread's posts are long enough to make a book, I know, but even still.

I see the people leaving concerts for bands that they all share a love for or listen to the gamegrumps and listen to them rave about some of the same things and I wish I were like that with my friends.

That's why I've started to put a little more effort into finding people that share some of the same interests as me.

 

[Genericjim101]

How old are you, seriously? You seem to have a case of the special snowflake syndrome. If you don't want to change anything about yourself, yet see yourself as attractive, and unique you may simply be far enough up your arse to create a singularity.

Vitriol aside. A person isn't to break you out of your mundane life or to meet set of requirements. You'd be lucky to have someone that gives a shit about you, because to have that means you've got someone's respect. That means liking a person on less strict terms and realise no-one would want to be with someone whom has requirements without wanting to change themselves, especially not if you describe that they'd be getting in the way.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

How old are you, seriously? You seem to have a case of the special snowflake syndrome. If you don't want to change anything about yourself, yet see yourself as attractive, and unique you may simply be far enough up your arse to create a singularity.

Vitriol aside. A person isn't to break you out of your mundane life or to meet set of requirements. You'd be lucky to have someone that gives a shit about you, because to have that means you've got someone's respect. That means liking a person on less strict terms and realise no-one would want to be with someone whom has requirements without wanting to change themselves, especially not if you describe that they'd be getting in the way.

BTW, are you a troll or severely suffering Asperger's? Because you seem to not understand that interactions are give and take. Compromise is important. Without that it's an emotionless check list. You have to be willing to make an effort for someone whether friend or love interest. You may not be as fulfilling to be around as you think. By understanding your own flaws and maybe some humility you may in turn lower your requirements of others.

I can't really take your advice seriously if you're just going to personally attack me or only think of me cynically.

To argue with you would be a waste of my time.

 

[KOMega]

When you decide to go out and do something, you rally all of the friends you care to have come with you.

It seems no matter who rallies everyone together, I'm not getting rallied.

My best friend used to invite me to places all the time, but now it seems he's found people more interested in the same things as him, so I often get forgotten.

It's not a case of "We never do anything" but a case of "I never get invited to do anything", which I believe to be a different case. It's likely because I'm not interesting enough for people to care whether I'm there or not. They even went to my favorite place without even inviting me once that I know of. I say "that I know of" because I was speaking with them and one of them slipped and mentioned it and someone else said "you weren't supposed to mention that."

It takes some real effort to forget yourself when you are the inviter.
Anyways, speaking of friends, how many friends would you say are actually close friends?
Just out of curiosity. And I mean people who you know better than just acquaintances.

Also, do you think it's normal for you to not really share any interests except video gaming with someone you've known forever? To have long, awkward silences with your best friend because there's nothing to talk about that you'd both be interested in?

For a while ya, it was like that for me too. But we kept being friends, and video gaming luckily always had something new (or old, but unknown to us at the time) to talk about or play together. Eventually we grew up and had more things to talk about since a lot of stuff began being involved in our lives. College, education in general, mysteries of the universe, family, fiction, puppies (because my friend recently got a puppy.)

idk. What do you like to talk about? So far I got: video games, drawing and fashion in some sense. I'm sure at least one person will have interest in one of these things.
That being said, human interaction is a two-way road.
Everything you expect good friends to do, you must also be prepared to do for them.

It's likely because I'm not interesting enough for people to care whether I'm there or not. They even went to my favorite place without even inviting me once that I know of.

Also, seriously, don't sweat it if you aren't the center of attraction.

How old are you, seriously?

I am also beginning to call this into question too. Depending on how old you are, you might just be going through that awkward highschool phase. Ugh I hated highschool.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

It takes some real effort to forget yourself when you are the inviter.
Anyways, speaking of friends, how many friends would you say are actually close friends?
Just out of curiosity. And I mean people who you know better than just acquaintances.

Well, I didn't want to say it, but when it comes down to it, some of them kind of are acquiantances. I've made efforts to try to become friends with all of them rather than just acquiantances, but it hasn't really seemed to happen yet with most of them.

