Nerd Boyfriends

[SimuLord]

Probably because you're creepy.

...and?

Thats nothing to be pleased about, dude.

Neither is pissing in the punch bowl.

 

[Agent Larkin]

Well I met my girlfriend on a chat room for Avatar: The Last Airbender (yes, one of the nerdier love stories ever), and she lives 4 hours away from me. Long-distance relationships are hard, but we've been going strong for about a year and a half now.

There was one time that I realized that I had kind of been neglecting her. I felt horrible about it and dedicated myself to paying more attention to her. The first step in that plan? Plot with her mother (her family likes me, so I can do stuff like that) to have two dozen roses bought and scattered around my girlfriend's room while she was at work. I also mailed a handwritten apology/love letter to her mother, who put it on her desk for her to read when she got back. Since then I've had her mom put one of her favorite candies in her room every time she's at work.

A bit on the nerdier side, for Valentine's Day last year I was learning to code visual novels (very basic video games), and I created kind of an interactive love letter for her, with some questions for her to answer and everything. She loved that.

Go nerds!

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And the more cynical people (me among them) say romance is dead. Honestly that is a very good story.

 

[ScruffyTheJanitor]

12 roses. 11 real, one plastic.
Note saying "My love for you will last until the last rose wilts."
That way she has something symbolic to burn when she says that it's over in the super angry voice commonly seen in movies.

Not sure about the areas you come from, but there's a "build a bear" factory shop nearby. You can make a bear from there and it gets all the mooshy stuff like a birth certificate and clothing. Point is, you buy two, and name one after yourself and one for your girlfirend. That way, no matter where you are, you can always sleep with your partner to snuggle with.

Whips and chains.... oh wait, probably not.

Bridges... bridges are romantic. Guys, wear something you can wrap around her. 'tis romantic but bloody freezing.

Can't say any of these would be sure-fire to be romantic. While there is a "romantic" genre where everything is red, candlelit, covered in rose petals etc... What is truly romantic is something that is personal and that depends on the girl. Just have to listen for the right thing, and plan it for the right time.

 

[LiteraryLitany]

You won't dump water on me if I drag out my Molly cosplay, will you?

Of course not, sadly I haven't read the book in which she appears yet (I just read Storm Front actually, but I loved it so much that I ordered both Fool Moon and Grave Peril quickly afterwards) so I have no idea how she looks, only that she becomes Harry's apprentice... but I like surprises.

Oh! I won't give any more spoilers then, but the books just keep getting better! Especially once you hit Summer Knight.

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

An eveningo remember of course.
First dinner at her favourite resturanrt, followed by a carriage ride through the busiest, cultured part of the city followed by a trip to the beach where candles surround an imprmptu dance stage where we can privately dance to our favourite songs. After we can just watch the stars and create a own constellations.

Sounds mushy but thats what I'd do

 

[S4rdonyx]

12 roses. 11 real, one plastic.
Note saying "My love for you will last until the last rose wilts."
That way she has something symbolic to burn when she says that it's over in the super angry voice commonly seen in movies.

Not sure about the areas you come from, but there's a "build a bear" factory shop nearby. You can make a bear from there and it gets all the mooshy stuff like a birth certificate and clothing. Point is, you buy two, and name one after yourself and one for your girlfirend. That way, no matter where you are, you can always sleep with your partner to snuggle with.

Whips and chains.... oh wait, probably not.

Bridges... bridges are romantic. Guys, wear something you can wrap around her. 'tis romantic but bloody freezing.

Can't say any of these would be sure-fire to be romantic. While there is a "romantic" genre where everything is red, candlelit, covered in rose petals etc... What is truly romantic is something that is personal and that depends on the girl. Just have to listen for the right thing, and plan it for the right time.

The rose one...thats thoughtful. And I'd agree the personal thing... you could do everything by the book if you wanted to but something real personal and creative is best.

 

[Jirlond]

I would like to have done romantic things as a nerd boyfriend - but every nerd girl I have ever been around tends to be an attention/drama seeker.

