Poll: Are you happy?
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Right now, thing are going the best they have for quite a while. I have good friends, am at uni studying computer science, got 80% on my last assignment, I have both Red Cliff and Spirited Away in the post, and I spent an enjoyable afternoon yesterday making origami models.
Life is good.
Life is good.
The primary requirement for being content is a stable internet connection.
As long as I have that I'll be fine.
I'm fairly sure whichever part of my brain is supposed to handle emotions is more or less crippled, so I'm 90% confident I'm not capable of happiness. But hey I also don't feel bad about it because I don't really experience grief significantly.
Emotions are over rated.
As long as I have that I'll be fine.
I'm fairly sure whichever part of my brain is supposed to handle emotions is more or less crippled, so I'm 90% confident I'm not capable of happiness. But hey I also don't feel bad about it because I don't really experience grief significantly.
Emotions are over rated.
Life has the annoying habit of only letting you be aware of your unhappiness. So eventhough you'll be happy plenty of times, you won't realize it untill you're unhappy again.
I could be happier, but I could also be unhappier. There's people that care about me, and there's activities I enjoy. That's more than most people can say, I reckon.
I could be happier, but I could also be unhappier. There's people that care about me, and there's activities I enjoy. That's more than most people can say, I reckon.
Content would be a more accurate term.
I'm not quite doing what I wish to with my life, but am on the right path to get there. I'm not crushed financially, and again, am on the right path to do well in that category. I have reason to be proud of the work I do, and am reasonably well entertained while relaxing.
A more extroverted person than I am might be lonely, only a small handful of good friends, and for the past few years no significant other. (I have little time to invest in a long term relationship and hold no interest in a casual fling) As it stands however I get plenty of social interaction.
I'm not quite doing what I wish to with my life, but am on the right path to get there. I'm not crushed financially, and again, am on the right path to do well in that category. I have reason to be proud of the work I do, and am reasonably well entertained while relaxing.
A more extroverted person than I am might be lonely, only a small handful of good friends, and for the past few years no significant other. (I have little time to invest in a long term relationship and hold no interest in a casual fling) As it stands however I get plenty of social interaction.
And both groups tend to have the same problem. Neither of them tend to do anything about the things they are collectively either moaning about or ignoring. By all means, find joy where you can, but don't let it blind you to the things that need to be fixed.SimpleThunda said:
Eh, I guess.
I have enough money for the stuff I want and a good family. There's all the stuff that comes with being a uni student to drag me down (lots of work, massive loans, unsure of what the future holds etc.) but it's hardly soul-crushing. Give me a girlfriend, a sense of purpose and a drive to do exam revision and I'd be golden.
I have enough money for the stuff I want and a good family. There's all the stuff that comes with being a uni student to drag me down (lots of work, massive loans, unsure of what the future holds etc.) but it's hardly soul-crushing. Give me a girlfriend, a sense of purpose and a drive to do exam revision and I'd be golden.
I don't think it is so black and white. I am personally happy about certain things and very unhappy about others. and depending on the day and circumstances depends on my happiness. overall I recognise I have a good life, but I still get upset. I would say somewhere in the middle. but that isn't necessarily a bad thing, sometimes unhappiness can help us push ourself to do better, if we are completely happy we would not try new things.
No, but not because I don't have things to keep me happy. I mean, I have a good home, with a good family, a great girlfriend, and I have pretty much anything I need to complete my gaming hobbies (Gaming PC, PS3, 3DS),
However, I feel like a burden, and not by choice.
I have no job, however I've been looking. Unfortunately, with no car of my own, and the only vehicle we have my mother needs to go to work, I need a job within reasonable walking distance. So far, I've applied to all those places with no luck.
I would have had a car, if my father didn't buy one, and then thought it would be a good idea to screw over the beginning of my life by selling it because "my grades weren't good enough in public school". Yeah, thanks dad. Seems reasonable. I'm doing poor in life, why not make it harder?
I'm just home all the time, hoping a job opportunity opens up so that I can apply for it, and then sit on my ass for a month or two seeing if they ever get back. So far, they haven't. So yeah, I'm not happy. I'm pretty depressed actually.
However, I feel like a burden, and not by choice.
I have no job, however I've been looking. Unfortunately, with no car of my own, and the only vehicle we have my mother needs to go to work, I need a job within reasonable walking distance. So far, I've applied to all those places with no luck.
I would have had a car, if my father didn't buy one, and then thought it would be a good idea to screw over the beginning of my life by selling it because "my grades weren't good enough in public school". Yeah, thanks dad. Seems reasonable. I'm doing poor in life, why not make it harder?