I guess that's just naturally something that happens or doesn't. Still, it's a little disappointing.

But eh. you're right, though, I probably will just start inviting people to go places with me often.

Also, do you think it's normal for you to not really share any interests except video gaming with someone you've known forever? To have long, awkward silences with your best friend because there's nothing to talk about that you'd both be interested in?

For a while ya, it was like that for me too. But we kept being friends, and video gaming luckily always had something new (or old, but unknown to us at the time) to talk about or play together. Eventually we grew up and had more things to talk about since a lot of stuff began being involved in our lives. College, education in general, mysteries of the universe, family, fiction, puppies (because my friend recently got a puppy.)

idk. What do you like to talk about? So far I got: video games, drawing and fashion in some sense. I'm sure at least one person will have interest in one of these things.
That being said, human interaction is a two-way road.
Everything you expect good friends to do, you must also be prepared to do for them.

So what you're saying is that this is just a phase, then, huh? It could be.

Like, we used to just talk and talk about random subjects (I'm talking about my best friends or the people I've known forever) and then it just started to feel like we're drifting apart.

That could be my fault, though. Trying not to impose may not have had the effect I wanted. Actually, I'm sure it hasn't.

How old are you, seriously?/quote]
I am also beginning to call this into question too. Depending on how old you are, you might just be going through that awkward highschool phase. Ugh I hated highschool.

I will not give out my age, but like I said, I'm about the graduate college.

 

[KOMega]

Could be a phase. Might not be. It's merely a suggestion from what I've encountered. You being the closest to the situation should be able to diagnose it a lot better than me, typing away from some corner of the internet.

I also don't know what you would count as imposing.
Just don;t be borderline stalker-ish and you'll be fine.
It's not only potential-girlfriends that don;t like stalkers.
People in general don't

If I feel like talking to a friend, perhaps just randomly over the phone, I'd call them, make sure they were not too busy am could spare a little while on the phone (like if they were at home and just chilling out.) I'd open with something loosely important that connects or concerns the both of us in some way ("Hey, you do alright this semester? My marks stink/are great.") and then lead (bluntly or smooth segue) into random stuff ("You ever wonder how works? What if "). The conversation has no point, but the fact communication is happening should mean something.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

Could be a phase. Might not be. It's merely a suggestion from what I've encountered. You being the closest to the situation should be able to diagnose it a lot better than me, typing away from some corner of the internet.

I also don't know what you would count as imposing.
Just don;t be borderline stalker-ish and you'll be fine.
It's not only potential-girlfriends that don;t like stalkers.
People in general don't

If I feel like talking to a friend, perhaps just randomly over the phone, I'd call them, make sure they were not too busy am could spare a little while on the phone (like if they were at home and just chilling out.) I'd open with something loosely important that connects or concerns the both of us in some way ("Hey, you do alright this semester? My marks stink/are great.") and then lead (bluntly or smooth segue) into random stuff ("You ever wonder how works? What if "). The conversation has no point, but the fact communication is happening should mean something.

Oh, what I meant by imposing is that I don't have a car, so asking if people want to go somewhere with me would be putting a burden on them. I don't want to be a burden.

Even though I wish they would at least give me a chance to come with them by telling me something's happening instead of not even mentioning it until 1 or 2 days after it's already happened (this just makes me feel like I'm less important. idk.), I'll probably start initiating events and asking if people want to come with me.

EDIT: I tend to try to start conversations like what you're describing, but they usually don't go anywhere and start another awkward silence. We just don't have that much material, it seems. That's why I came to the conclusion that we just don't have enough similar interests outside of video games. Either that or my buddies happened to lose a lot of the similar interests that brought us together.

But now I realize that it could also be that we don't spend enough time with each other (like we used to), which is something I would like to fix.

I just hope I'm right about that.

 

[KOMega]

ehhh idk.
For me, to hang out with friends doesn;t also mean being responsible for transportation.

For me it'd be more like "Hey guys, lets all go see <insert movie... idk Pacific Rim or something> at at . Whose coming?"
Then we all meet there using our own modes of transportation.
It helps that the place I live in has a decent bus and subway network. Sorta.

