Poll: Am I too picky?

[manic_depressive13]

No, but being the sort that enjoys spiritual, philosophical, and religious discussion tends to require an establishment of my own basis.

I don't think you're aiming particularly high, but you've basically narrowed your potential partners down to Gnostics with similar beliefs, or very moderate Christians. The only time I've ever heard of a relationship with partners of differing beliefs working is when at least one partner isn't very firm in their beliefs or doesn't care about spirituality/ lack thereof. However, if you want to be able to discuss these things with someone interested enough to know what they're talking about, you won't be able to sweep it under the rug and I believe it will cause unecessary tension.

It's still not that big a deal (depending on where you live).

 

[quiet_samurai]

No, everyone has standards... those are just yours. The only reason people give you shit about something like being too picky is because you don't comform to what they consider to be normal, in other words, you are not doing what they would or think you should be doing. I get it all the time from my mates, they are constantly hounding me for something like...I don't nail the fat, sloppy, loud ***** at the bar that has taken a liking to me, and they would have, cause that's how they roll. In really don't care, and sure they get laid more then I do, but i wouldn't trade in one girl I hook up with for ten of theirs.

So just do the best you can, and if you meet someone that may not meet all the characteristies you have listed above you should still give them a chance, because they might have something you may find out you admire later on.

 

[Jedoro]

Reasonable standards to me. I mean, it's potentially the rest of your life you're planning for: if you're not happy from the get-go, it's just going to suck the whole way.

 

[Naheal]

No, but being the sort that enjoys spiritual, philosophical, and religious discussion tends to require an establishment of my own basis.

I don't think you're aiming particularly high, but you've basically narrowed your potential partners down to Gnostics with similar beliefs, or very moderate Christians. The only time I've ever heard of a relationship with partners of differing beliefs working is when at least one partner isn't very firm in their beliefs or doesn't care about spirituality/ lack thereof. However, if you want to be able to discuss these things with someone interested enough to know what they're talking about, you won't be able to sweep it under the rug and I believe it will cause unecessary tension.

It's still not that big a deal (depending on where you live).

You forget that Mysticism, Buddhism, and Wicca are also open like that. Hell, even agnostics and atheists tend to have good spiritual conversations as well.

The big hang up that I have is on travel, though. Since I plan to move around, I don't think I'm going to be able to find someone until I actually settle on a place and get there.