I'm just home all the time, hoping a job opportunity opens up so that I can apply for it, and then sit on my ass for a month or two seeing if they ever get back. So far, they haven't. So yeah, I'm not happy. I'm pretty depressed actually.
Sometimes. Until I actually think about the position I'm in in life. I'm at a shit university, I have no idea what I want to do with my life, few friends I feel I can really have a meaningful conversation with, and I'm really lonely, I feel like I desperately want a relationship but it's not going to happen.
That said, I'm still happy a lot of the time, I don't just sit there moping permanently. Until I get to really thinking about this stuff, I'm basically okay.
That said, I'm still happy a lot of the time, I don't just sit there moping permanently. Until I get to really thinking about this stuff, I'm basically okay.
Not really. This could get mopey.
My parents are supporting me, I'm in work and I have friends, but I'm not really happy. I shouldn't be living at home (I dropped out of university at the end of the first year), my job is terrible and I've always had a nagging suspicion that none of my friends really want me around very much (that may well be paranoia, but telling myself so doesn't really seem to help).
I haven't had a proper relationship in over a year- there's a really nice girl that I work with that seems pretty keen on me, but I don't really feel it and I have no idea how to go about telling her so. To be honest none of my relationships, including friends and family, have ever felt particularly close. There are absolutely no career options that I've come across that seem appealing and I have no idea what to do with my life.
What's really infuriating is that if I were anyone else I would be really enjoying life, the problem is just me being a dick.
My parents are supporting me, I'm in work and I have friends, but I'm not really happy. I shouldn't be living at home (I dropped out of university at the end of the first year), my job is terrible and I've always had a nagging suspicion that none of my friends really want me around very much (that may well be paranoia, but telling myself so doesn't really seem to help).
I haven't had a proper relationship in over a year- there's a really nice girl that I work with that seems pretty keen on me, but I don't really feel it and I have no idea how to go about telling her so. To be honest none of my relationships, including friends and family, have ever felt particularly close. There are absolutely no career options that I've come across that seem appealing and I have no idea what to do with my life.
I wouldn't call myself suicidal, but the idea of going to bed one day and just not waking up doesn't sound too bad. I flat-out hate myself- I do everything wrong, I have massive anxiety issues, I find it hard to trust people, I feel distant from everyone and I fucking suck. I try not to be, but I end up being far too dependant on others. I often think that it would be better for everyone if I had never been born.
Hey, you asked.
Hey, you asked.
What's really infuriating is that if I were anyone else I would be really enjoying life, the problem is just me being a dick.
I have absolutely no reason to be unhappy, not doing too badly at college, live with loving family etc., I only have 3 friends but that's about as many people as I can handle anyway (not a fan of people) but I am still one miserable little fucker. I think that's more to do with the fact that I know that I have a poor work ethic, I am lazy, I don't try when I do anything, and automatically dislike everything by default until proven otherwise. But its not that that bothers me, its the fact that despite this, and that I know that I am like this, but still I am not even thinking about changing. Did I mention that I am a dick to pretty much everyone for no reason. Ah well, fuck it, it'll be right.
Not really. Requesting permission to whine.
I'm 25 and I'm back to school again just to get my high school diploma. I was naïve enough to think that high school was beneath me and that I was smart enough without it. Now nearly a decade later, after dropping out of community college for much the same reasons, I'm back and have to jump through all the hoops one more time before I can even start to think about applying for the education that I really want.
I have no job or any other income, but have soon-to-be-doubled student loans to pay off. Because of that, I'm forced to live with my dad who's got Aspbergers and who-knows-what else, so he doesn't care about anyone but himself and everything about him irritates me until I'm close to breaking point.
I haven't had a girlfriend in over five years. I haven't even gotten laid in over two years.
The people I once thought of as my friends turned out not to be, so got none of those either. Erratic contact with the rest of my family, at best.
My social skills are non-existent, to put it mildly. The only contact I ever have with another human being is two-three times per year, when I meet up with a girl I once thought I was going to enter into a relationship with, until she chose someone else over me.
I've lost over half my bodyweight in the last six months (and I wasn't exactly what you'd call heavy before that) due to never having enough money to buy food to eat every day, so I look like a skeleton.
Think that's about it, in a nutshell...
But at least I have somewhere to put my head at night with a roof over my head and I'm not fat, so I got that going for me, which is nice I guess...
I'm 25 and I'm back to school again just to get my high school diploma. I was naïve enough to think that high school was beneath me and that I was smart enough without it. Now nearly a decade later, after dropping out of community college for much the same reasons, I'm back and have to jump through all the hoops one more time before I can even start to think about applying for the education that I really want.