Plus, remember that you are only asking. They are allowed to say no. Maybe they have some important thing planned beforehand or maybe they are not in the mood atm. who knows. But they are allowed to decline. Forcing or guilting them into accepting would be imposing/burdensome.

I'm not exactly a great social butterfly unfortunately.
But I gather that just being involved in people's lives will be enough sometimes if they are good people.
Actually I think that's how advertising works. Simple awareness and suggestion grants an advantage over the unknown brand next to it.

Anyways, if you don't normally initiate, don;t feel forced to initiate now or go overboard and start doing tons of events. idk what counts as a good excuse to gather for your friends, but I like to limit it to stuff that I'd probably do anyways, but would be a lot more enjoyable with friends. I think that's partially the reason why movie theaters and restaurants with large tables exist.

It really depends on your friends. I'm casting a big general net here just to help you run ideas. Fit and change what you can/want into your specific situation.

edit:

But now I realize that it could also be that we don't spend enough time with each other (like we used to), which is something I would like to fix.

I just hope I'm right about that.

spending more time together does increase the chance that you each pick up on stuff you both would like to talk about. logically speaking.

 

[Reeve]

OP, if you could indulge this question for me please: How old are you?

Thanks

Edit: Btw my advice is to use e-harmony and/or go to some convention for something you're interested in like anime or comics. You'll definitely pick people up who are like you at those

You can now ignore most of the other inane "advice" in this thread

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

OP, if you could indulge this question for me please: How old are you?

Thanks

Stop that.

My age isn't important.

This is an alternate account I've made for venting, pretty much, so while it may seem like I'm a little immature, it's because I don't have to hold anything back and I can express my thoughts more clearly. It makes for more useful conversations.

Actually, I should probably add that to the opening post.

Edit: Btw my advice is to use e-harmony and/or go to some convention for something you're interested in like anime or comics. You'll definitely pick people up who are like you at those

You can now ignore most of the other inane "advice" in this thread

You're probably right. I could stand to go to an anime convention or something.

Although I really don't want to try e-harmony, since I've seen it not work for the people around me so many times. :/

 

[Svenparty]

I'm sorry, I couldn't get past the pompous air of the first post. I got a headache reading your faux intellectual meanderings, sometimes you have to adapt to other people's standards in all walks of life. There is a difference between being unique and being stubborn about clothing/expectations of friends.


People enquire about your age because it can be a huge factor in how to help you, also it can help others understand your perspective,

Listen using your real ears for once and leave the cat ears at home.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

I'm sorry, I couldn't get past the pompous air of the first post. I got a headache reading your faux intellectual meanderings, sometimes you have to adapt to other people's standards in all walks of life. There is a difference between being unique and being stubborn about clothing/expectations of friends.


People enquire about your age because it can be a huge factor in how to help you, also it can help others understand your perspective,

Listen using your real ears for once and leave the cat ears at home.

I'm not sure exactly how this is supposed to help me. In fact, it's a little offensive. :/

Like, yeah, I could be wrong about not wanting to disclose my age, but besides that, what am I suppose to take from your post?

I mean, you're pretty much all wrong about the image you seem to have made up of me.

If you think people are unwilling to be friends with me because of how I dress, you couldn't be more wrong. People in my community are pretty tolerant. I've made a pretty good amount of friends and acquaintances that don't care how I look.

You think I have high expectations of my friends? I'm not sure where you got that because my friends are very diverse and I greatly appreciate all of them.

I don't wear what I do because it's unique, but because I like it. If it isn't actually causing any problem, why change what entertains me and isn't causing any harm to anybody else? Just because?

This thread has been helpful and I'm glad I made it. I found out what was bothering me, but that's because people were willing to discuss it with me so I came to that conclusion, instead of trying to paint a full negative picture of who they think I am, then trying to talk to that version of me they made up. You realize when you do that and you're wrong about the person you're talking to, you're not helping them at all, right?

Give people the benefit of the doubt.

 

[Foolery]

This is an alternate account I've made for venting, pretty much, so while it may seem like I'm a little immature, it's because I don't have to hold anything back and I can express my thoughts more clearly. It makes for more useful conversations.

