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Poll: Am I too picky?
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Only thing I really have to add is are you tolerant of others' beliefs, on that note?
Personally, I'm an atheist and have been almost since I started high school, but I've dated religious people in my history. We didn't avoid the topic, we just understood one another enough to know that if one of us brought it up we would talk about it, and we respected each other enough to not try and convince the other they were wrong.
Personally, I'm an atheist and have been almost since I started high school, but I've dated religious people in my history. We didn't avoid the topic, we just understood one another enough to know that if one of us brought it up we would talk about it, and we respected each other enough to not try and convince the other they were wrong.
Seems about right.
Finding someone with compatible intellect and interests would be a good idea, and as for the whole "tolerate me/respect me" thing I don't see how anyone could not have that requirement when looking for a life partner. Seriously, how would ditching respect "requirement" even be a possible consideration?
Is being openly religious really all that important though? There's a difference in respecting a "controversial" personal belief, and tolerating someone who constantly goes public with it and get into predictable conflicts over it.
I'd shut up about my otherwise heartfelt Atheism in a second if it meant the difference of having a woman I liked like me back, or if she felt my sometimes fierce arguments over it was taking away from what I had with her.
Guess that's an inherently personal choice what to weigh though.
Finding someone with compatible intellect and interests would be a good idea, and as for the whole "tolerate me/respect me" thing I don't see how anyone could not have that requirement when looking for a life partner. Seriously, how would ditching respect "requirement" even be a possible consideration?
Is being openly religious really all that important though? There's a difference in respecting a "controversial" personal belief, and tolerating someone who constantly goes public with it and get into predictable conflicts over it.
I'd shut up about my otherwise heartfelt Atheism in a second if it meant the difference of having a woman I liked like me back, or if she felt my sometimes fierce arguments over it was taking away from what I had with her.
Guess that's an inherently personal choice what to weigh though.
I know something simpler, just fall in love and you will not care about not having the same interests etc :]
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Short version: NO. You are not being too picky. Everything you listed is part of a healthy relationship (except the travel thing, an added bonus in my opinion.)Naheal said:
Long version: No, you are light years away from being to picky. If anything, I'd say that you are at the perfict level on pick v. loose scale. You represent that inreasingly rare group of people who have (prasumably through deep introspection and/or trial-and-error) have figured out EXACTLY what they are looking for in a life partner.
-Your ability to look past physical appearince dimonstrates a state of admirable emotional maturity.
-The disire to engage in intellectual conversation shows your enjoyment/need for mental stimulation.
-The need for the person to Respect your beliefs shows a connection to your heritage and the need for shared interests is a common (but no less important) part of any relationship.
-The enjoyment of travel is a common sign of a flexable and open mind.
-And your ambition to become an educator is a powerful tell of your intellect (something that many find attractive).
-And finaly: the fact that you were willing to post this thread asking us, an amorphis mass of (most likely) complete strangers, for help shows just how much these things mean to you in the confines of a strong, lasting relationship.
As I said: you are far fom too picky. In fact, I feel you should be praised for having managed to set what you are looking for is such specific, concrete, and understandable terms.
Oh, and best of luck finding the person you are looking for.
*sorry about the incomplete post a minute ago. I accidentally hit the "Post" button.*
I think that anyone who thinks you are asking for too much are probably in denial over their own preferences in a partner, or are extremely desperate.
I'd say mine are somewhat similar in general, although personally I'd want someone with at least some similar interests as I can't see a healthy relationship developing with two people who have to compromise with pretty much everything they do together.
I'd say mine are somewhat similar in general, although personally I'd want someone with at least some similar interests as I can't see a healthy relationship developing with two people who have to compromise with pretty much everything they do together.
Does being Gnostic require one to talk publicly about one's faith? IRL I've never been asked any questions about my (lack of) faith, nor brought up the subject with anyone else than a few close friends (and all you loveable internet strangers), so why would anyone but your family, girlfriend-to-be, and friends have to know of your specific convictions if publicizing them is a potential liability to your love life or opportunities in general?Naheal said:
No need to actively hide it, but no need to promote it either. Unless you want to, of course.
So what you're looking for is a clever girl who respects you, shares your interests, and will put up with your beliefs and career choices.
Honestly, you are using the right criteria; you lusting after supermodels, detailing her required pedigree or selecting by eye colour. Instead, you're looking for an equal who will treat you as one, and stay by you.
Keep it up, and good luck!
Honestly, you are using the right criteria; you lusting after supermodels, detailing her required pedigree or selecting by eye colour. Instead, you're looking for an equal who will treat you as one, and stay by you.
Keep it up, and good luck!
Those were pretty much always my standards, took a while but I did find a girl who pretty much fills them all. As long as you're not the type of person who drives their religion down everyone elses throats it really shouldn't be that hard. As long as you tolerate other peoples views you should be able to find someone who does the same.
if it wasn't for the chase you halfway round the world just because thing it'd be not picky enough, however it'd seem that with that added on it's pretty much too picky unless you're fine dating a total social recluse who has no relevant people tying them down to a place.
Also, without assuming anything, if you're female you probably stand some amount of a chance, while if you're male you're pretty much screwed unless you've got a lot of money or you're pretty attractive.
Also, without assuming anything, if you're female you probably stand some amount of a chance, while if you're male you're pretty much screwed unless you've got a lot of money or you're pretty attractive.
the things you say are perfectly fine, the travel thing will probably be the biggest obstacle.
on that note! you're bit about tolerance has caught my attention, i need to stress to you that this needs to go both ways, i speak as a person who's been in a relationship that went south because of differing religious views. when we started dating i told her it didn't matter to me that she was very catholic, and that i wasn't gonna say anything directly against her faith despite some of my grievances with it, and she told me she wasn't going to try and force her beliefs on me. i kept my half of the agreement, she did not keep hers and broke it off with me because i refused to "accept jesus into my heart"
just keep in mind that you're beliefs aren't the only important ones and you should be fine.
on that note! you're bit about tolerance has caught my attention, i need to stress to you that this needs to go both ways, i speak as a person who's been in a relationship that went south because of differing religious views. when we started dating i told her it didn't matter to me that she was very catholic, and that i wasn't gonna say anything directly against her faith despite some of my grievances with it, and she told me she wasn't going to try and force her beliefs on me. i kept my half of the agreement, she did not keep hers and broke it off with me because i refused to "accept jesus into my heart"
just keep in mind that you're beliefs aren't the only important ones and you should be fine.
My Standards are impossibly high. This is for a reason, it allows me to justify to myself if in doubt why I am not pursuing a relationship.
Also, I found out they are not actually impossibly high as one of my university friends hits every point, it is kind of scary. (Not that I am interested in her, she is "Interesting")
Also, I found out they are not actually impossibly high as one of my university friends hits every point, it is kind of scary. (Not that I am interested in her, she is "Interesting")