Online dating syndrome.

[MrMixelPixel]

Bit of a tangent, but apparently there's a (fucking awful) news story just broken about a guy who hated his wife, so he went on Craiglist and made an ad pretending to be her, saying she loved raped fantasies, and she wanted strangers to force themselves on her in her home without warning, and two seperate guys thought this would be a good idea.

At the same time!? That most have been awkward for those gents...


Ot: I've never used a dating site before! I ,however, would certainly be one of the people gets a message and doesn't respond for awhile. On the rare occasion when I actually have girlfriend, I almost always forget to respond to texts. Sometimes I forget and sometimes I don't know what to say. Just because someone isn't responding doesn't mean they didn't like what you said though. Don't worry too much about it.

 

[Helloo]

I used to be that way (not particularly in regards to online dating as I've never tried it (maybe one day)) in regards to texting, facebook chat, msn et cetera until I learned that I was overthinking things way too much.

If they haven't replied, 9/10 times it's because they're busy doing something else. And 1/10 times it's because I've said something to offend them, they don't want to talk to me, I'm boring them et cetera.

That's the way I view things now and it's worked out pretty fine.

So yeah, ReadyAmyFire and the rest of the escapists suffering from this, stop overthinking things!


k'

 

[waj9876]

I honestly don't know if I'd want to even attempt at a dating site. First, if I DID manage to find someone interested, chances are I would grow to despise them if they weren't as anal about spelling and grammar as I am. Second, to even be considered on such a website if you're a guy, you have to either be perfection personified, or have a strange quirk. Like being foreign, overly muscular, or...bisexual...


Huh...I wonder if I could get some responses on a dating website. Are young, dirty blond, shoulder-length-haired, bangs barely covering eyes, intelligent, bisexual/pansexual men who enjoy cooking still considered attractive nowadays?

 

[shrekfan246]

But I get paranoid that I said something stupid whenever I get the little notification that I've been quoted or replied to or something.

Even though I never say stupid things.

[sub]Again, I kid.[/sub]

Happens the same to me, and I did say a lot of stupid things, but now it's more that I start thinking if I was too rough on someone. I'm active on forums since 2007 and was usually a calm easy going person, but in this last couple of years I've been more direct, sometimes arrogant and overconfident. So every time I see a quote I think to myself "Maybe I was too harsh and hurt his feelings" Then the reply is usually harsh too and we get into a harsh discussion, and this type of discussions usually doesn't benefit anyone, it just makes our blood boil.

I usually just duck out of an argument if it gets too heated, because there's no reason to get all worked up over the internet over stupid things like a video game trailer. I'll read topics that tend to blow up into massive flame wars, but I rarely post in them and I prefer to stick with the silly or at least less-serious threads.

I don't come to a video game forum to debate philosophy.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I'm on a dating site for friends only (y'know since it is a friends AND dating site) and since y'know men have this inability to read even though i have it stated repeatedly in my profile that I am not here to date or to find someone to fuck, I constantly get shit like "hey baby what's up? wanna fuck? or wanna date me?" Reminds me again why I despise men right now and makes me thankful that dating wise I've given up men for a while in favour of women who don't pull that shite normally.

Also, yes I do get paranoid especially when we're in a really good conversation about books or video games

 

[BNguyen]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

It's really annoying. All of the local women on the site are the complete opposite of my type and the women that I think would be worth perusing a relationship with are miles away.
On the rare occasions I do find someone local worth talking to, they seem to stop responding with no rhyme or reason.
Urgh.

exactly, and every one of them says "if you have questions, feel free to ask" and when I ask politely like "what kind of movies do you like?" they completely ignore you and with me on one case, she completely blocked me
I really can't see how acting like a ***** will get you a date

 

[Odbarc]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

I was a little more interested in why 100% of the people refused to read my emails and deleted them instantly without ever reading them or looking at my profile.

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Blunderboy]

It's almost as bad as online package tracking; refresh, refresh, refresh. Anyone ever used one of these sites and gotten paranoid over why someone isn't replying even though you can see they're online?

Oh and if you happen to be on the escapist too, reply you cad!

[heebie jeebies] I'm making captcha nervous with my crazy spinster talk.

It's really annoying. All of the local women on the site are the complete opposite of my type and the women that I think would be worth perusing a relationship with are miles away.
On the rare occasions I do find someone local worth talking to, they seem to stop responding with no rhyme or reason.
Urgh.

exactly, and every one of them says "if you have questions, feel free to ask" and when I ask politely like "what kind of movies do you like?" they completely ignore you and with me on one case, she completely blocked me
I really can't see how acting like a ***** will get you a date

I know. If you're not interested, just say so politely.

 

[neonsword13-ops]

"dorko will love you long time"

Made my night. XD

OT: Being only 16, I can't say I have any experience with dating sites.

I can, however, say that's how I feel on this site, especially in my user-group. I'm always ecstatic posting news and waiting to see if someone wants to share their opinion on it, and no one replies in the chat section. Makes me a bit sad...

But nevertheless, you must remain confident. I'm sure you'll get some replies soon.

 

[MammothBlade]

Dating sites do work from time to time, I recently found an interesting, attractive girl on one and we're going to meet soon.

Admittedly I did have this sort of messaging anxiety whenever girls took their time to respond.

I'm on a dating site for friends only (y'know since it is a friends AND dating site) and since y'know men have this inability to read even though i have it stated repeatedly in my profile that I am not here to date or to find someone to fuck, I constantly get shit like "hey baby what's up? wanna fuck? or wanna date me?" Reminds me again why I despise men right now and makes me thankful that dating wise I've given up men for a while in favour of women who don't pull that shite normally.

Also, yes I do get paranoid especially when we're in a really good conversation about books or video games

That's a bit of a generalisation, maybe your profile is set up so only douchebags message you? Kidding, kidding, but with guys like that on dating sites my polite messages maybe have a chance.