My new plan is to find a girl who is as relaxed as me and then turn her to the nerdy side.

Achievement completion 0/100%.

I once gave a girl two of my prized posessions - a cerberus mini figure and a 1up mario badge!

 

[Pegghead]

On the contrary, a good relationship requires that both of you share, or at the very least understand, each others' interests. Dating involves consideration of marriage, and I could never spend the rest of my life with someone who couldn't be involved in my nerdism. You've got to find a girl you can be nerdy with: I just got lucky because I met her on an Avatar: The Last Airbender fansite.

Really? Me and my guy are both real competitive... esp when it comes to gh. completely outclasses me when it comes to halo, but its awesome playing co-op

Well you've got me there at my angle of "Having never dated in his entire life and will probably be a few years 'til he starts" and it's good if you're partner shares some of your interests. But I was talking about keeping your nerd life seperate from your partner if he/she isn't into things like gaming.

 

[Daedalus1942]

I'm going to be honest, I love nerd guys. I find they're intelligent, helpful and generally more romantic than most people give them credit for. If you have a girlfriend, what's the most romantic thing you're done for her? If you don't, what would be the most romantic thing you would do when find her?

I'd probably cook a nice dinner for her and then show her the littleBIGplanet level I made for her the night before.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Oh! I won't give any more spoilers then, but the books just keep getting better! Especially once you hit Summer Knight.

Oh awesome, I'll get there in *calculates* about a month or 2, depending on arrival dates of the books. Maybe I'll just wait with reading Dune then, even though that's due to arrive earlier than Fool Moon. Or I can just stop gaming for a day or 2 and finish it in 1 go. I lurv reading.

The rose one...thats thoughtful. And I'd agree the personal thing... you could do everything by the book if you wanted to but something real personal and creative is best.

Comes in handy if your girl adores the by the book stuff. But I agree with that, obviously, the most romantic things don't have to be those uber elaborate plans like the one I thought up, but those little yet extremely personal things you can only do if you really know a person.

 

[LiteraryLitany]

OT: I don’t have a girlfriend buy I know someone who got his girlfriend a gameing PC as a birthday gift.
they cosplay play together.

Now THAT is romance. ^_^ Yes, come to me with a proper monster desktop dressed up as Mal or Indy or Dresden and you will receive fangirlish delight. Never underestimate the power of fangirlish delight.

that’s just the case

Spoiler: CoolerMaster HAF 932

will this win you over? Because that’s the case he got her

I don’t remember the part’s themselves so just use your imagination

ooooOOOOOOooooh, all the slots for precious add-ons... Yes, my imagination is quite enough to make this beauty perfect.

 

[LiteraryLitany]

Oh! I won't give any more spoilers then, but the books just keep getting better! Especially once you hit Summer Knight.

Oh awesome, I'll get there in *calculates* about a month or 2, depending on arrival dates of the books. Maybe I'll just wait with reading Dune then, even though that's due to arrive earlier than Fool Moon. Or I can just stop gaming for a day or 2 and finish it in 1 go. I lurv reading.

Loves Dune... And Dresden... And Reading... AND gaming... T_T Why do you live all the way across the oceans and a continent?

 

[mindclockwork]

while i am not dating atm, most of girls do seem to enjoy having lenghty conversations with me... dunno why

and about my previous relationship, it was... bit meh on the romantic side. you could say that i could be called "relationship-noob" back then. now i know better, hopefully ^^.

 

[Thaius]

On the contrary, a good relationship requires that both of you share, or at the very least understand, each others' interests. Dating involves consideration of marriage, and I could never spend the rest of my life with someone who couldn't be involved in my nerdism. You've got to find a girl you can be nerdy with: I just got lucky because I met her on an Avatar: The Last Airbender fansite.

