Please help me find another forum/online community.

[AngelOfBlueRoses]

Snippity!

I'm sorry, Lilith, but when your entire post basically reads off as "I don't belong at the Escapist; we don't get along. 'help me say goodbye'" in addition to all the recent build up with you this post simply doesn't come off as anything BUT dramatic. If you really, really didn't want to be dramatic, you would have simply stated that you were looking for new gaming sites and given a well-thought out and concise description of your tastes.

 

[LilithSlave]

If you're set on leaving then bye, I am certainly not helping you.

I'm not set on leaving unless I find a good replacement. I won't necessarily suddenly leave for good. But it would be nice to find a good place to occupy my time and hopefully slowly replace my time here.

Do you think there is a magical place where everybody on there loves all the games you do and hates the same things you do?

Unlikely. But it should be possible to find someplace that I have more in common with the typical person than here. You wouldn't want to be on a Nintendo centric site if you don't like Nintendo games.

The Escapist seems to be into wRPGs, realistic games, and PC gaming, for the most part. That's what I've heard, at least. Not my cup of tea, personally.

Even in terms of topics about stuff other than video games, I'm usually riling everyone up with controversial statements on the subject of piracy and gender. Apparently a lot of people take great offense to the statement that white privilege exists, as well.

You do realise that it's her that says any opinions that differ to hers shouldn't be acknowledged?

You're bending my words again. As usual.:/

 

[Rose and Thorn]

I've asked these sorts of questions at online forums before, usually to not very good results like "why would you want to go anywhere else" or something like that. I think some people view it as advertising and I think on some forums it isn't even allowed. But I'm hoping I'll get lucky this time. I've noticed tonight I'm a bit frustrated and tempted to behave badly. And stoop down to levels I shouldn't stoop down to.

I was wondering if you could help me. I need a new site. You see, I love video games, or at least, I think I do. Being on the Escapist makes me question that sometimes. I love thousands of video games, and so, naturally, I thought I would fit in here. But I think that perhaps, things haven't gone optimally.

