This is less fucked up than chronically attracting women who just want to have babies with superior genes.
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Throw me in the attracts neither sex column, then again, I don't think I've ever met another gay guy...
Actually... I'm bisexual and I attract asexual people. I've been asked if I'd consider going out with them or entertaining a romantic (but non-physical) relationship. It's very strange for me, especially since I'm an overtly sexual person. So I understand the feeling, even if the problem is more expectations than genderGlass Joe the Champ said:
Plus, when I thought I was straight, other girls asked me out constantly. So many opportunities passed by thanks to ignorance...
I'm gay but i get a lot of attention from women and barely any from guys... In my opinion women are a lot more determined with their pursuit than men
Anyone else not sure if they attract others? I think that I do, but I don't usually get confirmation of that. Sometimes I get the feeling people are a little afraid to approach me because I either put off an air of confidence or one of "leave me alone." Quiet for the most part and not terribly outgoing, I often find it takes longer for other to get to know me.
I've had that issue before...it happens to a lot of men that aren't aggressive in demeanor or convey a lot of confidence all the time, so they're perceived as being "submissive" or "effeminate", and therefore, in the eyes of the unobservant or ignorant, "gay".
Just politely say "Sorry man, I'm straight but thanks for the compliment" and keep on truckin'. Eventually everyone'll get the message.
Just politely say "Sorry man, I'm straight but thanks for the compliment" and keep on truckin'. Eventually everyone'll get the message
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I have this problem all of the time, only in reverse. I'm a gay girl, and I keep attracting guys. Guys that know that I'm gay. I had a male stalker in high school that carved my name into his arm with a knife. Another guy in high school fell in love with me. One of my male friends in college asked me out, knowing that I'm gay. Another male friend in college asked me to be his fuck-buddy.
What the hell? I'm not even a lipstick lesbian. I'm scrawny and flat-chested, have super-short hair, tattoos, piercings, and usually am wearing a tank, ratty jeans, and steel-toed boots. And I smoke. I do not understand.
That said, I've never had any trouble attracting girls either, thankfully. My "straight" Catholic roommate in college fell for me, even. Us dating made things awkward for our other roommate in our triple who also happened to be Catholic, though. xD
What the hell? I'm not even a lipstick lesbian. I'm scrawny and flat-chested, have super-short hair, tattoos, piercings, and usually am wearing a tank, ratty jeans, and steel-toed boots. And I smoke. I do not understand.
That said, I've never had any trouble attracting girls either, thankfully. My "straight" Catholic roommate in college fell for me, even. Us dating made things awkward for our other roommate in our triple who also happened to be Catholic, though. xD
Well at least that one is easy to explain. Men are attracted to anything with breasts.Firia said:
On topic, can't say I've ever been hit on by gay guys. I do occasionally get asked out by girls though. Maybe I just look straight...?
Asking me that I attract the wrong GENDER (U mad bro?) implies that I am attractive, which I'm sure I'm not.
This is alright though, I try to resist my heterosexual lust and try to remain as asexual as possible. Yeah I don't like people. *shrugs*
This is alright though, I try to resist my heterosexual lust and try to remain as asexual as possible. Yeah I don't like people. *shrugs*
I wound not say I attract them per se, but I have had gay men hit on me in the past. To be honest I find it quite flattering. I gently turn them down, much in the same way I would turn down a woman that I was not interested in.
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Have you tried analyzing where you are getting hit on most often? Rather than it being a function of putting off the wrong vibe or acting like a beta male, maybe the areas you are hanging around in just have a higher ratio of gay men than other areas.
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Have you tried analyzing where you are getting hit on most often? Rather than it being a function of putting off the wrong vibe or acting like a beta male, maybe the areas you are hanging around in just have a higher ratio of gay men than other areas.
Thank you! (I'm actually doing introductory anthropology as an elective this semester, so I know what you mean. Heck, I did my tutorial presentation on the topic) I was going to say this, but I was beaten to it (took longer than I thought for someone to bring it up actually).RJ Dalton said:
OT: I've attracted all of one person in my near-18 years. I am an asexual (by default; for now I'm pegging it up to being a late bloomer to the sex-drive game) so you'd imagine there isn't a 'right' sex, but really, I'd just take it as a compliment. So I've had one person be attracted to me (we are friends, I talked about it with her then we went on being friends) and while it wasn't the right sex, I don't consider it the wrong sex.
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How did they go about it? If I don't start becoming more sexual (as in, if I am actually asexual, and not just a late bloomer) I may need to learn how to do it, and it isn't like I'm you, with asexuals throwing themselves at me.dorkette1990 said:
Trust me you attract both equally just that girls will almost never show it because there is still that whole social stigma of "guy hasto do the work".
So while dudes will come up to me and actually put some effort into flirting the max I get from a girl is a "hi", on a good day maybe even a name, and then she will wait for me to do the bloody work for her... fun times.
So while dudes will come up to me and actually put some effort into flirting the max I get from a girl is a "hi", on a good day maybe even a name, and then she will wait for me to do the bloody work for her... fun times.
Happens frequently, actually! I typically just take the gesture(s) as a compliment, but let the other party know that I'm not interested whatsoever. If you just do it politely, and let him/her know that you appreciate it, it normally ends well. Oh, and give them a smile while you do it.Glass Joe the Champ said:
my friend who is gay says im hot in my head that makes me think that im the best dressed guy who doesnt want a girlfriend in the world
My brother attracts a lot of guys- he's pretty metrosexual, though, so I can see why they'd make that mistake.
As for myself- I mostly attract guys, it seems, but I do get female attention on occasion. It usually just ends up with me politely mentioning that I'm not interested, and then all is well.
As for myself- I mostly attract guys, it seems, but I do get female attention on occasion. It usually just ends up with me politely mentioning that I'm not interested, and then all is well.
I don't attract the 'wrong' gender. There is no 'wrong' gender for me. I don't generally attract many people though. At least not with looks.
Plus, even when I wasn't into guys, I always figured that if one hit on me, I'd at least take it as a complement to my looks.
Plus, even when I wasn't into guys, I always figured that if one hit on me, I'd at least take it as a complement to my looks.
I guess I feel a little better knowing that other people have been hit on by a gender they aren't that attracted too. I guess I fit more into the Betamale type to and working at Starbucks definitely didn't help the situation. Although one time I was actually asked out by my flamboyantly gay housemate and that was probably the most awkward let down I've given anybody. In retrospect though, I think I've had a few females hit on me also but I believe I was too naive to really look that much into it at the time.