I'm feeling incredibly cynical today. Those of you who roam the Religion and Politics forum may have already seen this.
Anywho, I'm going to make a thread about the much talked about "Friend Zone".
It may be the fiftieth relationship related thread this week; and I'm fairly sure that I made a thread about the mythical "Friend Zone" a while ago; but I don't remember doing so and I don't like the search bar. It says unkind things about my mother.
So, in the words of Mario - plumber and vertical jump extraordinaire; "Let's a go!"
The "Friend Zone": It doesn't exist. It's more or less a way for girls (and less commonly, guys) to say "I think you have a good personality; but I wouldn't even let you touch me if I were drunk." Think about it; if you were in her position; and let's say that you were attracted to yourself while in her position; would you be objected to dating yourself? You should be; because that's weird; but if you truly were her, and you were attracted to what used to be you; then you probably wouldn't have a problem going out with that person.
The human mind of the male and female are both scarily different, and scarily alike. What this means; is that some of the stuff will be open to changing around based on your actual thoughts, but that for the most part; it holds true.
Honesty is Overrated: Chances are that if you're lumped in the "Friend Zone" (which I will now call the "Female Weapon of Mass Male Confusion" or "FWMMC" - not to be confused with boobs or cleavage) you actually are on a sort of friendly level with this girl; but one thing that we don't know; is whether or not she's actually attracted.
I mean; blatant attraction is easy to pick up on; but subtle attraction (i.e. She likes you; but not enough to show signs of blatant attraction. But she still likes you) is not. Of course; every male thinks that every female has either blatant or subtle attraction to them; so that doesn't help much either. But the fact that girls will never tell you whether or not they like you kinda creates a "getting dressed in the dark" effect. And she may already have the final stage of the FWMMC targeting you.
Cold, stinging rejection: If you've ever heard any lines that are similar to:
"You're like a brother to me!"
"I just wanna stay friends."
"You're funny and fun to talk to, what if a relationship ruined that?"
"No, I don't like you like that."
After asking a girl out, you've been hit by the FWMMC. After this; typical side effects of this are a bruised ego; unwillingness to talk to that particular girl againand sore throat.
Which is what she wants; she'll probably not call you or want to hang out after that. And she'll probably begin dating a man with several tattoos and a motorcycle.
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At the end of the day; the "Friend Zone" doesn't exist. It's a well intentioned tool of rejection. Of course, it's good intention does nothing; in fact, it even hurts more sometimes.
But to give the girls the benefit of the doubt; sometimes you just don't want to date someone because you've known them for so long.
[small]But most of the time; that's not case.[/small]
Anywho, I'm going to make a thread about the much talked about "Friend Zone".
It may be the fiftieth relationship related thread this week; and I'm fairly sure that I made a thread about the mythical "Friend Zone" a while ago; but I don't remember doing so and I don't like the search bar. It says unkind things about my mother.
So, in the words of Mario - plumber and vertical jump extraordinaire; "Let's a go!"
The "Friend Zone": It doesn't exist. It's more or less a way for girls (and less commonly, guys) to say "I think you have a good personality; but I wouldn't even let you touch me if I were drunk." Think about it; if you were in her position; and let's say that you were attracted to yourself while in her position; would you be objected to dating yourself? You should be; because that's weird; but if you truly were her, and you were attracted to what used to be you; then you probably wouldn't have a problem going out with that person.
The human mind of the male and female are both scarily different, and scarily alike. What this means; is that some of the stuff will be open to changing around based on your actual thoughts, but that for the most part; it holds true.
Honesty is Overrated: Chances are that if you're lumped in the "Friend Zone" (which I will now call the "Female Weapon of Mass Male Confusion" or "FWMMC" - not to be confused with boobs or cleavage) you actually are on a sort of friendly level with this girl; but one thing that we don't know; is whether or not she's actually attracted.
I mean; blatant attraction is easy to pick up on; but subtle attraction (i.e. She likes you; but not enough to show signs of blatant attraction. But she still likes you) is not. Of course; every male thinks that every female has either blatant or subtle attraction to them; so that doesn't help much either. But the fact that girls will never tell you whether or not they like you kinda creates a "getting dressed in the dark" effect. And she may already have the final stage of the FWMMC targeting you.
Cold, stinging rejection: If you've ever heard any lines that are similar to:
"You're like a brother to me!"
"I just wanna stay friends."
"You're funny and fun to talk to, what if a relationship ruined that?"
"No, I don't like you like that."
After asking a girl out, you've been hit by the FWMMC. After this; typical side effects of this are a bruised ego; unwillingness to talk to that particular girl again
Which is what she wants; she'll probably not call you or want to hang out after that. And she'll probably begin dating a man with several tattoos and a motorcycle.
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At the end of the day; the "Friend Zone" doesn't exist. It's a well intentioned tool of rejection. Of course, it's good intention does nothing; in fact, it even hurts more sometimes.
But to give the girls the benefit of the doubt; sometimes you just don't want to date someone because you've known them for so long.
[small]But most of the time; that's not case.[/small]
Discussion: What do you think about the "Friend Zone"?