Spoiler

I do, I love thousands of games. There are a lot more games that I'm interested in and feel up to talking about if others want to talk about it, than I do. I love almost every single genre of video game and thus most of the games that belong to those genres. I love scrolling shooters, I love bullet hells, I love Touhou, I love DoDonPachi, I love Mushihimesama, I love Ibara, I love Espgaluda, I love Deathsmiles, I love platformers, I love jRPGs, I love Metroidvanias, I love Life Similators, I love Visual Novels, I love Racing games, I love some sports games, I love skateboarding games, I love puzzle games, I love Tower Defense games, I love Fighting Games, I love MUSHes and MUCKs, I love Raising Sims, I love Survival Horror games, I even don't mind some MMORPGs that much. I love Super Mario Bros. 3, I love The Legend of Zelda: A Link, I love Keio Flying Squadron, I love Tales of Symphonia, I love Tales of the Abyss, I love Detana!! Twinbee, I love Air Fortress, I love Cotton, I love Twinkle Star Sprites, I love Pocky and Rocky, I love Chrono Trigger, I love Recettear, I love Fortune Summoners, I love The Adventures of Lolo 2, I love the Adventures of Lolo 3, I love Persona 4, I love Disgaea: Hour of Darkness, I love Tales of Graces f, I love Tales of Vesperia, I love Star Ocean 3, I love the Legend of Zelda: Twilight Princess, I love Persona 3, I love Secret of Mana, I love Seiken Densetsu 3, I love Final Fantasy IV, I love Final Fantasy VI, I love Final Fantasy Tactics, I love Gurumin, I love GUST, I love Atelier Rorona, I love Tales of Phantasia, I love Earthbound, I love Dragon Quest IV, I love Mother 3, I love Super Mario Galaxy, I love Super Mario Sunshine, I love Super Mario RPG, I love Paper Mario 64, I love Paper Mario: The Thousand Year Door, I love Magical Pop'n, I love Lufia, I love Bunny Must Die, I love Axelay, I love Super Mario World 2: Yoshi's Island, I love Kingdom Hearts, I love Kingdom Hearts II, I love Fatal Frame II, I love Fatal Frame III, I love the Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time, I love Mega Man X, I love Mega Man 7, I love The Misadventures of Tron Bonne, I love Kiki Kaikai, I love Pocky and Rocky, I love Final Fantasy IX, I love Megaman and Bass, I love Tekken 3, I love Tekken 5, I love Street Fighter Alpha 3, I love Umineko no Naku Koro ni, I love Terraria, I love Donkey Kong Country 2: Diddy's Kong Quest, I love Eternal Sonata, I love Street Fighter x Tekken, I love Blazblue, I love Magic Knight Rayearth, I love Pokemon Red, I love Pokemon Yellow, I love Pokemon Gold, I love Pokemon White, I love Radiant Historia, I love Super Paper Mario, I love Cho Ren Sha, I love To the Moon, I love Offspring Fling, I love Kirby Super Star, I love Kirby's Adventure, I love Cocoron, I love Katamari Damacy, I love Scarygirl, I love Cave Story, I love Alice: Madness Returns, I love Kirby's Epic Yarn, I love Ducktales, I love Mabinogi, I love LaTale, I love Wild Arms, I love Xenogears, I love The Legend of Zelda: Wind Waker, I love Super Smash Bros. Brawl, I love Tomba!, I love Drill Dozer, I love Spyro the Dragon, I love Guilty Gear, I love Techi Muyo Game-Hen, I love Gradius, I love Super Mario Kart, I love Mario Kart 64, I love Luigi's Mansion, I love Beatmania IIDX 9th style, I love R: Racing Evolution, I love Ridge Racer 7, I love Mario Kart Wii, I love Sonic the Hedgehog 2, I love Sonic the Hedgehog 3, I love Sonic Adventure, I even love Sonic Heroes and the modern Sonic games in general, they're good enough for me to enjoy, I love Sonic Generations, I love Klonoa 2: Lunatea's Veil, I love Klonoa: Door to Phantomile, I love Donkey Kong Country, I love Donkey Kong Country Returns, I love Donkey Kong Country 3: Dixie Kong's Double Trouble, I love The Legend of Zelda: Majora's Mask, I love The Legend of Zelda: The Minish Cap, I love The Legend of Zelda: Phantom Hourglass, I love Ao Oni, I love Clock Tower 3, I love Kuon, I love Parasite Eve, I love Parasite Eve 2, I love Brave Fencer Musashi, I love Silent Hill 2, I love Super Robot Wars W, I love Gundam Wing: Endless Duel, I love Super Robot Wars Z, I love Threads of Fate, Rosenkreuzstilette, I