Really? Me and my guy are both real competitive... esp when it comes to gh. completely outclasses me when it comes to halo, but its awesome playing co-op

Well you've got me there at my angle of "Having never dated in his entire life and will probably be a few years 'til he starts" and it's good if you're partner shares some of your interests. But I was talking about keeping your nerd life seperate from your partner if he/she isn't into things like gaming.

Eh, I learned with my first relationship that if gaming is a big part of your life and she's not into it, she's probably not for you. I know it seems kind of shallow, but this is the person you may spend your entire life with: to at least understand your love for nerdism is a requirement if its any big part of your life. So my advice: by all means wait until the person comes along, 'cause that's just smart. But if you need to keep your nerdiness separate from her, she's not for you. You don't want to live your entire life holding back that part of you.

Anyway... my two cents.

 

[Simriel]

I think I'd try to keep my girlfriend and my geek life seperate, as in my life I have only ever experienced the latter. To quote Strong bad playing first person shooters with your girlfriend kind of ruins them both.

Umm... Why? It's a bad idea to be with someone you don't share interests with. Geek girls rock ^_^ I have one. She's awesome.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Oh! I won't give any more spoilers then, but the books just keep getting better! Especially once you hit Summer Knight.

Oh awesome, I'll get there in *calculates* about a month or 2, depending on arrival dates of the books. Maybe I'll just wait with reading Dune then, even though that's due to arrive earlier than Fool Moon. Or I can just stop gaming for a day or 2 and finish it in 1 go. I lurv reading.

Loves Dune... And Dresden... And Reading... AND gaming... T_T Why do you live all the way across the oceans and a continent?

And that's not even all! You're not the only one who wonders that, sadly we all seem to be spread out rather thin across the globe. Well, I guess we have to comfort ourselves with the fact that this is a rather small planet.

To quote Strong bad playing first person shooters with your girlfriend kind of ruins them both.

I beg to differ really. I must admit, healthy gaming competition between me and a nerdy girl is kiiiind of a fantasy of mine. Imagine: you're sitting there next to each other on the couch, trying to murder each other, one kills the other, it's almost a tie, she wins and looks on you with that sly look on her face....oh yeah.

 

[LiteraryLitany]

XD Okay, thought no better place to mention this than here, but I am now a nerdy boyfriend!

(One of my best friends wants a break from guys and them hitting on her so she's inventing a Canadian boyfriend and I get to be him online when she needs proof.)

Any suggestions on what I should do?

 

[LiteraryLitany]

Oh! I won't give any more spoilers then, but the books just keep getting better! Especially once you hit Summer Knight.

Oh awesome, I'll get there in *calculates* about a month or 2, depending on arrival dates of the books. Maybe I'll just wait with reading Dune then, even though that's due to arrive earlier than Fool Moon. Or I can just stop gaming for a day or 2 and finish it in 1 go. I lurv reading.

Loves Dune... And Dresden... And Reading... AND gaming... T_T Why do you live all the way across the oceans and a continent?

And that's not even all! You're not the only one who wonders that, sadly we all seem to be spread out rather thin across the globe. Well, I guess we have to comfort ourselves with the fact that this is a rather small planet.

*sigh* Yes, one hopes it gets small enough to find someone else eventually.

 

[Angelus SnV]

My girl and me seem to have a "friendly" rivalry in th'fact that she's a huge vampire fan, whereas i lean toward the werewolves...so we will often "argue" at each other with terms such as "Leach", "mutt", "glorified syringe", "obedience school reject"...

as far as most romantic thing i've done for her, i bought her a dozen black roses for valentine's day...everybody that saw/heard 'bout 'em got weird looks on their faces like i'd done somethin' blasphemous...they brought tears to her eyes so i think i did right...

 

[The Salty Vulcan]

XD Okay, thought no better place to mention this than here, but I am now a nerdy boyfriend!

(One of my best friends wants a break from guys and them hitting on her so she's inventing a Canadian boyfriend and I get to be him online when she needs proof.)

Any suggestions on what I should do?

Assistant Manager of an independant comic shop with a passion for astrophysics and an impressive action figure collection.