Yeah, you probably shouldn't go around saying that, according to the COC, I don't think mods are cool with alternate accounts.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

I rarely post on forums, I think this is my first in about a year. I created an account /just/ to reply to you, special snowflake.

A couple of things,

You keep talking about being "goal oriented" and unwilling to accommodate a companion. What are you goals? What have you done to achieve them? I suspect your goals, much like the rest of your posts are so far detached from reality that an ordinary mortal would simply explode if trying to comprehend them.

I've actually put a lot of effort into my goals. I've started my own business and committed my time to making it all work.

I'm an entrepreneur who makes some okay money.

This isn't Final Fantasy 8, your life goal can't be to Renzokuken Ultima Weapon in Matron's castle.

Tell me more about obvious things. Like, is the sky blue? Is the grass green?

You wear cat ears, and I suspect you may have a replica of Squall's coat that you think is /the shit/. The "positive" compliments you get are most likely backhanded. You're right that girls don't think of you as boyfriend material. Why should they?

They probably shouldn't. I put the part about girlfriends in because that's the usual response when someone says they're lonely.

It really doesn't matter to me that much.

Your standards for girls aren't high, they're hypocritical. You want her to be stereotypically cute (thin, goodlooking) yet you, yourself, are most likely not stereotypically cute. Thin, non muscular men are generally not considered to be at the top of the desirability totem pole. Get to the gym. You don't want kids; that's a reasonable stance. You'll find a small but healthy minority of women who do not want kids as well. You want them to wear.. uhm.. cat ears. Ok.

mmk.

"When it comes down to it, maybe I'm unique. The thing is, I don't want to be unique. I sincerely wish I could find like minded people, but it just isn't possible. I'm too much of a dreamer and always have been." - a dreamer

You're CERTAINLY not unique, special snowflake. What you are is a boring person, and there are millions of you playing video games all day, doing nothing with their lives.

You're just like the last person to comment in this thread.

Also, you're wrong.

You have no hobbies

wrong.

no skills

wrong.

no goals

I'm not sure where you're getting this.

no job and no friends

Actually you're worse than the last guy.

You've made an entire conclusion on who you think I am.

What you don't realize is that people are more varied than you give them credit for.

You feel horrible because you live a sub-human existence and are largely a drain on society. I suspect your parents/government may be footing the bill for this existential crisis you're going through.

What crisis? It's not a crisis, just something I needed to brainstorm with people about on the internet so I could find out what was bothering me.

You're /extremely/ entitled. In fact, your reference to FF8 and being a "dreamer" is all I need to psychoanalyze you.

Okay, shoot.

You literally want your life to be a repeat of Final Fantasy 8.

hokay, buddy, think whatever you like.

You listening to me, homeslice? Let me explain. I suspect you see yourself as the main character, Squall.

Can you be any more off the mark?

The thing is, Squall was a shit-tier C-grade student who spent most of his days day dreaming. He was a hack and almost no one expected him to succeed. He was an awful leader with almost no initiative. He relied on the skills and charity of people less boring than him to carry him to victory.

Cool. I've never played final fantasy 8.

Guess what champ? Girls like Rinoa don't exist in real life.

Ya don't say?

When you're being a sad sack of shit and leaning against the wall on a dance floor, a pretty, thin girl isn't going to forcibly grab your hand and teach you how to dance (I bet you know the exact cut scene I'm talking about. As a side, why the fuck do I remember this shit myself?).

And I'm okay with that.

People more capable than you (Zell, Seifer, Quistis, Selphie) aren't going to drag your lethargic day dreaming ass through life's great adventure. They'll just, for the lack of a better phrase, remove you from their party and go save the world on their own.

heh, alright.

All you want actually does exist. Life is a fantastic adventure and there exist thousands of people every day saving the world in their own little way.

and I never denied that.

They're forming bonds, loving, losing and having a whole lot of fun.

That they are, champ.

You're sitting in a dimly lit room unskillfully drawing concept art for the next JRPG with you as the main character.