love Perfect Cherry Blossom, I love MegaMari, I love New Super Marisa Land, I love Imperishable Night, I love Mountain of Faith, I love The Embodiment of Scarlet Devil, I love Immaterial and Missing Power, I love Scarlet Weather Rhapsody, I love Unthinkable Natural Law, I love Shoot the Bullet, I love Phantasmagoria of Flower View, I love Subterranean Animism, I love Undefined Fantastic Object, I love Fairy Wars, I love Double Spoiler, I love Ten Desires, I love Yume Nikki, I love Satazius, I love Radiant Silvergun, I love Einhänder, I love Sonic CD, I love Minecraft, I love Castle Shikigami 2, I love Phantom Brave, I love Daioh, I love Trouble Witches, I love Sinistar, I love Ikaruga, I love Super Marisa Land, I love Mighty Jill Off, I love Harvest Moon, I love Harvest Moon 64, I love Harvest Moon: Back to Nature, I love Harvest Moon: Save the Homeland, I love Harvest Moon: A Wonderful Life, I love Harvest Moon: Magical Melody, I love Harvest Moon: Tree of Tranquility, I love Harvest Moon: Animal Parade, I love Pokemon Blue, I love Pokemon Silver, I love Pokemon Ruby, I love Pokemon Sapphire, I love Pokemon Diamond, I love Pokemon Pearl, I love Pokemon Platinum, I love Digital: A Hate Story, I love Pokemon Yellow, I love Pokemon Colosseum, I love Pokemon Ranger, I love Pokemon Mystery Dungeon, I love Mega Man X2, I love Mega Man X3, I love Mega Man X4, I love Mega Man X5, I love Mega Man X6, I love Mega Man X7, I love Mega Man X8, I love Mega Man Legends, I love Mega Man Legends 2, I love Tail Concerto, I love Solatorobo: Red the Hunter, I love Dragon Quest IX: Sentinels of the Starry Skies, I love Mystical Ninja Starring Goemon, I love Kirby 64: The Crystal Shards, I love Mega Man, I love Mega Man 2, I love Mega Man 3, I love I love Mega Man 4, I love Mega Man 5, I love Mega Man 6, I love Mega Man 7, I love Mega Man 8, I love Mega Man Zero, I love Shantae, I love DonPachi, I love Kingdom Hearts: Birth by Sleep, I love Tales of Destiny, I love Rozen Maiden: Alibat, I love Tales of Eternia, I love Eversion, I love Beat Hazard, I love Noitu Love 2, I love Atelier Totori, I love Rhapsody: A Musical Adventure, I love Odin Sphere, I love Princess Crown, I love Magical Drop 3, I love Lunar: Eternal Blue, I love PuLiRuLa, I love Nights into Dreams, I love Disney's Magical Quest starring Mickey Mouse, I love Disney's Magical Quest 2 starring Mickey and Minnie, I love Disney's Magical Quest 3 starring Mickey and Donald, I love Epic Mickey, I love Kingdom Hearts: Chain of Memories, I love Legend of Mana, I love Seiken Densetsu 3, I love Children of Mana, I love Heroes of Mana, I love Fire Emblem: Radiant Dawn, I love Fire Emblem: Path of Radiance, I love Elebits, I love Taiko no Tatsujin, I love Super Smash Bros. Melee, I love Muramasa: The Demon Blade, I love Super Mario Galaxy 2, I love PokePark Wii: Pikachu's Adventure, I love My Little Pony: Story of the Blanks, I love Octomania, I love Puyo Puyo SUN, I love Soulcalibur IV, I love PaRappa the Rapper, I love Persona 2, I love Shin Megami Tensei: Devil Summoner, I love Touch My Katamari, I love PoPoLoCrois, I love The UnderGarden, I love DuckTales, I love Xenosaga: Episode 1, I love Ivy the Kiwi?, I love Klonoa: Empire of Dreams, I love Klonoa: Dream Champ Tournament, I love Dance Dance Revolution X, I love Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 2, I love Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 3, I love Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 4, I love Wizardry V, I love Wizardry VI, I love Wizardry VII, I love Wild Arms 2, I love Xenosaga episode II, I love Xenosaga episode III, I love .hack//infection, I love Xenoblade Chronicles, I love Star Ocean: The Second Story, I love Coron Land, I love Maui Mallad in Cold Shadow, I love Radiant Historia, I love Magical Starsign, I love The World Ends with You, I love Yoshi's Cookie, I love Rune Factory: A Fantasy Harvest Moon, I love Rune Factory 2, I love Rune Factory 3, I love Tobe's Vertical Adventure, I love Pop'n Music, I love Dr. Mario, the Legendary Starfy. I love so many games. I love almost every single game that exists. Or at least over half.

