Alright a little background: for a few years now, I haven't been able to dream regularly, like many people do. Sometimes I fall asleep and wake up the next morning and other times I have strange, cryptic dreams that my subconsciousness just throws at me. As a result, I sometimes tend to daydream (nothing that would distract me from accomplishing anything, just on my spare time), which is the inspiration to many of my fictional works.
Anyway, for some time, I was wondering why I haven't been "looking" for someone to engage in a serious relationship with. Sure I've been on dates, I've meet and interacted with people at parties and social events, and I've even had a few love interests. However, none of these encounters have ever lead to something serious.
So when I tend to look back at some of my fictional works, for editing and such, I tend to realize something strange. While daydreaming, I tend to picture/visualize a "suitable" companion that I would believe to be compatible with, going beyond the constructs of an "ideal girl." Every time it's someone different; the cute, quite, yet reliable petite girl, the rowdy, difficult, yet protective chick, the spiritual, odd, yet thought-provoking woman, etc. etc.
I feel the reason why I can't take my soul searching seriously is that in the back of my mind (where my subconscious lies) I always have some fictional comforting image of a companion that I can go to. Now I don't "think" about these fictitious women when interacting with other women, but that on some level it affects me.
So Escapists, what do you think? Do you believe that the reason some people can't be committed to a relationship is because they have an "ideal" partner/set up already in their mind and they refuse to compromise? Are some people just too picky and just learn to settle?
For me, I want to be with someone who makes me happy and that I can picture being in a relationship with. I don't believe I'm a picky person in terms of dating (honestly, looks aren't a big factor to me), I just don't want to commit to any random person who I feel a 15 second connection with.
Anyway, for some time, I was wondering why I haven't been "looking" for someone to engage in a serious relationship with. Sure I've been on dates, I've meet and interacted with people at parties and social events, and I've even had a few love interests. However, none of these encounters have ever lead to something serious.
So when I tend to look back at some of my fictional works, for editing and such, I tend to realize something strange. While daydreaming, I tend to picture/visualize a "suitable" companion that I would believe to be compatible with, going beyond the constructs of an "ideal girl." Every time it's someone different; the cute, quite, yet reliable petite girl, the rowdy, difficult, yet protective chick, the spiritual, odd, yet thought-provoking woman, etc. etc.
I feel the reason why I can't take my soul searching seriously is that in the back of my mind (where my subconscious lies) I always have some fictional comforting image of a companion that I can go to. Now I don't "think" about these fictitious women when interacting with other women, but that on some level it affects me.
So Escapists, what do you think? Do you believe that the reason some people can't be committed to a relationship is because they have an "ideal" partner/set up already in their mind and they refuse to compromise? Are some people just too picky and just learn to settle?
For me, I want to be with someone who makes me happy and that I can picture being in a relationship with. I don't believe I'm a picky person in terms of dating (honestly, looks aren't a big factor to me), I just don't want to commit to any random person who I feel a 15 second connection with.