MarsAtlas said:
FirstNameLastName said:
Because there are significantly more people who are not okay with. If you have to make an assumption, why assume the least likely option?
In my own personal experience, making that assumption cuts out a huge segment of the population.
Making an assumption doesn't mean you have to commit to it one hundred percent, and stick by it in the face of further evidence. But, if you are going to start from a base assumption, why pick the least likely option?
Oh good, another race comparison. Well, if it's worth saying, it's worth saying twice I guess.
The difference between these two is the fact that very very few people don't care even in the slightest about eight generations of genealogy (and most wouldn't know it anyway), whereas, a very sizable proportion (mostly probably the majority) of cisgener people do care about the birth sex of the person they are with.
I pointed out earlier in this thread that this an instance of argumentum ad populum, an appeal to popularity.
I'm not going to waste time digging through seven pages when I'm already going to have at least three more responses by the time I'm finished responding to you, so have this link.
https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/bandwagon
If you're not going to "waste time" arguing the point, then I don't see any reason to "waste time" responding to you. But whatever, I guess I'll waste my time.
You made a comparison to race, and so I addressed it. In a way, your response is borderline argumentum ad logicam, since you have done nothing but throw links at me and not contest my point. Besides, I dispute the idea that demographic sizes are irrelevant to this discussion.
And I stand by my point that without reasonable suspicion that anyone would care about eight generations of genealogy, there is no reason to disclose it. Yet,
with very reasonable suspicion that people will care about your sex at birth, then you should. It's not an argumentum ad populum when popularity is a valid factor into the debate.
I'm not advocating for legal action, but simply from a moral stand point that you should disclose this information if you have a reasonable suspicion that the person you are with would not consent to sex if they knew the truth. And yes, math does have everything to do with whether or not you have reasonable suspicion.
Gonna have to disagree. If its such a big concern to them, they should bring it up themselves. You're also saying that there are less people who would contest a relationship with somebody who has a heritage of mixed races, but
I assure you its still a numericially abundant amount. Should they have to disclose? What about people who are sterile? Some people won't want to be in a relationship with somebody who is sterile, is it on the onus of sterile people to read the minds of their potential partners?
I assure you it isn't nearly abundant enough to compare to the number of people who wouldn't be okay with sleeping with someone who is transgender. It really depends on the number of generations, but I doubt even the white supremacists would care more than 4 or 5 generations back, and
most people are not white supremacists! I doubt the majority of people would care more than one generation back, if that. And that's not to mention that virtually everyone has some degree of racial mixing in their close ancestry.
Do you see why they are essentially the inverse here?
With race, there is only a
tiny minority who care about mixed race, and a
massive majority of people who
are mixed race. In this case, it's safest to assume that mixed race is the default, and not caring is the default, therefore, the onus is on those who care.
With transgender, there is a majority who care about sex at birth, and a
tiny minority of people who
are transgender. In this case, it's safest to assume that cisgender is the default, and caring about sex at birth is the default, therefor, the onus is on those are transgender.
As for whether or not people should disclose other aspects, such as, whether or not they are sterile. It really depends on what you're in it for. If it's a one night stand, you have no reason to suspect that anyone would care. If it's marriage to a person you and have a reasonable suspicion (yes I know how much you hate argumentum ad populum, despite how relevant it is) that they desire to have children with you, then yes, you should probably tell you partner you're sterile. The inalienability to procreate is a significant thing for many people.
Yeah, you're right, fuck those cis women.
The reason they would feel insulted is because asking each date/causal partner whether someone is transgender is rather rare, as such, if some where to ask them there would have to be something about them that gave this suspicion. They would probably assume the person asking the question thinks they have manly features, or something that would make them seem likely to be male at birth.
This still fails to be a problem of trans people. Its a contradiction of priorities among some cis people. They're willing to dump them if they're trans, and they'd not want to get far in the relationship only to find out that they're trans, but they're wholly unwilling to ask about it because they're afraid that if they do, the relationship might not go anywhere. Its ludicrous and their own fault if they fall into a situation where further down the line they find out that their partner is trans because they were reluctant to ask an important question. They didn't ask enough questions about something they feel strongly about because they never bothered to ask.
So this is just a case of cisgender, don't care.
I've already made my point about whose responsibility it should be to ask/tell, this is really just a continuation of that.
Although, I will add something that will probably have everyone screaming "victim blaming".
If you aren't going to consider this from a basic curtsey position, perhaps you should consider it from a more pragmatic standpoint regarding personal safety. Concerning all the people who violently beat transgender people for not being upfront about it, would that not be a good reason to be the one who
tells, rather than relying on others to
ask and simply hoping they aren't some violent psychopath? Yes, I know, it's heresy to suggest people adapt to a violent and intolerant world rather than stick their fingers in their ears and pretend they're in utopia, but it seems transgender have even more to lose here.
So I ask you, what exactly to trans people have to gain by relying on others to ask? A greater chance of getting a partner, and a greater chance to be fucking murdered by that partner? It just seems like a lose-lose situation for both cis and trans.
Because whether or not they consider it unimportant, others do, and would not consent if they knew the truth.
Some other people find it important and
some wouldn't engage in a relationship if they knew. And again, appeal to popularity. Just because the majority of people like it, doesn't mean they're obliged to it,and vice versa for a majority who dislike it. I know a woman who can't have sex using her vagina, but she manages to get by. She's not obliged to say "hey, my vagina? you're not getting in there", as nobody is obliged to vaginal sex. There's also the fact that there's plenty of alternatives, alternatives that people actually prefer.
For the ten billionth time, whether or not you should disclose this information is dependent upon how rare the occurrence is, and how often and how much people are likely to care. I've not heard of anyone who would feel violated to find out that they've bedded a woman whose vagina is unsuitable for sex, so no, she has no real reason to disclose that. Hypothetically, if this was something that a significant number of people had a very large problem with (up to and including, becoming so distraught that they consider murder), then yes, she should probably disclose that.
Besides, when has someone considering something unimportant been ... important? A lot of people consider transgender right to be unimportant.
Right, and a fair enough opinion to be had. After all, it doesn't really affect a lot of people. They just don't get to dictate how trans people should feel about things.
Okay, and you should trying to dictate how cis people feel about sexuality.