How is this even a question? Looks fade over time, but stupid and boring is forever.dragonslayer32 said:
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This would stop me from dating the girl in question ever again.dragonslayer32 said:
Sorry, but you can't just fix broken trust like that.
Gonna back up what most everyone else is saying: Get with the new girl. You were considering asking her out anyway, so she's clearly pretty "enough".
Really? Last time I gave my opinion, you gave me a warning for that too! I can't fucking win with you people.The Man With the Soap said:
I would never date someone who cheated on me. I would not want to set myself back up in that position. Go with the new girl you met, your ex is just using you as a fall back. Besides I would go with personality over looks anyday.
Personally it sounds like to me your ex only wants you back until she can find someone else. As other people have said if she's cheated on you once she will cheat on you again. Besides, looks will only get you so far (it's in the eye of the beholder anyway). When you truly love and trust someone, they become the most beautiful person to you. And that kind of beauty will last far far longer than any kind of physical attractiveness.
I hate to say this, but personality is a little better to have than looks.
IT DOESN'T however mean that a mutated-freak-zombie-blown off limbs-with and eyeball hanging out is going to get kim kardashian.
Just saying that its helpful.
IT DOESN'T however mean that a mutated-freak-zombie-blown off limbs-with and eyeball hanging out is going to get kim kardashian.
Just saying that its helpful.
Your ex is an ex for a reason. Not to mention that Ms.Personality can't be that unattractive if you're...well, attracted. Even if we look at this with pure logic, your ex +1 on looks, -1 on dull, -1 on cheated. That's a -1 total. Ms.Personality is currently +1 personality, neutral on looks, N/A on previous experience. That's +1 in comparison. Ms.Personality, dude! Go with Ms.Personality.
If I were you, I would date your ex knowing that I would never take her seriously. Maybe, she can be good for one thing. Since you are young, I am sure you got hormones that are raging. But that all depends on how much you really like this college girl. Are you not over your ex? I only ask since you seem to have feelings for this college girl, why you would think about going back to that hurt again? Situation seems to be a given.
Yes, I am the one that voted for looks, but that is not what I meant. If you are not over your ex, then don't go out with the college girl and hurt her or even worse use her as a rebound.
That's what I meant.
Yes, I am the one that voted for looks, but that is not what I meant. If you are not over your ex, then don't go out with the college girl and hurt her or even worse use her as a rebound.
That's what I meant.
I'm surprised so many people are going with personality. I was pretty sure there were more shallow people on here. Anyways...@1 person who picked looks-who cares about looks? I know some attractive people that will never put out so you might be stuck with a girl that is attractive, but doesn't do anything with those looks and your conversations are about how to plug in TVs.
And on the topic of your ex CHEATING ON YOU!!!! Don't trust her. Trust is hard to gain, easy to lose and impossible to get back. REMEMBER THAT!
And on the topic of your ex CHEATING ON YOU!!!! Don't trust her. Trust is hard to gain, easy to lose and impossible to get back. REMEMBER THAT!
I'd always pick an interesting girl over an attractive one, but I'm secure enough to admit that I wouldn't want to be with someone who I didn't find at least somewhat physically attractive.
That's a unique way of looking at it, but so true!Glaive_21842 said:
+1 to creativity in approaching advice!
Ah, but we have to consider length - if you'll pardon the innuendo. Can we really see a relationship with this guy's ex who - as has been pointed out soooo many times - cheated on him? I don't see it lasting. On the other hand, Personality Girl has the potential to be around for longer, thus giving you a higher amount of sex after a certain point. From a sexy-sexy point of view, Personality Girl still has the potential to have a higher socre than Looks Girl[footnote]I hate referring to them as such. Seems kinda rude. I'm sure both girls look quite nice and they both have personalities, even if one of them is "cheater".[/footnote]Zeeky_Santos said:
I'm not the first to say this, and probably won't be the last: "Go with personality!"
The fact you're even torn between them should be an indicator to you that maybe it's time to sit down and thoroughly assess your priorities for what you are looking for in a relationship.
Even more, the fact you are torn between a new girl and your ex who cheated on you, and whom you have stated you do not entirely trust should be a clear sign that maybe your mind or judgment is a bit misplaced.
The fact you're even torn between them should be an indicator to you that maybe it's time to sit down and thoroughly assess your priorities for what you are looking for in a relationship.
Even more, the fact you are torn between a new girl and your ex who cheated on you, and whom you have stated you do not entirely trust should be a clear sign that maybe your mind or judgment is a bit misplaced.
Everyone (okay, most everyone) is initially attracted to a person physically, opposed to their personality, but in the long run, what's most important is whether or not you're attracted to their personality. Getting along with someone, finding common ground, being able to have an intellectual or casual conversation, and feeling comfortable with a person is far more important than their hairstyle.dragonslayer32 said:
Your ex cheated on you, and although there are some exceptions, most times that's reason enough to not get back together. Not to mention your ex is 'dull'. I know that feeling all too well, albeit between friends, and it's something that can really ruin an interaction with a person. And those interactions are the most important part of relationships.
I personally haven't been in this sort of situation myself but I do feel personality is more important in the long run.
Rule No.1 Never return to an ex.
If u broke up there was probably a good reason and if it didn't work b4 what is different this time?! I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule but i doubt your situation is that.
Also why did she cheat? Is that gonna change or will she do it again? I wouldn't say don't trust someone cos they cheated on you, there may have been other issues but think on it.
Don't go back just because it's comfortable if it's gonna be boring and what is the point in going backwards in life? Ever?
GL <3
If u broke up there was probably a good reason and if it didn't work b4 what is different this time?! I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule but i doubt your situation is that.
Also why did she cheat? Is that gonna change or will she do it again? I wouldn't say don't trust someone cos they cheated on you, there may have been other issues but think on it.
Don't go back just because it's comfortable if it's gonna be boring and what is the point in going backwards in life? Ever?
GL <3