And yet, somehow I don't belong here. That long list of games I like wasn't for you to read all of, it was to prove a point that when I think of all the games I like, versus the games that I don't, I feel like I enjoy most video games in general. But somehow what I like doesn't fit around here, me, and the Escapist, aren't the same kind of video game fan. I don't enjoy most of what the Escapist likes, and the Escapist hates what I like with a passion.

So I need somewhere else to go. If you know my tastes, and you probably do, as notorious as I am, where I could go. A website that would be fitting for my video games tastes and desires. Someplace not completely alienating, even, would be good enough. I really want someplace to talk about video games that I like. I don't like being alone, and I hate to sound melodramatic by saying that, but I don't have an online community like that right now. Therefor, I'm kind of alone in terms of online communities. Not completely, but fairly so. And I don't want to be.

So please please help me. Help me say goodbye to the Escapist, and hello to greener pastures. And thank you for your time.

Hey don't leave Lilith. You aren't alone, I am the same way when it comes to games. The type of person that wants to talk about the good in a game way more then the bad. A person that loves all genres and a wide range of taste in those genres. I have been on this site for 3 years *this is my second profile* and I have yet to find a greater online community than Escapist. Of course this is my opinion, but a largely agreed upon opinion.

If you choose to leave, that is your choice, but I have enjoyed many posts you have made in the past and would like to be your friend on here, maybe you wouldn't feel so alone if you start talking to more people on this thread that are telling you to stay? There are lots of great people on the Escapist. As a person that doesn't like many people, I like plenty on this site, and some have left messages on this thread, like Daystar, Shinji, Vault, Matthew94 and of course Caramel Frappe, possibly the nicest person on here!

In terms of what other forums are out there, thats tough. Every forum is going to have discussions and different opinions, so maybe what you are looking for is fan sites?

 

[Giftfromme]

PLEASE DON'T LEAVE ME, I WILL DIE WITHOUT READING YOUR POSTS. OH I CANNOT LIVE WITHOUT YOU POSTING ON THE ESCAPIST, PLEASE DON'T LEAVE!!!!! I WILL DO ANYTHING FOR YOU!

 

[LilithSlave]

IGN has a very strong forum community.

And now to quote something that isn't derailing the thread with pointless drama.

Thanks! I really appreciate these posts which are about helping me actually find a good forum.

I have an account on IGN. I just never used it. I've been considering trying to get more into it for a while now, but it was one of those things that seemed like more effort that it was worth at the time, every time. I've also forgotten my login by now.

What all is good about IGN, exactly? I hear they like Nintendo games around there, that kind of gets me excited about being there.

Is that really all the games you like?

Probably not even close. But that was all the energy I had.

For actual contribution, I say go to Facepunch.

Appreciate it!

If I might ask though, could you describe their culture some and what kinds of games they tend to like, and what kinds of games might ruffle some feathers if I tried to post about? Most game forums have "that one game" everyone likes to hate on, and will start trouble if you bring it up or say you like it. I don't want to make that mistake, and I don't want to spend several days or weeks lurking to find out.

for some reason i immediately thought of gaia online, they have a pretty good forum, and most people there like anime.

R-Really... I've never used Gaia Online. But... I didn't typically hear good things about it. No offense to anyone. I don't know how Gaia Online is. Just, usually when I hear about it it's...

I'm going to be one of those people who say that I have honestly never had an issue with any of your posts and actually quite enjoy a large majority of what you've had to write. Regardless of whether or not you find a new gaming community, I hope you find whatever it is you're looking for.

Awwwww, I don't know whether I should be responding to praise posts. As it probably would make me look... yeah.

But I couldn't pass this up. I'd at least have to PM you and tell you thanks if not quoting you. It's nice to know, that even now, I have folks that like me around.

And thanks to everyone who said that. Even if I do find another forum, I'll probably still come here from time to time. And I'm glad some people have enjoyed my posts.

 

[LilithSlave]

Curious though, what have you heard of it?

Bad English, immaturity, low tolerance for "intellectual" or "educational" subjects.

Basically, lots of people who like to things with posts like "lol wow" and "lol ur dumb XDDDDDD" and stuff like that. That's what I've heard.

You implied, for instance, that this place was completely alienating.

Well, I have gotten a lot of responses over time with people saying things like "we(the Escapist) don't like that stuff".

That appeared to be an issue. So my natural response was to allude to that. I doubt people would have responded differently because it would have been obvious why I was making the thread even if I didn't make it obvious.

Also, it is kind of alienating. People are insisting I am rude when I am being civil or joking, just because my position is controversial. People call me aggressive when I am playful and passive. And people outright tell me I need to take a hint and stop posting about stuff because "the Escapist doesn't like that". When people are desperately searching through your words to find some "aggressive" tone to use against you, well...

I can't say that I much enjoy company that is inflammatory towards me while insisting that I am being inflammatory. And insist on interpreting my jokes and every other word as an insult.

 

[The Night Angel]

As Overpuce said in the first response, I have never taken exception to anything you have posted, and have often enjoyed the posts. I didn't read through the entire list, but after skimming over it, I'd have to say that for the most part, I'd agree with your choices (I won't lie, some I would disagree on, but I'd never judge someone based on the games they like). I can't tell you what other communities are out there, as this is basically the first I tried, and I really like it.

