I don't meet any social niches, so clubs are hard for me. I tried joining the anime club once, but the people there were too... nerdy for me. I couldn't identify with them even if I tried. They were into tabletop RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons, pokemon, and paper and pen RPGs and didn't seem to talk about anime that much. They also didn't seem to hold very many of the same interests as me, so I lost the motivation to return.Chromatic Aberration said:What about clubs at your college?
I keep looking through my college's directory for an "art club" or something similar, but I keep coming up short. Surprisingly, there doesn't seem to be anything there.
There's no video game club. I checked.
When I get into my more specific interests, well of course those don't have clubs.
What else is there?
Well, it's simple. I don't like furry characters. I find most of them unstylish. I don't like the fandom. I specifically like kemonomimi characters and nothing more.Ohh and as for the whole furry thing - well what's stopping you to just sign up on FA and looking into the IRC or the forum?
Heh, well I do post here. Kind of often, actually, although I've never been known on this site. This is my second account where I can discuss things like this without anyone googling my name later and worrying about me. I don't like when people worry about me or think I'm depressed.Plus, there is also this bloody forum here as an interesting past-time for discussing stuff and meeting people that you can always use. In general: if you want to find people that share your interest - make an effort. You rarely get stuff served on a silver plate.
Having an account that I can use to fully discuss the things that bother me gives me some freedom.
The me before wearing cat ears may have agreed with you there. I actually used to be quite timid. but now I'm sure that living life in fear of what might happen is a waste. Living in fear of what people might think of you is also a waste. I'm not afraid that the people who give me positive comments are actually laughing about me behind my back anymore. My self-esteem is high enough for me to not have those thoughts anymore. I was actually taught that by a friend, but he's moved away now. He was one of a kind.Then point number two: even if you do make that effort you might want to set your expectations right. You aren't solely what you wear and what you think you are born as - you are at least equally what you do. And denying this dimension - even implicitly - will earn you scorn. I wouldn't be surprised if for every person that comments on how cute your cat-ears are at least two will roll their eyes and think of you as obnoxious and/or out to get attention. There is a thin line to be tread between obnoxiousness and expressing ones interest. You might want to reassess your attitudes in that regard - are the cat ears really that important to you that you'd risk that?
I don't wear ears for attention or to relay my interests. I wear them because they're fun. They're for my entertainment. I want to see how well I can pull them off and from what I can tell and what people have told me, I've done a pretty nice job. To stop something so harmless just because I'm afraid of what people may think would be kind of an injustice, wouldn't it?Wouldn't, say, a more benign way of showing what you like be not only more useful in getting more in touch with people but be equally as effective as a way to relay your interest.
Friends who enjoy drawing as much as I do would be nice. I don't even have that right now.MonkeyShone has already brought up an example where he only encountered that stuff and I concur in that regard - never saw anybody wearing it except to garner attention which in general not well seen. Furthermore in a reiteration of the first point, but also to strengthen this one: why not work more with your hobby of drawing or "Art" (as I could gather from your post) instead of your general appearance? Art is art - there are bound to be people equally into the artsy side of thingsas you are. Hell, if you already consider your clothing to be artsy you might also consider to go all in with some cosplay groups or so, there are bound to be people around. Just don't expect to be solely someone just because you look funny but because you invest in it from a more productive point of view and don't just restrict yourself to that one thing that makes you, well, you. Humans are generally far more than their parts.
But as I mentioned earlier, I thought of that. Turns out, there is no art club and I'm not taking any art classes. My best bet would be to just hang around the art building in my down time, but I don't see that working very well.
Oh, I do actually do computer science things. I joined this field because I wanted to be a video game developer. College tends to take up all my time, though, so I couldn't take on any huge projects like making an entire game myself, at least not yet. What I have been doing is making mods for other games, which is fun, but ? you guessed it ? none of my friends care. They'll say "It's cool that you can make it work like that" but it's not like they even play the games that I've modded.And, finally, the third thing: the will. You see, there are always two ways to seeing new things - as an opportunity or a burden. I'd suggest to not take the mundane as "mundane" anymore. Think back on why you studied Computer Science - I can't believe that was merely a monetary or involuntary decision - not from someone who would go out of his wear cat ears in public. You wanted to do something with it, you wanted to know how it works and what you could do with it, right? So when did that spark of interest that drove you to it vanish?
Actually now that I've written this out, my situation seems even more boring and mundane than before.
College itself is the mundane, boring, and underwhelming part. Millions of times my councelors and parents have told me ?it gets better. It get more interesting. Don't worry?.
It hasn't. From the time I started 5 years ago until now, it's bored me to tears. I haven't been interested in any of it from the first year on. I'm happy with the set of skills I've acquired, but the part where I'm actually learning it is incredibly boring. I guess when it comes down to it, I have a passion for video game dev, but not computer science. I'm very happy to almost be a graduate so I never have to return to something that bored me so consistently for so much of my life.
The sky... Probably isn't so mundane. I love how it turns fuchsia on just the right day at the right time. Wouldn't it be great if we could fly? With jetpacks or personal jets or whatever? Wouldn't it be great if I had enough money for that to be an opportunity for me every day, instead of just sitting down and entertaining myself with my ?weird? interests?Even mundane things are highly interesting and highly complex - I mean go out and look at the fucking sky. Isn't it so grand and mysterious?
I can believe it. People are very complex, I understand that. It's just a shame that I'm so out of touch with people, just because of chance and the way I was raised.How could have forgotten that? And the cool thing is, the sky is a comparably easy phenomenon - people ain't. People are unbelievably complex with so many different attitudes and experiences to share, from that vacation in Tunesia to the subject of research one does for his thesis to the favourite of beer.
People generally don't care for my complexities. One of the people I consider one of my best friends said some time ago that he has been hanging out with another person that we know because she's interesting and she "doesn't talk about video games" and that it's a nice "change of pace".
What he doesn't understand is that I do talk about things, or at least I try to. I've never wanted to be the ?video game friend?.
It's just that he and none of the other people in that group of friends is interested.
Makes sense. I have been wanting to go to the local baseball games lately. It would definitely cut the monotony. Not the mundaneness, which I'd also appreciate an escape from, but the monotony. Actually, wait, is that out of season? In any case, my friends aren't interested and I don't have the money right now.Since when is mundane stuff automatically boring? It depends on the way you look at it and if we are really honest even the most dire and greyish looking thing might be interesting if you are open minded enough and look at it a little bit more carefully. Example time! Some three years ago a friend of mine brought up the idea to watch the local icehockey team. Me being not much a sports fan except when it comes to the national institution called football and its grand-scale tournaments was very skeptical yet went on regardless. Liked it a bit the first time I saw it, saw it a second time and a third and, well, turns out I'm a fan now with a season pass....so don't just dismiss things or people out of hand - try them and learn about them, you can only win.
It's not just that, though. I've always wanted to go paintballing or play laser tag or SOMETHING, but none of my friends care about those things.