Need some help with a crush

[Timotei]

I have a bit of a problem with a boy at school.

His name is Richard Bloom and he is a die-hard Rozen Maiden fan who has stickers plastered all over his notebook and locker. Usually people would avoid a person like this, but there is a major problem. Richard is in both my English and Photo classes and has sat next to and partnered up with me ever since we met a few weeks ago. We eat lunch together and often have quite stimulating conversations about anime and photography.

Now, Richard is a nice person and quite considerate, but I already have a boyfriend and want to avoid a potentially weird situation in the future. I do not want to do anything that will make him dislike me as we have to sit next to and work together during two class periods for the rest of the year.

I ultimately want him to become a good friend and do not want to hurt his feelings.

 

[SharPhoe]

It's simple, really. Just treat him as a friend, and make no signs that would point to anything more. If he asks "the question", kindly inform him that you would, but you already are spoken for. If he's as considerate as you say, he'll understand.

 

[Neonbob]

This thread will be the most help for you
That user will probably be much more helpful for you than the rest of us.

 

[Souplex]

Drop your boyfriend into a conversation. Boom, any attraction he feels will melt away instantly.

 

[megapenguinx]

It's simple, really. Just treat him as a friend, and make no signs that would point to anything more. If he asks "the question", kindly inform him that you would, but you already are spoken for. If he's as considerate as you say, he'll understand.

My kirby-esque friend speaks the truth. Just treat him like a friend, and make it highly obvious that you are not into him romantically. If he does make any advances, make it known that you already have someone else.

 

[ZeroMachine]

This has got to be the first relationship thread to have to do with avoiding a relationship... Should she get a badge?

What you have to do has basically been covered. Don't act flirtatious with him at all, but be friends with him, and if you can manage it before he tries to make a move, maybe at one point invite him to hang out with you and a group of friends and introduce him to your boyfriend.

 

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Drop your boyfriend into a conversation. Boom, any attraction he feels will melt away instantly.

Melt below the surface, where it sits there stewing till BAM!, axe psychopath. I see it happen all the time.

 

[Halfbreed13]

just casually mention the fact that you have a boyfriend when you're talking to him
no big deal.

This.
The easyiest way to friend zone a guy is to either let him know of your bf, either through casual conversation, or saying how you'd like to have him meet your bf since you are such great friends.
Plus, there is the chance that he is in no way interested in you romantically, let's keep it real here.
AKA, don't worry until he obviously wants to date you, and then just let him know you have a boyfriend, easy as that.

 

[Sub_par]

It's simple, really. Just treat him as a friend, and make no signs that would point to anything more. If he asks "the question", kindly inform him that you would, but you already are spoken for. If he's as considerate as you say, he'll understand.

while this would usually work,and is sound advice for the most part, if the situation changes and later on you don't have someone, then your right back where you started and may have to hurt his feelings anyway. This response could leave the "I have a chance" impression and it sounds like that isn't the case. If i misinterpreted the situation and you would be interested if not previously involved, then this would be the way to go, however, if not this can potentially be problematic. (sorry about the long winded response, but I felt like this needed attention to detail.)

 

[Erana]

What does it feel like?
>.<
I just found out that, while my hormone levels are more normal now, the medicine that makes it so also suppresses the libido.
Its official: my first crush will be in the worst possible moment some time in graduate school or beyond....

Still, coffee's always good. Invite your boy, and a few other friends. Then you can really get to know him.
*subscribes to the magical powers of coffeehouses*

 

[Wildrow12]

Richard Bloom?!

THE Richard Bloom?!

THAT Richard Bloom?!

The Prince of Nightmares? The Two Stroke Killer? The Blood Rose?

Even amongst hardened criminals and murderers his name is spoken in whispers. In the streets of Harlem, Urban Sages feverishly tell his tale...as a warning to those who may seek him.

It is he who once tore the stars from the heavens and with the power of his monstrous will bade them melt into liquid. A thousand souls from a thousand conquered lands did he call into the forge, and into the fire he poured his hate, his sorrow, and his desire to rule all life.

Thus was born the "Rose Edge", his signature weapon, and with it he carved a dark legacy.

He is beyond death. He is beyond evil. He awakens every few centuries, fueled by an ageless, unceasing hunger.

A hunger for love. He seeks a bride to share eternal unlife with him.

Beware his call, oh Daughter of the Red and Green eye.

Drive thy sword deep into his heart....lest you too experience the curse of the Bloody Rose.


.........unless it's another dude named Richard Bloom. Then you can just casually mention your boyfriend and he'll go away.

 

[Kuchinawa212]

I would continue with what you already do, just tell him you want to be a friend and nothing more. And be sure to constantly remind him that you are spoken for already, not in a mean way, of course. Soon he'll get the picture and move on to finding a new girl.

Last bit, don't give him a beachhead. No teasing with him. Not only will it crush him in the end, but he will still think he has a chance.

 

[ROTMASTER]

take a chance you cant get anywhere in life without willing to take a risk

 

[wewontdie11]

If he does have a crush on you he is going to get his feeling hurt in some way regardless of how you sugar coat it.

Having been in young Richards situation when I was younger, I'd say the nicest way you could deal with it is by just making occasional but not blatant references to your boyfriend and although it'll be a bit of a kick in the nuts for him, use the phrase "You're a good friend." or something to the same effect.

If he's got any sense he'll know nothin is happening there. If he still hits on you though just say you're flat out not interested. That more than likely won't make him ignore you or anything but should stop him crushing on you.

Edit: 3000th post woot!

 

[The Bandit]

Drop your boyfriend into a conversation. Boom, any attraction he feels will melt away instantly.

Melt below the surface, where it sits there stewing till BAM!, axe psychopath. I see it happen all the time.

Thank you, sir. i lol'd

 

[stonethered]

This thread will be the most help for you
That user will probably be much more helpful for you than the rest of us.

yes, this thread is just what you're looking for. bonsaiK is a relationship mastermind, surprised he's not here yet.

 

[The Shade]

-snip-

Thread win, right there. The LotR monologue bit stands out a bit obviously, but the rest was good.

 

[TheGreatCoolEnergy]

Just dont flirt with him to much. As long as you dont show too much interest he should get the picture

 

[quiet_samurai]

Just draw the line somewhere, where you decide to do that is up to you. If it hurts his feelings then oh well, such is life.

 

[Magnikai]

Based off of what you're telling us, I don't see why you're concerned, it seems to be a non-issue to me.


desu~