Online dating syndrome.

[tthor]

You're a very pretty woman so it's likely you won't need to wait long for the replies.

Thanks ^_^

ya, what he said. It seems oddly depressing in this dating-economy when not even an attractive woman can get a date. What is wrong here?!

 

[Kargathia]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

From the perspective of somebody whose mom tried it out: don't be surprised if they spend half an hour trying to find the perfect turn of phrase. Or mulling your every comma looking for hidding meaning.

Really, that was some in-house entertainment right there. And I even liked the guy she hooked up with!

Just too bad they split up when he came out of the closet.

 

[Doclector]

I wonder if he is part of the weird misogynist on line group, I forget what they are called.

Virgins?

*snerk* No, wait... I have no idea but it was more "Feminism means I can't get laid, women are evil blah blah blah" I think it's The Manosphere or something.

Sorry OP. not intentional honest.

Y'know, a lot of people are gonna accuse me of being that (although I never said that, but hey ho, that's the internet, where logic goes to die) but all I can think of is that "love celibacy" society that Rimmer was a part of in red dwarf. "Love is an invention designed by bank managers and novelty card makers".

 

[winginson]

Yeah tried those once.

No quicker way of making you feel bad about yourself. At least in real life there are plenty of other things I can blame for not meeting/socialising with women.

 

[Mr. GameBrain]

Is it bad that I'm considering just getting a giant sign and wearing it as I walk?

You know like this:

But with my details on it.

(It would be like "This man is single and available. Call xxxxxxxxx for details")

At least then, people will know I'm interested! XD
(And I don't have to ask them! HAHA!)

EDIT: On second thought, maaaaaybbee online dating isn't such a bad option... XD

 

[Sehnsucht Engel]

I've come to the conclusion that all girls on these sites have delusions about finding their prince charming one day. After that, I couldn't take it seriously again and just shake my head at the thought of it.

 

[Weaver]

I've come to the conclusion that all girls on these sites have delusions about finding their prince charming one day. After that, I couldn't take it seriously again and just shake my head at the thought of it.

There are kind of a lot of... passive women on them? The kind that are basically like

"Hi, I have no drive, motivations, hobbies or education. I just want a nice guy to sweep me off my feet and take care of me!"

I'm, personally, not really into babysitting.

 

[Mr. GameBrain]

I've come to the conclusion that all girls on these sites have delusions about finding their prince charming one day. After that, I couldn't take it seriously again and just shake my head at the thought of it.

There are kind of a lot of... passive women on them? The kind that are basically like

"Hi, I have no drive, motivations, hobbies or education. I just want a nice guy to sweep me off my feet and take care of me!"

I'm, personally, not really into babysitting.

Haha!

Well I guess all the good ones really are taken! XD

(Well... they certainly wouldn't need online dating to find a man eh? ;p)

 

[Dectomax]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

On topic, one of my good friends met the lady he is now engaged too through one of those sites. So I guess you can find someone, if you look hard enough. As for the messaging - I'm the same with my phone; I message back instantly because it's what I'd expect of other people, when I have to wait for 30 or 40 minutes for a reply I get a little aggravated...

 

[Trivun]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

I used to be on OK Cupid myself, originally just for the tests but I decided to try the dating side after a while for the fun of it. Then I started to get more serious about it and ended up one of the obsessive types you mention . Though I did eventually quit due to very little luck (the one girl I did speak to outside the site had some severe issues at the time regarding her dad's health, and it was a bit too much baggage for me at the time), and the girls local to me when I moved back home after uni weren't really worth the effort. But yeah, I used to keep refreshing the page and got quite paranoid to some degree. Now that paranoia is channeled into refreshing for replies to my threads here and to my stories on Fanfiction.net and Deviant Art! So at least I have something else to be obsessive over...

 

[shrekfan246]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

 

[Weaver]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Just join user groups and don't turn off chat notifications and yours can look like that as well!

 

[Dectomax]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Well, that somebody won't be me! I'm pretty sure there's an auto-delete function...because the number will randomly drop sometimes...

 

[shrekfan246]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Just join user groups and don't turn off chat notifications and yours can look like that as well!

Oh yeah, tell me about, when I first joined the Brovengers, turning off chat notifications was one of the first things I did. I get OCD about making sure I don't have unread notifications, so having them pop up every five minutes is very distressing.

Well, that somebody won't be me! I'm pretty sure there's an auto-delete function...because the number will randomly drop sometimes...

You're a sadistic person. WHY WON'T YOU ADHERE TO MY CRAZY IDEALS ABOUT THE WEBSITE INBOX?!?! I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

[sub]That was a joke. Mostly.[/sub]

Erm. Wait, I can still tie this back to the original topic. Yeah, getting replies gives me a mix of a warm, fuzzy feeling, and the sense of "Oh no" dread. And then I hate and love seeing those numbers pop up at the top of my bar. It's like "Oh boy, I got noticed!" but at the same time "Dammit, that number is there again!" And then equal parts "I wonder who's raging at me this time?"