I have no job or any other income, but have soon-to-be-doubled student loans to pay off. Because of that, I'm forced to live with my dad who's got Aspbergers and who-knows-what else, so he doesn't care about anyone but himself and everything about him irritates me until I'm close to breaking point.
I haven't had a girlfriend in over five years. I haven't even gotten laid in over two years.
The people I once thought of as my friends turned out not to be, so got none of those either. Erratic contact with the rest of my family, at best.
My social skills are non-existent, to put it mildly. The only contact I ever have with another human being is two-three times per year, when I meet up with a girl I once thought I was going to enter into a relationship with, until she chose someone else over me.
I've lost over half my bodyweight in the last six months (and I wasn't exactly what you'd call heavy before that) due to never having enough money to buy food to eat every day, so I look like a skeleton.
Think that's about it, in a nutshell...
But at least I have somewhere to put my head at night with a roof over my head and I'm not fat, so I got that going for me, which is nice I guess...
Not particularly, no. I'm smart enough to understand that my life is going nowhere in any meaningful sense. I will most likely spending the rest of my life alone working some menial job I'm way overqualified for so that I can scratch together a living with which I can feed myself. All so that I can continue to work at my menial job without so much as a girl to make life any less monotonous and draining.
I'm relatively happy.
Edit: would agree with the idea that in many people it's possible to "work towards" happiness but that's more complicated and difficult than just having a better outlook
That doesn't mean someone can't be unhappy.SimpleThunda said:
Even the depressed have small moments of happiness or laughter but it doesn't affect the overall feeling they have towards life which forms the base of their emotions every day.SimpleThunda said:
Edit: would agree with the idea that in many people it's possible to "work towards" happiness but that's more complicated and difficult than just having a better outlook
Well, yes but I could be a little bit better. My debit card has expired and I do not have my new one yet, but sadly I owe ebay £3.16, which I do not have (I only have £2.11 in the bank) I'm probably going to get late fees and I have no idea how much those are. I don't have any money coming in, so when I get the new card I am probably going to have to ask my mother for a tenner. Which sucks because she's going to worry about me and give me more money than a tenner which I know she can't afford more than that right now. Until I get that new card I can't do a thing.
Other than that... I'm unemployed but I left university nearly 2 years ago now, it's been really hard finding a job. Going to sign up for jobseekers soon. I just want a job. Any job. But no.
Despite that I am happy. I'm not living with my parents anymore, though I miss my pets like crazy, I'm in a good relationship that has no issues. My boyfriend is wonderful, loving, caring, honest and we work fantastically together. He knows me better than I do sometimes. He changed my life for the better when I met him. I'm often reminded how I changed his life for the better too. Also my parents are extremely lovely, and were supportive of me moving out. They understood that I needed to, I needed my own space and my own independency. Though my brother and I are at odds because I spent Christmas with my boyfriend, for our first Christmas together (my family are in Kent, I'm in the Midlands) I did go and visit before Christmas, and I intend on being with them for Christmas this year. But he now disapproves of everything I do because of it. I keep being told it might be because he is jealous I moved out before him, he still lives with my parents, however I don't think that's the case. I think that would be far too petty to be true.
Other than that... I'm unemployed but I left university nearly 2 years ago now, it's been really hard finding a job. Going to sign up for jobseekers soon. I just want a job. Any job. But no.
Despite that I am happy. I'm not living with my parents anymore, though I miss my pets like crazy, I'm in a good relationship that has no issues. My boyfriend is wonderful, loving, caring, honest and we work fantastically together. He knows me better than I do sometimes. He changed my life for the better when I met him. I'm often reminded how I changed his life for the better too. Also my parents are extremely lovely, and were supportive of me moving out. They understood that I needed to, I needed my own space and my own independency. Though my brother and I are at odds because I spent Christmas with my boyfriend, for our first Christmas together (my family are in Kent, I'm in the Midlands) I did go and visit before Christmas, and I intend on being with them for Christmas this year. But he now disapproves of everything I do because of it. I keep being told it might be because he is jealous I moved out before him, he still lives with my parents, however I don't think that's the case. I think that would be far too petty to be true.
Yes, I am happy. Knock on wood!
I think that what makes me happy is that I have people I love and who love me back. I don't like to worry much about work or uni and I try to accomplish things at my own pace. Like Maurice Chevalier said: "Dans la vie faut pas s'en faire!"
I think that what makes me happy is that I have people I love and who love me back. I don't like to worry much about work or uni and I try to accomplish things at my own pace. Like Maurice Chevalier said: "Dans la vie faut pas s'en faire!"