Poll: Am I a Bad Person?

[Thedayrecker]

Yes but only because of your grammar

Even if you're right you should just keep things like that in your head

 

[Kraj]

So this Tuesday 3 girls went drunk driving at 11 AM and crashed. 1 died 2 are in a coma. One of there friends came around asking for a donation to help pay there medical bills. I declined and said if theyre dumb enough to go drunk driving at 11 in the morning on a snowday when the roads are bad then they can face the consequence and pay for it themselves. I got a lot of dirty looks and i was told i was being selfish. Does this mean im a jerk or would you have done the same?

:shrug: unless they pushed you to explain why you wouldn't donate, it seems that it was unnecessary to volunteer the details.
Try to be polite, do what you do, but be polite until pushed. A modicum of decency costs nothing and can get you far, "imho"

 

[Goody]

I think you have a fair point. It was their own fault for one of them drinking and driving, and for the other 2 letting her and getting in the car with her, and even with harsher driving conditions.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

You do know that it's possible to be correct and tactful at the same time, right?

 

[clicketycrack]

I got the same thing when some idiots in my town got hit by a train because they were weaving around the guard rails.

 

[Jonluw]

You deliberately voiced an opinion you knew would annoy the other person rather than tell a lie that would have taken the same amount of time and been just as effective.

There are, of course, people who are against lying by principle.

I do however agree that going out of your way to tell the solicitor that their friends were stupid is unneccesary and a bit of a dick-move. Personally, I would just decline donating. If they asked for an explanation, I would have told them the truth. Lying to humour others is not something I consider a good deed.

 

[s0denone]

You are a bad person. You know you are as well or you wouldn't be worried.

You deliberately voiced an opinion you knew would annoy the other person rather than tell a lie that would have taken the same amount of time and been just as effective. You said what you did because you felt clever and wanted everyone else to know how clever you are at the expense of their feelings.

Sorry for cutting out Lord Vader here, but Generic Gamer summarises my thoughts on the issue.

You could have easily spared the poor guy grieving his dead friend the suffering by saying something else, but you ended up telling him his friend deserved to be killed, and that the other two deserved to end up in coma.

It is appalling to say the least.

 

[Ekibiogami]

You are 100% right. I would have told them to just be thankful they didn't kill anyone innocent with their Stupidity.

 

[TerranReaper]

Let me propose something for you. If your family or close ones were comatose and you were going around looking for donations to pay for their medical bills, and then someone says the exact same words to you that your family deserved what they got, would you not consider that guy an asshole? Granted, I don't think you're selfish in not donating, but you are still an asshole for telling them that. It would've been a lot easier to just say "Sorry, can't." and just leave it at that.

 

[teebeeohh]

well you are right but you are still a bad person, if you were a truly good person you wouldn't ask this question but in your self righteousnesses would just assume you were right

 

[icame]

I wouldn't say so. You didn't really handle the situation well though. The girls were being idiots, and they payed for it. I would much rather give my money to somebody who had no control over what happened to them.

 

[rutger5000]

Honestly there are limits to stupidity. Yes a good person also pities a fool for the trouble he/she caused himself. But this just crosses the line. Those girls really brought this on themselves. What's more they deserve punishment. Now they crashed into a tree, but they could just as well have crashed into a bus full of schoolchildren. Acts like these count to me as attempt of dead by fault (I know this term does not exists, but you can see what I mean.) I'm not a fan of execution, but yeah if those girls knowingly and willingly risked the lives of themselves and others and wound up in a coma during the process. Then that isn't something to pity, that's karma.
Shortly put:
A fool decides to risk his/her own life and gets hurt in the process => give pity and help
A fool decides to risks his/her own life and that of others and gets hurt in the process => give no shit.
Everybody is free to disagree, but you must see some logic here.

 

[William Dickbringer]

you were right but in that situation I would have kept my mouth shut for the better and said no and make up some excuse like "I'm low on money" or something like that

 

[Jester00]

Lol, I read the story, then answered the poll as if you were right to do it, so i accidentally hit yes XD

26 people failed like you, cause i think nobody would REALLY hit yes

 

[Zaverexus]

Honestly I don't think you're wrong, but when something ends that severely I think a little reverence is due. When and if they recover, they deserve to be told just how stupid they were, if they don't already know from that experience.
You can't learn from your mistakes if you die.

 

[s0p0g]

post #2 said "meh theres a time and place for honesty. this doesnt seem to be it, however"

i'd like to differ. that is exactly it. i did the same in a similar situation. i'd tell them why i don't give a single cent; don't make any excuses, stand up for what you think! *thumbs up*

collecting/giving money for such people is like applauding them for their stupidity, and we, as civilized people, value inner qualities such as intelligence and responsibility, over superficial things like looks, sympathy & pity (for these horrible, horrible accidents none could have foreseen... oh, wait) etc.
thus, we disregard the opposite of that: stupidity, recklessness, irresponsibility, losing control of oneself, etc. those traits cannot be rewarded.

and the only people being selfish are those asking for money, because they do it for feeling better; not for the sake of those poor, poor drunk girls driving on icey roads who then strangely ended up in a road ditch.

 

[monkey_man]

I agree with a lot of chums and chummettes here.
If you are stupid enough to get yourself killed/in a coma, atleast take the consequences like an idiot. Because that is what you are if that happens.
You are no bad person.
You are a sane person

 

[Sethzard]

I don't think anyone deserves death, but I don't think that donations should be asked for to pay their bills when the money could go to better thengs.

 

[cocoadog]

Not in my book. Hell I would have asked for a donation... As in all there stuff. HA! Don't drink and drive.

 

[Mstrswrd]

So this Tuesday 3 girls went drunk driving at 11 AM and crashed. 1 died 2 are in a coma. One of there friends came around asking for a donation to help pay there medical bills. I declined and said if theyre dumb enough to go drunk driving at 11 in the morning on a snowday when the roads are bad then they can face the consequence and pay for it themselves. I got a lot of dirty looks and i was told i was being selfish. Does this mean im a jerk or would you have done the same?

While you're not a bad person (I would have thought much the same thing), I wouldn't have said it. It's in bad taste, even though it's true.

Actually, one of my classmates died due to his own stupidity (a car accident that ended up with him in many, many pieces on a highway), and though I refused to give it the time of day (seriously, I just read Manga that day because even the teachers were depressed), I still kept my mouth shut.