 

[Dectomax]

-Snip-

When I got back from lunch today I had 8 notifications.

I was like, "Oh God... what did I say this time?"

Well damn, aren't you popular. The most I've had at one time is three, I think.

Notifications you say?!

Somebody should really clean out your inbox. A clean inbox is a happy inbox!

Just join user groups and don't turn off chat notifications and yours can look like that as well!

Oh yeah, tell me about, when I first joined the Brovengers, turning off chat notifications was one of the first things I did. I get OCD about making sure I don't have unread notifications, so having them pop up every five minutes is very distressing.

Well, that somebody won't be me! I'm pretty sure there's an auto-delete function...because the number will randomly drop sometimes...

You're a sadistic person. WHY WON'T YOU ADHERE TO MY CRAZY IDEALS ABOUT THE WEBSITE INBOX?!?! I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND.

[sub]That was a joke. Mostly.[/sub]

Erm. Wait, I can still tie this back to the original topic. Yeah, getting replies gives me a mix of a warm, fuzzy feeling, and the sense of "Oh no" dread. And then I hate and love seeing those numbers pop up at the top of my bar. It's like "Oh boy, I got noticed!" but at the same time "Dammit, that number is there again!" And then equal parts "I wonder who's raging at me this time?"

Bwahahahaha! Each time you reply, it gets worse!

 

[DevilWithaHalo]

I've come to the conclusion that all girls on these sites have delusions about finding their prince charming one day. After that, I couldn't take it seriously again and just shake my head at the thought of it.

There are kind of a lot of... passive women on them? The kind that are basically like

"Hi, I have no drive, motivations, hobbies or education. I just want a nice guy to sweep me off my feet and take care of me!"

I'm, personally, not really into babysitting.

I was dangerously close to wetting my computer screen.

If they aren't passive, they are overly hostile...

"Where are all the REAL men? Tired of dating creeps and losers! I'm not going to have sex with you, so don't bother! I'm a REAL woman, REAL women have Curves; not some barbie doll! Think you can handle me?"

Oh boy, I can have a sexless relationship with an angry self entitled confrontational fat chick; where do I sign up??!!

There are so many gems, I can't help but look from time to time for a good laugh.

 

[Attercap]

I should point out I'm not waiting on a response to first contact, I'd be fine with that. But we've been talking for over a week and getting on rather well, then suddenly no reply.

When I first started using dating sites, I was "that guy." I'd get along with a gal, but stumbled over the right phrasing to take it to the next step and go silent for a while. Either that or I'd be chatting with multiple females and, once things started moving along with one, would essentially cease communications with anybody else. Hopefully your case is more the former.

By the way, I've matured since then. Now I join dating sites and don't communicate with anyone!

 

[The_Waspman]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

Oh god no!

Actually, I bottomed out with this just last week. So yeah, I'm on a dating site, which I think is lame enough as it is, but I happened across the profile for this woman, she was attractive, and had a really detailed profile. Granted, she was out-of-my-league-hot but figured I should give it a shot.

She replied the next day, with a message that was overwhelmingly positive. Told me how interested she thought I was (so I lied about a few things - like how I might actually have interesting shit to say), how she'd be very interested to get to know me better, so on and so fourth.

After I replied, never heard from her again. Despite the fact she's been online, and read my message. So yeah, the overanalysis kicked in, what the fuck could I have possibly said to go from her saying 'I'd like to get to know you better, but if nothing comes of it, I don't see why we cant be friends' to absolutely nothing. Did I slip so me subliminal KILL THE WHORES messages in there or something?

My issue is that
1) From the girls I talked to, none of them seemed to know how conversation worked. I would write long replies, ask some questions, trying to inject energy and personality into them, etc. They just had short, slim replies that gave me very little to work with in terms of sending a reply back.

2) Akin to this, so many people are just BORING. How many people do you find that "love to travel, like some bands and play a sport"? Like 90% of the people on there are like that. They're just too normal for me. I guess I always liked the weird girls.

Also this. My social skills are skewed enough as it is, but when I'm given nothing to work with...

In addition (on the profile front) how many times do you find the phrase "I like nights in, and nights out." What other fucking options are there!?! I mean really!?! That tells you NOTHING!!!

*rage quits*

 

[Attercap]

My personal favorite along those lines has always been "I like to have fun." Thanks, that's helpful to know, profile writer. Did you know, I've noticed that breathing helps keep me alive!

 

[Mr. GameBrain]

Ok. Now I want to join a dating site just out of pure curiosity now.

Damn you people... Damn you...