On The 'Friend Zone'...

[Exocet]

Quite frankly,if the girl even cared about your friendship,she would tell you straight up no,then tell you to back off and really think about the relationship between you two.

Saying:"don't worry,we're still friends,let's hang out" just gives the man false hopes and WILL come back to bite someone's butt later on.You really can't change a man's feelings with just one sentence and asking him to do it because you're too afraid of the way he might look at you afterwards is not fair,especially if you consider that man a friend.

 

[Jimson]

To be honest, I think to many people are looking at the "Friend Zone" as a way for a girl to avoid a relationship with someone they like, I.E. Them, Yes I know it's hard for people to understand, but YOUR NOT the hottest, most awesome guy around ( that would be reserved for me). Most of the time, it is a way for a girl who is your friend to say, I think your just a friend, Is that so hard for some people to grasp? That we need to invent ulterior motives for them to drop the F-bomb on you (Not that one guys!) I mean maybe it's because it's the way we are raised, television tells us that It's not you It's me means your a crazy loon, and I can't be with you anymore, So thats how we use it. The Friend Zone, Doesn't have to be the "Wink Wink Nudge Nudge" friend zone, can't it just go back to being the, I'm a girl, Your a guy, Were friends, You are interested in me, I am not zone?

 

[Forgetitnow344]

Think about all the girls you know. Would you say yes if any one of them asked you out? Do you think of all of your female friends as a potential love interest? If so, that is a very detrimental way to live. If you're a normal person and said no, then there's your counterexample. You can't operate on the premise that all of your friends are free game. It's not an evil tool used by girls who think they're too good for you. It's a real thing that simply exists. If a girl puts you in it, she isn't a *****. She's your friend. Try to enjoy that, eh?

 

[Keepitclean]

I fooled myself into thinking that I was just too nice...
But the friendszone is just a way for girls to say no while thinking they aren't hurting anybody. Which is far from true.
Here's a tip... go in, drop the bomb, and get the fuck out, before the negative side effects cause any mutations...

I agree. I would much rather them say something along the lines of "No, fuck off" rather than this "I still wanna be friends bullshit".

 

[Abedeus]

So I can't be a male's friend without being an asshole?
Thanks.
Thanks a lot.

Also it means I can't consider a girl "friend" without me turning out to be gay or asexual. Or that I am her friend so I can fuck her later.

Crazy, crazy world.

 

[Betancore]

Ah, I was ready to go 'but this Friend Zone doesn't exist!' Turns out you weren't going in that direction. Which is excellent. So. A girl doesn't want to date a guy, simply because she doesn't see him as someone she wants to be in a relationship with, and the guy invents the Friend Zone to make himself feel better. Maybe it was because said girl tried to let him down gently, by saying nice things such as 'you're like a brother to me.'

And now we have this. Great. I realise that girls could probably just say things outright, but most of the girls I know just don't do that. And to be honest, guys would complain just as much if girls said 'Sorry, no, I don't like you.'

 

[Danny Ocean]

So I can't be a male's friend without being an asshole?
Thanks.
Thanks a lot.

You can be my friend!

I'm like the Gok Wan to several different girls, and very close to one in particular, I'm more open with her than with anyone else. That's the actual friendship zone. The one you slip into without asking them out and getting rejected. And it is actually kinda fun.

I disagree with the OP.

 

[AMMO Kid]

The only girl I ever asked out said no but that she wanted to remain friends. Ha fat chance of that! Now she just acts nice to me around friends but still disagrees with EVERYTHING I say and has made no attempt to be my friend, but if you asked her she would say that we are. Weird.

Well, she's prolly just really insecure. To the point that she's trying to inflate her "friends" group to make herself feel more socially accepted. A lotta people also define, "Friend" as "People whose name I know and who recognize me."

Anyway, why have you only asked a person out once? you often are going to be rejected in these situations, no matter who you are. A friend of mine from college got turned down by this this rude loser of mediocre appearance. She is extremely personable, and I swear she's one of the very brightest people at that school. Did I mention she was a model?
You never know who will be infatuated with who.

Yes, some people have advantages in the romance department, but the only thing I can surmise about dating is that you can't win the lottery if you don't play.

I see your point, but I never could honestly say I liked anyone else enough to ask her out

 

[LightningBanks]

Do you know what I always hated after asking a girl out, then them saying 'lets just be friends' or whatever.

The awkwardness of the next conversation

 

[Acier]

So I can't be a male's friend without being an asshole?
Thanks.
Thanks a lot.

Ever seen When Harry met Sally?

OT: I was FWMMC:d once, but we where still friend after that. Kept up a good, friendly relationship. Nothing romantic or anything. Just friends.

Otherwise I am extremly succsessful when it comes to women.

You know he's gay right?
I had a good laugh if it was intentional.

Your perception of the female mind is jank, we don't try to intentional confuse you, we just don't want to date you. Like is that seriously hard to understand? Do you really think it would but a warm fuzzy feeling in your heart if all you were doing to a girl was being a decent human being and then if she asked you out, you reject her (not liking her in that way) and she blames it on some outside force?

The friend zone is for people who can't come to terms with the fact they aren't the most mindblowingly awesome in the world.

ALSO: I like how girls get ton o shit for being confusing and hard to read, when guys can be just as hard as any girl. Don't act like your sex is some clear shining beacon of communication, you aren't

 

[SnipErlite]

Ehh to be honest sometimes it's better to stay friends.

Unfortunately a relationship can completely ruin a friendship. Even if they're your best friend....

 

[Acier]

ALSO: I like how girls get ton o shit for being confusing and hard to read, when guys can be just as hard as any girl. Don't act like your sex is some clear shining beacon of communication, you aren't

Trust me - when you're a man, you can read other men like an open book. We're not subtle examples of the species, and if you understand a few basic motivations, you can easily read significant parts of male expression from facial features alone.

Same could be said for us, I'm not saying men are these arcane mysteries, but neither are women. You confuse us just as much as we confuse you, yet are instantly understood by our own sex.

 

[Delock]

As far as I can tell, I'm always in the friend-zone, but my definition differs a lot from most other people's on that. You see, I don't describe the friend-zone as the one sided romance/being led on situation most people commonly think of it as. My version is that with most girls, my relationship stops at friend with them and it won't ever change. Some of the times, it's because she's dating one of my friends, but other times it's because I'm just not interested in anything more. Sure, the thought will cross my mind once, but my mind goes through so many thoughts that just about everything crosses it, and in addition, the thought doesn't come back again. There has only been one person who has wanted to be more than friends, but that was due to a somewhat naive viewpoint, a craving of acceptance, and a somewhat extremely codependent nature (how does all this tie together? I was the only one who remained her friend for more than 3 years, which she had her attitude to blame for that). I just narrowly avoided having the conversation come up thanks to graduation.