Put the scale replica of the Gunblade away and go outside, special snowflake. You wont melt. I promise.

Welp, you've not helped at all. You've assumed an image onto me, then spoke to it instead of me. You talk about how unique everyone is, then you assume me to be some strange loser archetype you made up in your mind.

 

[TranshumanWonderkin]

You're an entrepreneur, but you have a mundane life and can afford to sit behind a the whirr of a computer and play video games. Odd, I too am an entrepreneur with a full time job and I don't have time to breathe, let alone play games anymore. Most small business owners I've met don't exactly complain of boredom, of all things; you must have discovered something fantastic.

You have skills, goals and a job (that makes okay money), but you DON'T have transportation which you are clearly upset about. Why is this? Is it too cliche to own a vehicle? Too mundane for you? Not artistic enough?

You say are a complex, motivated artiste with varied hobbies, yet girls aren't interested and even your friends are slowly abandoning you.

No logic, this is a feels only zone.

 

[BackgroundCharacter]

You're an entrepreneur, but you have a mundane life and can afford to sit behind a the whirr of a computer and play video games. Odd, I too am an entrepreneur with a full time job and I don't have time to breathe, let alone play games anymore. Most small business owners I've met don't exactly complain of boredom, of all things; you must have discovered something fantastic.

Boredom is not necessarily cured by having something to do for me.

What I need is to have something fun to do every once in a while with my friends. I want to use the free time I have to do something that I really enjoy with the people that I enjoy being around.

You have skills, goals and a job (that makes okay money), but you DON'T have transportation which you are clearly upset about. Why is this? Is it too cliche to own a vehicle? Too mundane for you? Not artistic enough?

More like cars cost way more money (gas, insurance, etc) than I'd like to pay out right now and I have a yearly bus pass.

edit: I am not upset about not having a car. It's a decision I made and followed through on.

You say are a complex, motivated artiste with varied hobbies, yet girls aren't interested and even your friends are slowly abandoning you.

No logic, this is a feels only zone.

And I've found out why I've been growing apart from my friends from this thread.

and like I said before to the guy before you, it's because people here were willing to discuss things with me and throw ideas around until I came to that conclusion, instead of doing what you did and assuming me to be some sort of loser archetype that they should condescend to. :/

 

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The only thing that's happened in this thread is you making outlandish statements and then covering your ass when people called you out.

You're a graduating college student that owns a business and that still has tons of free time.

You've started a successful business but claim to be "not be a leader" and "wait for things to happen."

You make okay money but can't afford a car.

You're not a pasty loser but your friends are abandoning you and girls that get close dip out.

You wear cat ears out in public and legitimately think people are complimenting you.

You legitimately believe that not wearing outlandish clothing and being socially accepted is a lose-lose situation.

Seek professional help; you are not well. Or continue to live in your sycophantic delusion.

I don't even know why I'm speaking to you. You still seem to have this condescending idea that you're right about everything. It's like you don't have the capacity to realize that you're wrong.

Honestly, at this point, think what you want. I honestly couldn't care less, because in the end you don't matter to me.

You know, I went to a fun party today that I was invited to (by another group of friends that very recently (AFTER I MADE THIS THREAD) started speaking to me more, since you seem to take everything at face value) and met a lot of new people there. Yeah, I must be a loser because of how I dress. People must really not want to be around me. You're right, cat ears are driving people away.

I took initiative (because that's the context of me not being a leader and waiting for things to happen. Friendship.) last week and started inviting my friends to come with me to places instead of waiting for the opposite to happen. Guess what? They all accepted my invitations happily and we're spending a lot more time together now. Oh, they must reeaally not want to be seen with me in public even though they, unprovoked, tell me how they don't care how I look all the time.

Also, I like how you comment on how I have free time. Yeah, graduating college students don't have any free time in the SUMMER.

So while you may be intolerant of how I might dress, that doesn't mean everybody is. Open your mind a little bit and realize that situations are more intricate than you might think.

 

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It's actually kind of hilarious how you refuse to believe you're wrong.

I'm actually laughing a little bit.