 

[repeating integers]

I have an account on IGN. I just never used it. I've been considering trying to get more into it for a while now, but it was one of those things that seemed like more effort that it was worth at the time, every time. I've also forgotten my login by now.

What all is good about IGN, exactly? I hear they like Nintendo games around there, that kind of gets me excited about being there.

They like pretty much everything over at IGN, pretty much every genre of game over there has at least one major subforum where fans of that type tend to gather. I was originally a member of the Zelda community, but after a few years I started exclusively posting on the Vestibule. The Vestibule is my favourite board, basically being an anything goes off-topic forum. It is a lot more lax with the rules than you find over here, you're not allowed to cuss, but at the same time you're not going to be banned for "being insensitive".

Each community within IGN tends to differ from one another, but most of them are quite positive. The Vestibule is the only difficult community to become an actual member of, you've got to be recognizable for something you've done on the Vestibule or other websites. I had my psychopath gimmick and "I Became Erection".

I guess some things really don't change.

 

[Terratina.]

So please please help me. Help me say goodbye to the Escapist, and hello to greener pastures. And thank you for your time.

Seriously, focus on the things that we, on The Escapist, have in common with you. Judging from the list of games, there's a heck of a lot of things there. Don't give up hope on this site because you can't talk about a niche game in a niche genre. Nobody likes stuff they're not personally interested in forced down their throats, I know. People here have had enough of Touhou babble. But hey, it's either the chans or $10 on an account on Something Awful for you then, if you really want to leave that much.

 

[LilithSlave]

Seriously, focus on the things that we, on The Escapist, have in common with you.

Shouldn't I focus on finding a community that likes what I like instead of forcing myself to talk about games I'm less interested in because other people want to talk about it?

People here have had enough of Touhou babble.

Okay, good reason to find somewhere that enjoys more than two Touhou threads. Because I like to talk about that.

niche game in a niche genre.

Oh come on, let's not bring up this argument again.

I'll say this. If Escapist considers a game franchise like Touhou not only obscure, but too obscure to be worthwhile and worth talking about. Then my tastes in video games are probably not mainstream enough for this site. In fact, every time I mention my tastes, I wind up coming across somebody who says "the Escapist doesn't like that", as if I wasn't good at taking a hint and had to finally be told.

And what I'm constantly told, is that the Escapist doesn't like retro games, the escapist doesn't like cute games, the Escapist does not like scrolling shooters, the Escapist does not like retro games, and so on and so forth. Their words, not mine. I'm sure there's a minority of people that feel different. But I'm not sure I should just continue being a vocal minority and struggle to talk about games that I like. I don't enjoy sifting through a million Mass Effect and Elder Scrolls threads, trying to find a Harvest Moon thread or even a Zelda thread.

Outside of jRPGs, scrolling shooters are quite possibly my second favourite genre of video game. So of course I'm going to want to talk about them.

 

[Terratina.]

Shouldn't I focus on finding a community that likes what I like instead of forcing myself to talk about games I'm less interested in because other people want to talk about it?

There is a Touhou user group, you can chat about it there. Believe it or not, any online community will have opinions that differ to yours. Different people like different things. Person A might like Touhou and Person B might like Touhou but disagree over which games are the best, for example. I presonally, love Puchi Carat (an old Japanese arcade game.) but I don't complain when people don't want to talk about it.

Okay, good reason to find somewhere that enjoys more than two Touhou threads. Because I like to talk about that.

Those two Touhou threads have crashed and burned into flame wars, I heard. That's probably mainly the reason why people don't like it.

Oh come on, let's not bring up this argument again.

Let's not. It's niche where I'm from and I'm sorry for living in the middle of nowhere (Wales.) Just sayin'

I'll say this. If Escapist considers a game franchise like Touhou not only obscure, but too obscure to be worthwhile and worth talking about. Then my tastes in video games are probably not mainstream enough for this site. In fact, every time I mention my tastes, I wind up coming across somebody who says "the Escapist doesn't like that", as if I wasn't good at taking a hint and had to finally be told.

Outside of jRPGs, scrolling shooters are quite possibly my second favourite genre of video game.

Well, how do you have over two thousand posts without this hullabaloo?